When a daughter is looking for a partner, don t pick a house or a car, these four types of families

Mondo Health Updated on 2024-02-19

Someone ridiculed: "Nowadays, the housing prices are so high, and the mother-in-law is indispensable." ”

While this is a witty statement, it does shed light on current social phenomena. After all, if you can't even buy a place to live, I'm afraid your mother-in-law will have it.

It is widely expected that daughters will marry into wealthy families to ensure stability and happiness for the rest of their lives. However, an overemphasis on material conditions can seem a bit outdated.

Looking at the development of society, we see that the number of families owning houses and vehicles is increasing day by day. In some families, the children have not yet been enlightened, and the wedding room has been prepared. There are also many families with abundant properties and vehicles.

We should teach our daughters that when making a choice, it is more important to find the right person, consider the following family backgrounds, and presuppose future happiness, rather than just looking at the material conditions of the present.

The in-laws who have a pension and can enjoy their old age can solve the problem of providing for the elderly, and they can also assist their children in the future.

Families with abundant wealth today may not be able to maintain this situation in the future. Family situations are always uncertain, but one thing is for sure, we're all getting older.

When the elders in the family are old, they need the love and care of their children. However, among the different ways of care, the easiest way to choose is to be self-sufficient as an elder.

Filial piety is one thing, but whether your in-laws have a pension is another.

No matter what happens to the family, as long as the in-laws can enjoy their old age in peace, they will not bring excessive financial burden to the family. For in-laws with generous pensions, they can also sponsor their children for a long time.

I have a friend whose parents-in-law have been working in the electricity sector for a long time. After retirement, they have a pension of up to 1,000 dollars and have been sponsoring their grandchildren's schooling.

On the other hand, those elders who cannot enjoy their old age can still maintain their lives, but as they grow older, their savings are also decreasing, and the burden on their children is heavier.

A mother-in-law who is not domineering and understanding makes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law easy to get along with, and the wife will not be treated unfairly.

Although many mothers-in-law are women, they want to create difficulties for women, and even look down on women. They assume the posture of family leaders and uphold the old notion of patriarchy.

Some mothers-in-law believe that if they marry a daughter-in-law, they should add a grandchild, otherwise they will show their hideous side. Some mothers-in-law have made things difficult for their daughters-in-law because they have not been able to get grandchildren, and even caused their sons to divorce their daughters-in-law.

Don't believe what your mother-in-law said, "I treat you like my daughters", the key is to look at her behavior and reputation accumulated over time.

When one of my female classmates, Xiaohua, went to her boyfriend's house for the first time, her mother-in-law said as soon as they met, "Isn't it as beautiful as before?" ”

After speaking, the mother-in-law put on a look of ignoring it, which made people feel cold.

If it weren't for Xiaohua's timely separation after marriage, I'm afraid the family would be full of quarrels and chaos.

A good mother-in-law is the "fuel-saving lamp" in the family. Any contradiction can be settled when it reaches her; If the daughter-in-law is wronged, she can still complain to her mother-in-law and get her mother-in-law's support.

Although the mother-in-law is not the biological mother, a respectful attitude is always essential. Once the mother-in-law becomes strong, the woman should think carefully and not allow herself to be wronged.

While pursuing a material life, we cannot ignore the spiritual level of abundance. A frugal family is undoubtedly the cornerstone of sustainable development. In such a family, everyone will think carefully about life, whether it is rich or poor, they can maintain a frugal heart, and constantly seek ways to get rich.

In such a family atmosphere, women will quickly adapt and embody the characteristics of virtuous motherhood. And if a man can make his income and expenditure in an orderly manner and be thrifty, then he is undoubtedly the real treasure of the family. Instead of choosing a man with a high income but a spendthrift, it is better to choose a person who has an average income but knows how to save frugally.

When choosing a partner, smart women prioritize the other person's frugal habits rather than just the other person's income level. They know that no matter how the times change, only by holding money tightly in their hands can their families have self-confidence and foundation, and only then can they have the initial funds for the development of their careers.

The virtues and blessings of the family, like Feng Shui, have a positive impact on the development of future generations. The history of family development of the ancients tells us that the inheritance of family style is very important.

For example, Liu Bowen's grandfather Liu Hao, although he was an official, chose to resign and live in seclusion and protected a group of righteous people with wisdom. Another example is Zeng Guofan's grandfather, although he is a landlord, he knows the importance of reading, and finally many of Zeng Guofan's brothers have become **.

The virtue of a family is the result of the joint efforts of several people, and this virtue will be reflected in the younger generations. If a woman can marry into such a virtuous family, she will undoubtedly be praised by everyone and gain face in social situations. And a morally degraded family, even if the family has minerals, cannot change its declining fate.

Women marry in pursuit of a better self and spend the rest of their lives with a harmonious family. When partnering, you should consider whether the other person's family will be able to accept you, whether the family members will be able to live in harmony, and whether you will be able to enjoy happy times together.

Parents should teach their daughters to grow up, raise their awareness of marriage, and consider long-term life plans to avoid future misfortunes for their daughters. At the same time, daughters should also follow the advice of their parents, not to be too materialistic, and not to be fooled by men's rhetoric.

May all women find someone to spend the rest of their lives with hand in hand, and may every family be able to enjoy happiness and harmony.

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