The reason why they ask this question and feel that they are not happy with their lives is not only because we said before: "worry too much about others and care too little about themselves", but also because some poor people at the bottom like to complicate simple problems. For example, the essential problem between people is actually very simple. The essence of human relations is two words: interests. If you look at the world after understanding this truth, you will find that many things in the world will become much simpler and clearer. Don't talk about feelings, feelings, brothers, and isms. In these years, there are still few people who "talk about doctrine and have business in their hearts"? When we interact with anyone, we must give priority to talking about interests, and talk less or no about feelings. If you are an employee and make money by selling technology and labor, then you are relying on a little bit to find customers, find resources to connect with products to get promoted, and then get promoted and raised. Whether it is running business, brushing sales, rushing performance, project manager or administrator, these are the same. As long as you are limited by others and work for the boss, then just complete the task, don't put your life into it, and don't say any trash talk like "the company is my home, and my colleagues are my relatives and brothers". You work in the company, get along with your colleagues, and everyone gets together because of interests. You can't go to work just to make friends with "relatives and brothers". You come to work to make money, not to practice the garbage culture of "the company is my home". Some stupid dog leaders just like to open their mouths and close their mouths to describe a group of people who are just entangled in interests as "family brothers" to morally kidnap you. Not only do you have no ability, but it will also restrict your development, take up your time and force you to participate in garbage activities that waste your energy such as dinner and team building. Conversely, if you're the boss, you have to think about what to do if people can't get things done. You can't survive by relying solely on the people under you. You have to always think about mobilizing more people and introducing new employees who have been beaten with chicken blood and will work hard and stupidly. This way, you'll be well prepared to deal with situations where employees pick and leave. You have the perfect strategy to find new resources at any time, and you don't have to be kidnapped by employees because of some kind of affection. The boss gets along with the employees because of the interest relationship of salary, and there is no half-dime relationship with "the company is my home, and my colleagues are my relatives"; Students and teachers are happy because they have the interests of teaching, they have salaries, and how much money they are rewarded for being admitted has nothing to do with selfless dedication; Superiors and subordinates do not fight and are polite to each other because the officials crush people to death, and it has nothing to do with respecting their superiors. People who only talk about money and attach importance to interests are 11,000 times stronger than those who talk about feelings. I have said more than once in *** that the so-called relationship between low-level people who pay attention to maintenance is meaningless to say that it is meaningless, and people at low levels should take interests as the starting point to let themselves jump out of this low level. Earn more money, talk less about feelings, and don't be stupid enough to listen to what others say, "Talking about money hurts feelings." ”
You don't have the money to talk about any feelings?
Only when you have capital and confidence can someone be willing to talk to you about "feelings" at this time, and you are qualified to talk about "feelings" with others. Otherwise, you work hard to maintain the so-called relationship, and in the end no one will get good, because you don't have any value that others can use, and there is no point in saying two words verbally. Only when you are powerful, powerful, and have a place where others can take advantage of it, will others agree to you when you ask others for help. The so-called emotions of low-level people are often restricting human development. Others let you stay where you are, stay at the bottom, you know it's not right, but what you think in your heart is who he is or who you are, there is this kind of "affection" in it, out of some sad "moral heart", just listen, and this life is over. As a result, such a stupid dog has lived all his life without understanding why he is living so unhappily. At first, I was also a stupid dog idiot who valued feelings, and I did my best to do everything, and I poured out my heart and lungs, but in exchange for all I got was ridicule and spitting from low-level garbage people and their trampling, they would only treat your sincerity as garbage, and discard it after use, and never look back. And I'm still stupidly waiting for others to be kind to me in the same way, to repay me. Later, I realized that after digging out the heart and lungs, the person will die, and there will be no existence, and if you give your heart and lungs to others, then your life will be meaningless. If you talk about feelings as soon as you interact with people, you will find that you are often the one who is hurt to the end. Whether it is in the workplace or in communication, without exception, digging out the heart and lungs is a complete fool. The more powerful the player, the more you know how to grasp human nature and poke at your weaknesses and pain points. When you think that the interaction between people is to pour out your heart and lungs, treat others sincerely, and comfort yourself with the so-called character and noble spirit, you have already lived as the most pathetic and pitiful person in the world.
People to people, there are two chances to be strangers. For the first time, exactly, not to become, but to be born. The second time is to actively choose to be a stranger. And this time, seriously.
If you offend anyone, you will not be happy. Please think so, we won't live forever anyway, sooner or later, we will never see each other soon.