The dilemma of wife shortage in rural areas, why do a few men become singles , and how should far

Mondo Three rural Updated on 2024-02-16

Currently,The pace of China's urbanization is gradually acceleratingSocial changes have also led to a variety of strange problems, such as the emergence of young people in rural areas who cannot find their daughters-in-law"Wife shortage".Phenomenon.

In addition to this problem, many strange phenomena have also appeared in rural areasEven these strange phenomena are more troubling than the "wife shortage".

So what are the strange phenomena in the countryside? How did these strange phenomena appear?

The so-called "wife shortage" means that you can't marry a daughter-in-law, especially in rural areasIt is very difficult for young men to get married, and there are many bachelors.

We all know that the older you get, the older you get, the harder it is to find the right matchIn rural areas, bachelors over the age of 35 are likely to be singles for life.

There are many reasons for this phenomenon, according to the tradition of the ChineseMarriage requires a bride price to the woman, and after the changes of the times, the bride price is also increasing.

Especially now,If a rural guy wants to successfully marry a daughter-in-law, the bride price must cost at least hundreds of thousands, and in some areas, the bride price is even as high as hundreds of thousands.

But many rural families are in average conditions, and it is impossible to come up with so much money at once, except for the bride priceMany places will also require the man to buy a house in the county.

We all know that house prices are inflated right nowEven if it is a house in the county seat, it will cost at least five or six hundred thousand yuan to get a set, which invisibly increases the difficulty of a rural guy marrying a wife.

In addition to the bride price,The imbalance between men and women in rural areas is also an important reasonIn the first decade of the last century, China's family planning policy began to be fully implemented.

At that time, the state has always encouraged a family to have only one good, butIn most rural areas, patriarchal ideology is particularly severeSo as soon as you are pregnant, the first thing you need to do is to go to the hospital to check the sex of your child.

If you're pregnant with a boy, you're sure to stay, but if you're pregnant with a girl, you'll be decisively killed, soIn that period of one or two decades, there was a serious imbalance in the ratio of births between men and women in China's rural areas.

Nowadays,China's population is as high as 1.4 billion, but the male population is more than 30 million more than the female populationYou must know that this is a census for the entire age group, and the male population is so much more than the female population, so the gap between the number of men and women of marriageable age is definitely more than 30 million.

In this case,If a young man in the countryside wants to marry a daughter-in-law, the difficulty is not ordinaryWe can see this from the short ** that when a girl reaches the age of marriage, the handsome descendants of ten miles and eight villages are basically queuing up to go to the girl's house for a blind date.

In addition to the imbalance in the ratio of men and women, the marriage requirements for girls are also relatively high, not to mention the economic situation of boys, whether the two are at the same latitude, also determines the probability of successful blind dates for boys.

So like in the movie:Lao Xu, if you want your wife not to have this stalk, it is impossible to achieve it now.

Finally, that isNowadays, young people are generally afraid of marriage, and they would rather be single forever than dare to try married life easilyThe reason for this is that the divorce rate in our country continues to rise.

Even those young guys with good conditions and successful careers do not dare to get married easily, the current times are changing too fast, and many people are difficult to adapt, even if they have a good relationship, after getting married, it is difficult to escape from the breakdown of the relationship, and finally divorce.

Now the living conditions are better, so the average life expectancy in our country has also generally increasedIt is said that there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure, for a family, the old man is like the family's Dinghai Shen Needle, there isThey are there, and there is a strong cohesion in this big family.

But for today's young people, especially the post-80s and 90sThe burden of life is much greater than that of our parentsThis is because this generation is generally an only child.

It is for this reason that after this generation gets married, it meansBoth parents need to be supported by bothIn addition to the four old people, there are also children, and we all know the current education situation, the involution is particularly serious, and the education of children and the medical care of the elderly have caused young people to dare not have any slack in life.

So in order to make the family have a better life,A lot of young people are busy outside all year round, and people in the city are fine, and their parents basically have pensions.

But the elderly in rural areas basically do not have pensionsWhen they were young, they made a living by farming, facing the loess with their backs to the sky, and worked hard to raise their children, provide them with education, and let them marry wives.

When the child is at the age of **, it is impossible to support the family by relying on the family's one-third of an acre of landTherefore, many young people in rural areas, as soon as the Chinese New Year is over, will carry large bags of luggage and go to big cities to look for jobs.

Compared with rural areas, there are indeed more opportunities in big citiesAnd the salary package in the urban area is also better than the salary in their own county.

Except for the comfort of a slow life, there is basically no comparison between rural and urban areas, so many young people go to the city every year to develop.

Even if some young people do not develop well in the city and do not meet their ideal expectations, they will not consider returning to the countryside and living on the one-third of an acre of land at home.

The young people have gone to work in the city, and there are no old people left in the countryside, and with the passage of timeMany young people gradually gained a foothold in the city and bought their own houses.

That way they'll go home less oftenAfter gaining a firm foothold, some people also thought about taking their parents to the big city to enjoy the blessings, but the old people are relatively old and cannot adapt to the fast-paced life in the city, so they can only refuse.

And most of the elderly have also considered that they now have hands and feet, and they can also find a job in the city to help their children reduce the burden of life.

But many people find that when they go to big cities, they find thatAt their age, they basically can't find a job, and even if they stay at home to help their children take care of the baby, they will be disliked by their daughters-in-law, so they can only be forced to return to the countryside.

Over time, more and more young people are leaving their hometowns and heading to big cities for developmentBecause of age, personality, physical and other factors, the elderly can only stay in the countryside.

Over time, the phenomenon of empty nesters in rural areas has become more and more seriousIn fact, many young people are not homesick, but because of the burden on their backs, they can't go home.

And the elderly living in rural areas also know the pressure on their children, so they also think that if they can not drag down their children, they will not drag them down.

Young people are going to the city, thatThe farming culture in the countryside is naturally facing this embarrassing situation of no one inheritingOnce upon a time, the main income of the countryside was the harvest in the crops.

But now,Now that young people have more and better choices, they naturally do not return to their hometowns and follow the old path of their parents facing the loess with their backs to the sky.

Especially today when the involution is so seriousIf young people slack off, then they will be left far behind by young people.

Young people don't want to plant, and old people can't plant if they want toOver time, those fertile fields that were originally extremely productive gradually became barren.

Although mechanized planting has now been popularized in many parts of our country, these costs downThe peasants do not make money at all, and even if they are not careful, the peasants will lose money.

After a whole year of hard work, the final income may not be as much as the income earned in a day of working outsideIf this continues, how can anyone still be willing to farm?

In addition to the barren arable land,Education in rural areas is also a big issue**Children of the 10th generation, most of whom received primary and junior high school education in the village.

But now when we go to the school, we will find that there are very few students in itIn some places, there are even more teachers than students.

This is the caseThe first is related to the marriage rate and the birth rateIf the marriageable population in rural areas cannot get married, there will naturally be no newborns, which corresponds to a decrease in the number of school students.

In addition to this reason,Many young people who work outside the home will bring their children to school in the city where they workAs a result, it will be more difficult to recruit students in rural areas.

If the number of students decreases, the corresponding educational resources will also decrease accordinglyAfter all, it is impossible for a higher department to have a situation where there are more than a dozen teachers in a school, revolving around two or three students.

This goes on for a long timeRural schools will get smaller and smaller, and there will be fewer and fewer studentsIn the end, it is inevitable to go to the end of being merged.

The corresponding educational resources may be tilted by the education department to the schools in the cityIf this vicious circle continues, rural education may come to an end.

The chaos in the countryside has led to many problems in society, and many people do not understand the stark contrast between the crowded cities and the few people living in the countryside.

However, now that the country has paid attention to the seriousness of the problem and has begun to make every effort to promote rural revitalization, I believe that in the near future, our countryside will be lively, prosperous and the fireworks in the memory.

Info**:1Guangming.com, "To Achieve Overall Stability, 12.44 Million New Urban Jobs Will Be Created in 2023".

2."Report of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences: China's Rural Population is Aging Severely, and the Population Aged 60 and Over Accounts for More than 20%".

3.Xinhua Financial Media Highlights "Farmers would rather be idle and abandon their own land than plant, the old farmer explained it like this, it really makes sense!" 》

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