Written by Rouran.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "If you are not happy, it is not because the person you love no longer loves you, but because after that person leaves, you no longer know how to love yourself." ”
Many people are left helpless at the moment when love disappears, accompanied by confusion and hesitation, trying their best to restore love to its original state.
But in fact, the ultimate happiness has always been in your own hands, when a person doesn't love you anymore, you must get these 3 things back.
Have you ever gone out of your way to win someone back?
Compared with losing TA, you feel that nothing is important, and your face and dignity are not as good as the other party's chance to get back together.
In the hit drama "Wife's Choice", the heroine Xiaoyu loves her boyfriend Han Chao very much, and after many years of love, she is extremely looking forward to entering the palace of marriage with her boyfriend.
One day she was wearing a white wedding dress and proposed to her boyfriend with flowers in her hand, but the other party obviously had no intention of marrying him and shirked
Marriage should be our own business, and it has nothing to do with others, so should we also go home and talk about it behind closed doors."
It turned out that from beginning to end, Han Chao never thought of being responsible for Xiaoyu, and he was still ambiguous with Xiaoyu's best friend during his cohabitation with Xiaoyu, and he was a proper scumbag.
Xiaoyu knew about her boyfriend's betrayal, but she was reluctant to let go, so in order to keep her boyfriend, she didn't hesitate to spend a lot of money to buy an off-road vehicle, cook for him as always, and wait for him to go home.
But I don't know that humility can't keep someone who doesn't love you, on a rainy day, she begged Han Chao not to leave her in the heavy rain, but she was pushed to the ground by the other party, and at that moment she was completely dead.
When feelings are not reciprocated, you must learn to let go and return your dignity to yourself, no one is worthy of your humble giving, not even love.
Many times, the more unloved you are, the more you have to love yourself, give him back to the sea of people, and keep your dignity to yourself.
It has been said: "The greatest flaw of a person is not selfishness, amorousness, savagery, and willfulness, but the paranoid love for someone who does not love himself and waste all his time on unworthy people." ”
This is the case with Zhu Suosuo in the TV series "Golden Years", after being hurt by her husband, Zhu Suosuo dragged on and did not break up.
Best friend Jiang Nansun persuaded her: "If you step on him with your foot, your body can't fly high, can you row it, think about it carefully." ”
When a love ends, some women are always difficult to let go, unwilling to give up their youth and time over the years.
Knowing that the person in front of him is no longer suitable for him, he still waits for the other party to change his mind and is entangled with a man who doesn't love him.
And this is the most stupid thing to do, and if you continue to entangle endlessly, you will only lose both, waste more time, and invest more sunk costs.
Only by letting go can you stop losses in time, focus your time and energy on yourself, make yourself more comfortable, be happier, meet new friends, and learn about the new world.
Wasting your time with someone who doesn't love you will only make you miss out on the beauty of life.
Tian Rong in the TV series "All the Way to the Sun" is a person who loses himself in love.
When her classmates were busy looking for jobs and internships, Tian Rong focused on how to take care of her boyfriend Fan Huapeng's diet and daily life.
helped him with laundry and cooking and served him like a nanny, and Fan Huapeng really regarded her as a nanny, and belittled and suppressed her "Too fat, why can't you find a serious job".
Fan Huapeng has never treated Tian Rong on an equal footing, which Li Mujia has long seen, but Tian Rong didn't see it, and said: "I just love him, and I am willing to die for him." ”
But this kind of payment is not cherished by the other party at all, but is more demanding.
In any relationship, losing oneself is a disaster, no matter how much you love someone, you must also have reservations, don't lose yourself.
When a person doesn't love you, you must get back the lost part of yourself in time.
In life, love is only a very small part of life. Having it is the icing on the cake, without it, you can live frankly and proudly.
If a relationship does not make you a better person, but makes you gradually lose yourself, then it is better to let go.
If you can't get it, let it go, don't wronged yourself, you can change for love, but you can't lose yourself for a person.
May you manage yourself well and become your own hero in the long years.