Some people regard retirement as the second spring, and start the mode of walking the baby, traveling, and chasing dreams.
Some people retire and grow old quickly, doing nothing, but never being happy. The pension is less than others, the children are not angry, and the baby is too tired to walk, and I don't like dancing.
There are also people who do not retire all their lives, sighing all day long, because they have lost the opportunity to retire, because they do not have enough savings, because they have to go to work because they are dragging their tired bodies.
** Jia Gulong said: "In people's memories, time often flies quickly, so some lonely old people can only live in memories to spend a long and lonely old age." ”When a person is lonely, he is actually living in the past and has never gone out.
Obviously, when everyone gets old, they need to "say goodbye to the old and welcome the new", and not cry until today because they spilled the milk yesterday.
If you don't know how to refresh yourself, you will trap yourself.
Looking back, there are too many good things in life, and too many sad ones.
But, in the end, it's all over, and even if you try hard, you can't get it back.
As management thinker Zhang Ruimin said: "Yesterday's successful experience and brilliance may be an obstacle to tomorrow's success." ”To do things and live according to the inherent cognition, everything is familiar with everything, but it is incompatible with the times.
During the Northern Wei Dynasty, there was a general named Gu Bi, who fought in the east and west, and made great contributions.
He has also gone through several generations of emperors and is considered a veteran.
During the reign of Emperor Ming Yuan, he assisted meritoriously, and his official position was rising.
After Emperor Taiwu succeeded to the throne, he was upright and upright, and he could admonish at any time, and he could be tolerated and adopted.
One day, Emperor Taiwu was playing chess, and Gu Bi walked in and wanted to report to work. Out of politeness, Gu Bi waited for a while, but the game of chess was not over.
Gu Bi was in a hurry and beat the chess players around Emperor Taiwu.
Of course, Emperor Taiwu knew his character, so he smiled and said, "If you have any suggestions, please say." ”
Emperor Taiwu gave war horses to ordinary soldiers, but Gu Bi sent some very thin horses and said: "War horses are to protect the family and defend the country, how can they be given away?" ”
Emperor Taiwu sighed a lot and said, "You are really a virtuous minister. ”
In a flash, during the period of Emperor Wencheng, Gu Bi was still outspoken.
Emperor Wencheng was narrow-minded and intended to rectify a group of old ministers. After listening to Gu Bi's harsh words, he put him to death on the grounds of "bewitchment".
"The times want to abandon a person, and they won't even say hello. ”This sentence is very suitable for Gu Bi. He couldn't adapt to the times and kept working according to the old routine, so he lost his life.
In the scientific world, there is a word called:"Paradigm shift".
That is, a change in the basic theory to the fundamental assumptions. This change was later applied to a variety of other disciplines.A lot of experience, in the original social model, was successful; When social patterns change, experience becomes ineffective.
Take mobile phones and computers as an example, ten years ago, compared with today, it is really changing with each passing day. Elderly people who can't use smartphones are restricted everywhere.
Knowledge is not updated quickly, they are accustomed to doing things according to experience, and their cognition of the world stays at a certain level, combining into an invisible net, making themselves unable to move.
Learn to refresh yourself and be happy for the rest of your life.
Plato said, "Tomorrow will always be a miracle for the world." ”Life is endless, and progress is not endless. This is the way the elderly should live.
That is, if a person can't walk, he still has to change himself mentally, maintain a positive attitude, and the happiness index will still be raised.
The new doesn't come, the old doesn't go. It's a natural succession process. Don't deliberately give up the old things, but actively have new things, and you will live a smooth life every day.
First, refresh the concept and accept new things.
Don't complain about being smart here and smart there, but learn to be smart.In many places, special passages will be set up for the elderly, but the elderly should consciously use the normal passages.
As long as you keep learning, there is nothing you can't learn. You can't learn it once, you learn it a few more times.
To feel the way of life of young people, to know the diversity of the world, to integrate naturally into society, is to enjoy the fruits of social development.
Second, refresh social networking and reduce the posture of being a person.
Once in the workplace, you were dominant, and then you were an ordinary retiree.
Don't be arrogant just because others call you "what director, director". You should get used to having your name called.
Retirement not only means getting a pension, but also means that there is no place and no longer has a lot of use value.
People who have no value are no longer so lively, but they seem more real.
Third, refresh the family and reposition yourself.
When people are old, they are grandparents, what should they do? It should be thought through.
Help take care of the baby, go on a trip, take care of the children's business, and help the son's factory do something. It's all possible, but be sure to find your own niche.
The old man helps the younger generation, it is to help, not the protagonist.
In a large family, the elderly should take the initiative to give way, not be the chief manager, but also learn to accept the arrangements of their children.
Fourth, refresh your life and pay more attention to health.
Make your life more regular and not continue the "rush" at work.
You are no longer bound by time, and you are not allowed to accept invitations from acquaintances. Plan your time, exercise, eat three meals a day, maintain your health, and rest.
A regular life will make your life easier and your physical pleasure will be enhanced.
After living most of your life, you should learn how to please yourself.
"The Book of Rites and the University" has a saying: "Gou is new, every day is new, and every day is new." ”Society is changing, time is changing, people are getting older, and nothing will ever stay.
Don't stop, learn to move forward calmly.
I don't know what tomorrow will bring, but as long as you have hope in your heart, it will be bright.
In the mobile phone, every time it is refreshed, a lot of new content will pop up; In life, every time you refresh, there will be a lot of new atmosphere.
When we are young, we manage our wealth, and when we are old, we manage ourselves.