How many girls left their hometowns in order to marry love, bid farewell to their lovely fathers and mothers, and married thousands of miles to a strange city? So are these girls who marry far away happy?
I am 29 years old this year, my husband is my college classmate, when I chose to marry far away, my mother disagreed, saying that it was too far away, what if I was wronged!
I didn't cry and shout that I wanted to get married, but I just begged my mother to go to my mother-in-law's house and let her go to see his parents and his house, and if she was not satisfied, then I would not marry.
Later, she went and saw how my mother-in-law's family got along with each other, and saw how my family treated me, all of which reassured her, and she agreed to marry me.
But after three years, I regretted it, not marrying the wrong person, my in-laws' husbands are okay to me, but 2000 kilometers away from my mother, from Yunnan to Gansu, I am afraid that when she needs me, I can't go back in time.
And my mom is just my daughter! I only have one relative, my mother. Because my parents divorced when I was 3 years old, and my mother grew me up alone, she was afraid that I would be wronged, so she always refused to find another partner for herself.
I once asked my mother to go with me, but my mother shook her head and said that she was not used to the climate in the northwest, and that it was too cold in winter, so she said wait.
At that time, her body was okay, but she was also reluctant to have old friends and relatives around her.
I haven't been home to see my mother for a long time due to various reasons such as pregnancy and childbirth, and I have only been home once in the three years since I got married.
However, I didn't wait for her to go with me, it was December 24, 2023, at one o'clock in the morning, I received a ** from my mother who died after rescue was ineffective, my aunt called, and I was devastated.
My husband drove me all the way to the airport, my body was shaking uncontrollably, my husband understood my sadness and kept saying sorry, sorry!
After dealing with my mother's funeral, my aunt told me that my mother dreamed a week before she died, and I went back to see her, but she refused to call me.
My aunt also said that my mother had told her that if there was an afterlife, she wanted me to stop being her child because her marriage had broken down and I had not been able to have a happy and carefree childhood.
Because she worked all day in order to support her family and failed to fulfill her responsibilities as a mother, maybe I would choose to marry far away because others were good to me, and the mother-daughter fate in this life is too shallow.
So at the last moment, she chose not to tell me in advance, she didn't see me, she didn't see me, she could no longer blame herself and stop being nostalgic.
She said that she was very relieved of me, her in-laws were very good to me, her husband spoiled me in everything, and my children were healthy and safe, and she couldn't let go of anything.
After my mother left, I broke down and cried every time I thought about her, and I kept dreaming that I couldn't find the key to my mother's house, and I cried when I couldn't find it, and then I woke up to find that my tears had soaked the pillow.
A few years ago, I dreamed of my mother again, I bought a plane ticket to go back alone, because the heavy snow could not get to the car in my hometown, I walked crazy for nearly 3 hours to get home, knocked on the door and no one opened the door, wow wow crying no one answered.
On the road, I watched every household on this road anxiously clear the snow and sweep the road, and only the desolation of the snow-white snow in front of and behind the house of my house did I realize that I really had no mother.
It turns out that the death of a loved one is really not a temporary storm, but moisturizing things silently is a lifetime of dampness.
After that, my mother-in-law's family and husband treated me better, and I accidentally heard my mother-in-law say to my husband that I have no parents, and he should not make me angry!
But if I had to choose again, I would like to say, I will not be far away from getting married!
"The quality of long-distance marriage depends on whether you choose the right person, and every day is Valentine's Day."
But what we don't know is that there is another kind of distant marriage, which has nothing to do with love.
Some people say from the perspective of their children that marrying far away is like a big gamble, and a gamble is a lifetime. And from the perspective of parents, the daughter who marries far away is really like water spilled out, and she can't get it back. It will be difficult to meet in the future, let alone accompany and fulfill filial piety by your side, in a sense, it is really "raised for nothing".
What do you think about long-distance marriage?