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American writer Marshall said
"If you want to live a miserable life, compare yourself to others. ”
The stupidest thing a person can do, or the most unfortunate thing he can live, is to benchmark everything he has against others.
Then, base your happiness entirely on comparing yourself with others.
People who are living worse and worse, people who are living more and more miserable, without exception, are all because they like to compare themselves with others too much.
Don't look up to others and step on yourself
You will find that the more a person compares endlessly, the more he can't stop competing, not only can he not let himself grow, but it is easy to make himself feel exhausted.
In the same way, if a person feels that he is inferior to others in his heart, then even if he is successful, he will still think that he is more successful than others.
In this way, in the process of repetition, they will constantly squeeze themselves, and when they become a tool, they will work non-stop, just to be able to win over others.
Host Mader said:
"You always look up to people who are better than you, but you forget that you are also being looked up to by a group of people.
In fact, everyone can be happy, but your happiness is often felt in the hearts of others. ”
In this world, no matter how good you are, if you are not satisfied and still look up to others, you will only live more and more ridiculously.
People who don't even know how to treat themselves well can no longer live well in life, and people who always think that they are better than others in everything will only let themselves fall into endless consumption.
In fact, the happiness you want is very simple, as long as you feel satisfied, you are not allowed to compare with others, let alone step on yourself.
In this way, recognize your position, correct your thoughts, stabilize your mentality, and don't be miserable.
You must know that people live in the world, there are always some people who live worse than you, and there are always some people who live better than you.
Don't compare this, don't compare that, let yourself relax, don't think nonsense, live a good life in the moment, and slowly you will be able to experience the beauty and happiness of the moment.
Between people, joys and sorrows are different
Not all fish live in the same area.
In the same way, not all people can talk to each other, or be able to get along forever.
After all, everyone has their own preferences, interests, and dislikes.
It's like everyone's three views are different, even if they are twins, when they grow up, they all have their own different preferences and choices.
Therefore, the joys and sorrows between people are not connected.
This also dooms each of us, in fact, life is a more private thing, but also a more lonely thing.
However, there is always such a type of person, in order to brush up on their sense of existence, in order to make themselves more face-saving, and even to win the respect and admiration of others.
As a result, he always uses all kinds of means behind his back to prove his importance, and even often falls into a kind of blind comparison in ignorance.
In the end, take your own shortcomings, compare the strengths of others, take your own shortcomings, and challenge the strengths of others.
In this way, you will only plunge yourself into more troubles and pain.
Carnegie said in The Weakness of Human Nature:
"Too many overwhelmed lives come from our blind comparison, we can't see our strengths, and we just feel that we are worthless. ”
Refuse to blindly compare, or even quit comparison, to find your own strengths and see your own advantages.
Then, give full play to your abilities and improve your level, and finally be able to improve yourself and strengthen yourself wholeheartedly in the process of focusing on self-growth.
A kind of wisdom is not worse than miserable
If people are always comparing, always comparing, they will only make themselves more and more miserable in the end.
Because in the process of comparison and comparison, it is not only your own time that is wasted, but also your own energy.
If you are always consumed by things that have no value and no meaning, then you will only slide into a passive, painful situation.
Eventually, we stopped growing, we didn't make progress, and we wasted our time.
You must know that in this life, the biggest enemy is actually yourself.
Therefore, instead of comparing with others, or even comparing them to others, it is better to restrain yourself, wake yourself up, and improve yourself.
In real life, follow your own footsteps, follow your own principles, and polish yourself in obscurity.
In the end, we can rely on our own wisdom and ability to move towards a better tomorrow step by step.