We sometimes do stupid things because our minds are immature or kind. Sometimes we do stupid things because we want to show off or be greedy. Whether you are stupid or stupid, you will cause harm and loss to yourself, and at worst you will bring danger.
If you believe".The gentleman is frank, and the villain is a relativeThis sentence will only make you more ignorant, because the real society is not black and white, and there will inevitably be darkness if there is light. It's the same with people, under certain conditions, a gentleman will do bad things that harm others and benefit himself, and villains will do good things that benefit others.
People who only know how to bury their heads in things must not be the opponents of those who know how to know human nature and play scheming。For example, the ancient strategists were able to play a martial artist in the palm of their hands. To behave in the world, the sense of self-protection must be strong. Only by studying human nature, understanding human nature, conforming to human nature, and making use of human nature, can we be able to meet the source and be comfortable in society.
In interpersonal communication, if you can do the following 7 points, it means that you have a very strong sense of self-protection and can be called a master of life!
It's dangerous to be sharp
There is a saying: ".The wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it; Walk above men, and the crowd will not”。Being a man is like hiding if you can hide it, and it is a smart move to restrain your sharpness and talents.
Your prominence will make your competitors defensive and get in the way. Be sure to suppress your desire to be expressive and don't show off for nothing. Even if you are extremely smart and talented, you must understand the wisdom of being wise and foolish, and clever and clumsy.
When the opportunity comes, make timely moves and quickly reveal your talents. You see, when cats catch mice or birds, they approach slowly and quietly, and then fly up and get it done with one claw!
, not the courage of the horseman
When you go out, if a stranger provokes you or bullies you, as long as it does not touch your bottom line and threaten your personal safety, you can let it go, because turning around is a stranger, and most of you will not see each other again in this life. The Kunshan Longge counter-murder incident is a typical lesson of recklessness.
In addition, when you go to the street to buy vegetables, don't get into an argument with the stall owners who sell pork and fish, because no one can predict what will happen in the next second.
See the essence through the phenomenon
1) The dog fights against people, not because the dog likes to bark, the real reason is because of the power and ferocity of the owner.
2) You think you are playing the piano to the cow, don't blame the cow for being stupid, but because the person is stupid and doesn't look at the object.
To be a good teacher is to show off
You are accustomed to taking the initiative to point out and give advice to others, but in the eyes of the other person, your kindness is a foil to the ignorance and incompetence of the other person. Instead of thanking you, the other person will hate you.
, envy, jealousy, hatred
1) The biggest evil of human nature is that you can't see that the people around you are better off than yourself, so don't show off in front of acquaintances in order to satisfy your vanity.
2) In the workplace, don't share the joy of your success with your colleagues unless you share the fruits of your success with them.
3) It is human nature to sympathize with the weak, so we must know how to cry poor and sell miserable. Don't show your superiority in front of anyone, whether it's looks or occupation, income, clothing, etc.
and put yourself in an advantageous position
A shrewd adult, whether he speaks or acts, must consider from the perspective of his own interests, rather than fairness and justice. For example, some overlord clauses made by one party to the contract, has he considered the feelings of the other party?
When the rules are in your favor, you emphasize the rules; When the facts are in your favor, you emphasize the facts; When the rules and facts are against you, muddy the waters so that you can fish in troubled waters.
Showing weakness is a kind of survival wisdom
As the saying goes", ".Longju was played with shrimp in shallow water, and the tiger fell in Pingyang and was bullied by dogsIt is impossible for a person to always have the upper hand, and to be competitive in everything and everywhere will only cause trouble for himself, which is a manifestation of lack of wisdom. Therefore, you must know how to show weakness, and when it is time to pretend to be a grandson, pretend to be a grandson.
The ancients said: ".When the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitivesDon't argue with others that don't involve issues of principle. You have won your friends, and your friendship has faded; You won the battle with your colleagues, and the jealousy came; You've won the lead, and the little shoes have arrived. Why bother?
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