An elderly couple in Liaoning Province will set an extra pair of dishes and chopsticks at the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner every year, which is to miss their only daughter. Many people mistakenly think that their daughter has died, but the reality is that their daughter went to study in Germany in 2000 with 70,000 yuan borrowed from her parents, and never returned.
The elderly couple have been separated for more than 20 years without any contact during this time. In 2020, they are all suffering from cancer and dying, and their only wish is to know how their daughter is doing now.
They asked ** for help, just hoping to meet their daughter at the end of their lives, not to support the elderly, but to see her and know that she was doing well.
With the support of "Liaoning Evening News" and many netizens, they quickly recovered their missing daughter Cao Qian. However, when they learned the truth, the couple, who had been waiting for their daughter for more than 20 years, encountered a cruel reality.
According to people familiar with the matter, Cao Qian has changed her name, started her own family, and worked as a tenured professor at a well-known university in Germany, enjoying a respected and worry-free life.
So, what did Cao Qian go through? Why did she turn a blind eye to her parents' expectations and expectations for more than 20 years, and didn't even send a single message, making her parents think that she was no longer alive?
Reunion Day, Spoil Your Daughter to the Sky It is another year of reunion day, and countless people who are busy outside can finally go home to accompany and honor their parents who have not seen each other for a long time. "Reunion" is the theme of this time, a netizen went to pick up the mother who was working alone outside to go home for the New Year, and when the mother saw her daughter, she was as happy as a child.
This scene deeply touched many people.
Warm family reunions have touched countless people, but for some families, it is a luxury that cannot be attained. Cao Zhaogang and his wife, living in Liaoning, once dreamed of such a touching reunion, but until the day they died, this dream was still not realized.
In 1979, Cao Zhaogang and Liu Yuhong welcomed their first child, a lovely girl, in Lushun District, Dalian City, Liaoning Province. The couple is over 30 years old, which can be regarded as late marriage and late childbearing, but they do not have a patriarchal mentality.
They cherish this child very much, both male and female. Although they are not very literate, they still struggle to come up with a wonderful name for their daughter, Cao Qian.
Cao Zhaogang and his wife firmly believe that the girl is not a money-losing goods, but a treasure of the family. They have created the best environment for their daughter Cao Qian to grow up, and despite financial constraints, they ensure that her meat, eggs and milk ** are guaranteed every day, so that her daughter can concentrate on studying.
The housework and farm work are undertaken by Cao Zhaogang and his wife, creating a carefree learning environment for their daughter.
Cao Zhaogang and Liu Yuhong are authentic farmers, they have spent half their lives working hard in the fields, and they know the hardships and difficulties of this job. In order to prevent their daughter from living this kind of "facing the loess with her back to the sky", they attached great importance to Cao Qian's learning.
Cao Qian also did not live up to her parents' expectations, from elementary school to high school, she has achieved many excellent results, and she has won trophies and certificates. Whenever they see their daughter returning with honor, Cao Zhaogang and Liu Yuhong will be so happy that they can't keep their mouths together.
After the college entrance examination, Cao Qian faced an important decision to fill in the volunteers, which made some cracks in the originally warm parent-child relationship. Although Cao Qian scored well in the college entrance examination and was admitted to a first-tier university, she had the idea of applying for Southern University.
Her original intention is twofold: first, she wants to go to the big cities in the south to see and experience the prosperity there; The second is that her parents' excessive love makes her feel pressured, and even has the idea of escaping.
Although this has had a certain impact on the mother-daughter relationship, Cao Qian still hopes to be able to make her own choices and pursue her dreams.
After Cao Qian was born, Cao Zhaogang and his wife have always regarded her as a treasure and cared for her in every way, how could she go to the south alone to study? When filling in the volunteers, the father and daughter had a fierce conflict, and Cao Zhaogang, who had never lost his temper with his daughter in the past, also fought with his daughter this time.
In the end, neither side was able to convince the other and decided to take a step back. Cao Qian filled in the first two choices in the southern university, and the last one filled in Liaoning Normal University.
Cao Qian is full of expectations, with a two-thirds probability of admission and an ideal aspiration, she firmly believes that she will be able to enter a university in the south as she wishes. However, fate seems to have played a joke on them, and Cao Qian's first two applications were rejected and replaced with an acceptance letter from Liaoning Normal University.
This made Cao Zhaogang and his wife ecstatic, but Cao Qian felt a wave of grievance and anger welling up in her heart, and her desire to escape became even more intense.
Second, the parents did everything they had to send their daughter to Germany to study, and the result was sad. The decision to volunteer for the college entrance examination became a deep guilt in Cao Qian's heart for her parents, so she rarely contacted her family during college, and her relationship with her parents became increasingly estranged.
Every time Cao Qian called ** and went home, it was because the living expenses were sold out, but whenever her parents wanted to ask her about her life and study, she always hung up after a few perfunctory words.
Although the couple were a little dissatisfied, they were very pleased that Cao Qian's grades in college were still excellent.
Cao Qian's dream of studying abroad had already sprouted in college, and when she was about to graduate, the domestic study abroad boom was reaching its peak. However, the study abroad agency told her that in order to realize her desire to study in Germany, she needed to prepare a fee of 70,000 yuan.
For Chinese residents in 2000, the per capita disposable income was only 140,000 yuan, not to mention Cao Qian, who has no income, she can only ask her family for help again.
Cao Zhaogang and his wife resolutely opposed Cao Qian to study in a foreign country, and they were reluctant to give up, after all, the family conditions were limited. However, Cao Qian insisted on studying abroad, which made the relationship between her parents and daughter more and more stiff.
In the end, after thinking about it for a long time, the parents decided to respect their daughter's choice and let her pursue a better development. They understand that parents cannot hinder their children's growth, despite the reluctance and worry in their hearts.
Their support is selfless, Cao Zhaogang and his wife did everything they could, rummaged through the cabinets to find more than 10,000 deposits, and borrowed 60,000 from relatives.
However, when they handed over the more than 70,000 yuan to their daughter, they didn't get any response, not even a word of thanks. What they didn't expect was that this became the last time they met their daughter.
In 2000, Cao Qian went to study at the University of Hamburg in Germany. However, due to the need to learn German for 2 years, she had to spend a lot of tuition fees for it, and eventually exhausted her budget of more than 70,000 yuan.
Although she did a work-study program in Germany, the income was still not enough to cover her study abroad expenses. In desperation, she had to ask her parents for help again. A total of 330,000 yuan, most of this money was borrowed by Cao Zhaogang from relatives and friends around him.
For their daughter's study abroad, their family is already in debt.
Cao Qian, like when she was in college, rarely contacted her family, and has only sent back two letters in the past three years, both asking for money. Every time she wrote a letter, Cao Qian didn't mention anything about her family, only cared about how much money she wanted.
Although Cao Zhaogang and his wife love their daughter deeply, they are a little dissatisfied with her behavior. In 2003, Cao Qian, who hadn't contacted her family for 10 months, called ** home to ask for money, and Cao Zhaogang couldn't help yelling at her this time: "I know that I want money, money, money!" ”
After Cao Qian heard this, she decisively hung up**, and this ** became the last communication between Cao Zhaogang and his daughter. At first, Cao Zhaogang, who was hung up**, regretted his impulsive behavior very much, but he couldn't contact his daughter anymore, so he could only wait for his daughter to apologize the next time he hit **.
However, what Cao Zhaogang didn't expect was that a month, half a year, or even a year had passed, and his daughter still hadn't called a ** to the family, even if he took the initiative to call** and write a letter to contact, he never got a response, like a stone sinking into the sea.
Cao Zhaogang's daughter Cao Qian has a good life and career in Germany, but her parents are suffering from cancer for a short time, and the couple have tried their best to contact her, let alone hope that she will go home.
In desperation, they asked for help, hoping to find their daughter with the help of the country. After the joint efforts of *** and the consulate in Hamburg, Germany, Cao Qian's residence was finally found, and through communication, she learned that she was safe and sound.
Although the parents felt comforted to learn the news of their daughter, they still felt great pain and grief when they saw that she was unwilling to see them and refused to communicate.
Cao Zhaogang paid a huge price for his daughter to study abroad, not only spent all the family's savings, but also owed a foreign debt. Although he was still able to do some odd jobs to earn money when he was young, as he grew older, he could only live on a subsistence allowance of 515 yuan per month.
To make matters worse, because their daughter is still alive, they are unable to apply for special assistance for the death of their only child, which makes their living situation almost indistinguishable from having no daughter.
Cao Zhaogang and Liu Yuhong, a couple who used to work hard and love each other deeply, because of long-term hard work and longing, their health deteriorated, and they were eventually plagued by kidney cancer and breast cancer.
At the end of their lives, what they miss most is not their illness, but their daughter Cao Qian, whom they haven't seen for 20 years. However, their daughter in Germany has moved, and they can't find her***, which makes them feel deeply helpless and regretful.
In 2020, Cao Zhaogang and his wife, who have little time to do, are trying to find their missing daughter Cao Qian. After the report of "Liaoning Evening News", Cao Qian's whereabouts finally surfaced.
It turned out that after graduating, Dr. Cao Qian changed her name and surname, successfully integrated into the local society, and became a tenured professor at the University of Munich, and has married and had children. Surprisingly, Cao Qian returned to China once in 2004, but did not return home to visit her parents, and Cao Zhaogang and his wife did not know about it.
No matter how much they searched, Cao Qian didn't want to go home to see them for the last time. Although they knew that the parents, who would soon die, were so eager for their daughter's dying wishes.
Unfortunately, Liu Yuhong passed away at the end of 2020, and a year later, Cao Zhaogang did not wait for his daughter to come back and passed away with regret. They don't understand what they're doing wrong, are they really not good enough as parents?
So much so that her daughter didn't even want to see them for the last time.
Family education is an esoteric science, and many Chinese parents are not good at it, and they often think that they can raise their children as long as they are given the best material things. However, the education of children is not only "raising", but also "nurturing", teaching them the wisdom of life, and shaping their excellent qualities.
Excessive spoiling will only bring harm, hurt the child, and hurt yourself.