In the book "White Night Walking", there is such a sentence: "There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart." The human heart is unfathomable, both tangible and intangible.
However, we can perceive that the initial perception of the human heart is the nature of human beings, and after cultivation, it becomes a human character.
People who are truly capable rely on character in their actions and human nature in their actions.
Character human behavior.
People with low character, no matter how they go, will be looked down upon and may even be oppressed.
For example, when we encounter a thief, we try to avoid it as much as possible and we will also be vigilant; When we meet people who have just been released from prison, we are more likely to be reluctant to associate with them; Deep down we reject the third party in marriage.
The label effect tells us that a person's good or bad will be labeled as invisible, and it is difficult to tear it off.
If we want to be respected by others, then try to label ourselves as "good people". Do more good deeds in daily life, and show ability and value.
During the period when Liu Bang and Xiang Yu were fighting for the world, Xiang Yu had a general named Ji Bu under him.
Ji Bu has liked to fight unevenly since he was a child, as long as his parents and fellow villagers are in need, he will stand up to help, and he is never afraid of trouble.
In Chudi, he can be said to be a celebrity.
After Xiang Yu was defeated by Liu Bang, many of Xiang Yu's subordinates lived in fear and hid in the east.
The winner is the king, the loser is the unchanging law.
In order to protect himself from being caught by Liu Bang, Ji Bu began a life of exile.
He hid in the house of a man surnamed Zhou in Puyang, but the Zhou family was worried that his strength was not enough to protect him for a long time.
After some time, the Zhou family sent Ji Bu to the Zhu family, pretending to be a farmer.
The Zhu family admired Ji Bu very much and told their children: "Don't treat him as a servant, eat with him." ”
After another period of time, the Zhu family found the powerful minister Xiahou Ying, hoping that he could convince Liu Bang to cherish talents, and - heroes don't ask where they come from.
Xiahou Ying knew that the Zhu family was a chivalrous man, and so was Ji Bu. He lobbied Liu Bang and asked Liu Bang to reuse Ji Bu.
Since ancient times, heroes have cherished heroes, and good people help good people.
Good will be rewarded, not not repaid, the time has not come. A lot of kindness will not be effective for a while, and when you are downcast and need help, the effect will be revealed.
It's a human favor for people to help each other. But this favor did not appear for no reason, but was accumulated by yourself. Kaifu said: "It is impossible for a person with imperfect character to become a person who really makes a difference." ”
If you want to gain a foothold in society, you must cultivate your own character and abandon the ugliness of human nature.
Take care of your mouth, don't expose others' shortcomings, don't burst into foul language at every turn, and provoke right and wrong.
Read more books, improve your understanding of society, and evaluate your words and deeds, as it is said in "Aphorisms": "The first character in heaven and earth is still reading." ”
Do more good deeds, show your kindness, and make the people around you willing to approach you and form a circle of positive energy.
Character is a person's confidence, which can deal with many "emergencies", and is also an important embodiment of leading the family style.
On the stage of life, everyone's growth and success are inseparable from self-struggle, as well as the support and cooperation of society.
We aspire to achieve our goals and pursue our desired outcomes, and all of this is inseparable from doing things."
However, we can't do it alone, we need to be part of the community and tap into the power of others.
Perhaps the most crucial of these is the game with competitors, which is a war without gunpowder.
Integrity and morality can earn respect, but in order to win, the use of human wisdom is an indispensable part.
No matter how intimate the relationship, the complexities of human nature should not be overlooked. When the dark side erupts, even the most solid morals can crumble in an instant.
Mencius and Gaozi I have a cloud: "Human nature is not divided into good and bad, and water is not divided into things." "Like a dual personality, good and evil coexist and are intertwined, and interests are at the core. As the old saying goes: "If a man is not for himself, the heavens and the earth will perish." ”
Taking the Battle of Chibi as an example, Cao Cao was faced with crossing the river because of his army to the Yangtze River. At this time, Huang Gai pretended to be abused by Zhou Yu, asked Cao Cao for help, and proposed a plan to cross the river. Cao Cao's sympathy for Huang Gai and his urgent need for talents to cross the river easily accepted him. Unexpectedly, Huang Gai actually used a "bitter meat trick" and set fire to Cao Cao's army, resulting in a great defeat for Cao's army. Zhou Yu took advantage of Cao Cao's compassion and profit-seeking nature to successfully achieve his goal.
Another example is the empty city plan, Zhuge Liang played the piano at the head of the city to create an illusion, and Sima Yi's retreat reflected not only Zhuge Liang's resourcefulness, but also Sima Yi's deep understanding of self-preservation. If Sima Yi completely defeated Zhuge Liang, his position in Wei might not be guaranteed. Therefore, this battle of wits is actually a battle of human nature.
Han Xin, a hero of the Western Han Dynasty, was finally destroyed by Liu Bang because he did not understand the truth of "rabbit dead dog cooking". This also shows how important the profit drive in human nature is.
To live peacefully in this complexity, we must learn to "see the essence through the phenomenon". In the face of people who seem to be of good character, it is also necessary to be vigilant and deeply analyze their humanity to prevent their dark side from exploding.
In ordinary life, you should pay attention to self-cultivation, restrain your dark human nature, and show your good side.
Although the debate about the good and evil of human nature has not been settled since ancient times, we can be kind to others and have compassion through self-cultivation.
Only by managing oneself and treating others well can one achieve a clear conscience and find one's place in this complex world.