In the drama "Ode to Joy", who is the most poignant among the five girls? Most viewers would probably say Fan Shengmei. She was born into a patriarchal family, and her parents used her as a cash cow to help with anything. As a result, although Fan Shengmei has worked in Shanghai for many years, she still lives in a boarding house, has no savings, does not dare to spend, and even sacrifices herself to solve her family's problems.
At first, I thought so too, but after reading the original book of "Ode to Joy", I found that from the ending, the saddest thing was not Fan Shengmei, but Qiu Yingying. Why?
In the original book, although Fan Shengmei's family is still in chaos, she has gradually learned to deal with her relationship with her family, no longer giving unconditionally to her family, and no longer asking for help for her family. She changed jobs, slowly had her own savings, and began to know how to love herself and enjoy life.
When Qiu Yingying moved out of Ode to Joy, Fan Shengmei moved into her room as soon as possible, and finally felt the warmth of the sun shining in the room for many years. Instead of trying to rely on a man or marriage to change her fate, she feels that it is good to live a good life on her own. Towards the end of the original book, Fan Shengmei was favored by Lawyer Cao, and Lawyer Cao took the initiative to hand her a business card with his *** on it, however, Fan Shengmei did not accept Lawyer Cao's invitation.
It is described in the original book: In the past, Fan Shengmei would be excited when she heard such an opportunity, but this time she was not so excited, and she even didn't want to be disturbed. From these details of the ending of the original book, we can see that although Fan Shengmei's family is still a mess, she has gradually moved from her previous state of dependence on others to independence. I believe that even in a bad family environment, she will not have a bad time, because a woman's greatest sense of security comes from herself.
In contrast, Qiu Yingying moved from independence to dependence. In the original book, Qiu Yingying originally had her own job and worked hard, but quit her job before marrying Ying Qin. In the original book, it is written: "Sure enough, resigning will only make it much easier, otherwise it will not be so smooth to negotiate the wedding banquet with the hotel, and I have enough time to grind with the hotel." "What does it mean for Qiu Yingying to quit her job? It means that she began to rely on a diligent life after marriage and became a full-time housewife, which is not a good start.
After all, it is risky to live entirely on one man in marriage, although there are some good men who are able to treat women wholeheartedly and are willing to pay for them. But obviously, Ying Qin is not such a man, I wrote before that he is a complete selfishist, he will go back to Qiu Yingying to marry, but compared to his later fiancée, Qiu Yingying is more cost-effective and cost-effective.
Even Fan Shengmei, who had always wanted to cling to a man, expressed concern about Qiu Yingying's resignation. There is such a description in the original book: "Fan Shengmei was very surprised to hear the news and resigned? As a senior HR professional, she immediately thought of many consequences. Who would dare to hire a newlywed woman these days who doesn't have a lot of outstanding abilities? This group usually means long periods of pregnancy, maternity leave, lactation, and lack of sleep, with a reduced IQ. Fan Shengmei can almost ** that Qiu Yingying will find it difficult to find a job again for at least two or three years. ”
When Ying Qin gradually felt that it was very hard for him to earn money to support his family, and Qiu Yingying not only did not earn money, but also spent money, and could not handle things well, would the smart Ying Qin still treat Qiu Yingying as well as before? Probably not, because many men's attitudes change from "I raised you" to "I raised you" when faced with their own wives who don't work.
In addition, Ying Dili's parents are not optimistic about Qiu Yingying, and Qiu Yingying maintains this marriage by constantly lowering her requirements. It is conceivable that if Qiu Yingying faces the neglect of Ying Qin and the difficulties of her in-laws after marriage, and she cannot make wise decisions, then her life will be difficult and pathetic. In reality, such examples abound, so I will not repeat them.
In the final analysis, a woman's confidence in marriage comes from herself. As Liu Xiaoyan said: "Don't give up yourself for anyone in this life." "Because one day, when the passion of marriage passes, life will become dull, and it is often said that the shelf life of marriage is only three years at most. When life is on track, the most important thing for us is to be strong and not dependent on others. I would like to share this passage with you and encourage you.
I believe that in this "Ode to Joy", we have a deeper thinking about the fate orientation of Fan Shengmei and Qiu Yingying. Fan Shengmei gradually became independent and learned to fight for her own happiness, while Qiu Yingying fell into the quagmire of attachment.
Women's independence is not only economic independence, but also a spiritual independence. Fan Shengmei's performance in the play tells us that no matter how difficult the living environment is, women can still find their place and realize the value of life through unremitting efforts. In contrast, Qiu Yingying's choice is obviously a kind of dependence, and even a contempt for her own value.
Marriage is a major event in life, and when choosing marriage, women should remain rational and protect their independence. Qiu Yingying quit her job before getting married, seemingly for the sake of her family, but she may have inadvertently lost her independence. In life, if a woman is too dependent on her husband, she may not only lose the opportunity to make her own choice, but also face various difficulties after marriage.
Fan's transformation in the play shows that women are not destined to be passive, and through continuous efforts, she has found her own way of life. In contrast, Qiu Yingying's married life may not be as she hoped. Not only did her decisions cost her a career opportunity, but they could also land her in an unhealthy relationship of dependency in her marriage.
A woman's independence is not only responsible for herself, but also responsible for her family. Fan Shengmei's independent attitude has changed her family atmosphere to a certain extent, allowing her to better face the pressures of life. And Qiu Yingying's attachment may make her lose her voice in marriage, and all aspects of her life are controlled by others.
In real life, there are many women who gradually lose their pursuit of themselves after marriage and focus all their energy on the family. This may be able to maintain family harmony in the short term, but in the long run, it may lead to the marginalization of individual women's values. Marriage should not be a reason for women to give up their independence, but rather an opportunity to grow together and pursue happiness together.
Through the comparison of the two female figures in "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei and Qiu Yingying, we have a deeper understanding of the impact of women's choices and attitudes in marriage on individual destiny. Emphasizing women's independence does not mean to reject marriage, but to maintain their own independent thinking and values in marriage, and jointly build an equal and harmonious family.
Finally, let us quote Liu Xiaoyan's words and share them with all women: Don't give up yourself for anyone in this life. Because it is only while remaining independent that women can truly find joy and happiness in life. May every woman be more determined and confident on the road to happiness.