If a man is not married in his 40s, it will indeed make people curious, and some people may also worry about whether there is something physical or psychological. However, the reality is much more complicated.
A recent survey of 100 single men over the age of 40 differed in their education, family background, work experience, and their views on love and marriage. It turned out that these people were really negative about marriage.
The first type: Ma Bao man.
Think about it, these men are basically post-80s, at that time, the country was implementing the one-child policy, and many families had such a baby, at most there was a brother and sister. Especially under the concept of patriarchy, these men have been pampered since childhood. As a result, many people have grown up, and their minds are still like children, with strong dependence and poor independence, and some have become typical "mom boys".
There are many examples, such as the ** who hugged her son tightly at the wedding of the Shanxi mother-in-law, and netizens were amazed. It is said that the couple also ended up divorced. Some boys have to ask their mother's opinion first when dating, hey, in this case, who would dare to marry a girl?
Most of the post-80s women are also only children, but with the development of the economy, the girls are well educated, independent in thought, and independent in the economy. The partner they expect must not only have affection, but also ability.
So, you'll find that the girls are improving, but a lot of the boys are either standing still or even regressing. What girls are most worried about is finding a "mom treasure man", that is, not finding a partner, but having an extra "son", and having to deal with the nagging of her mother-in-law.
Type 2: Hurt.
Some boys are very sincere in love and have paid a lot, but as a result, they may have been hurt. Especially those campus loves, how beautiful, going to school and getting out of class together, sending medicine when sick, and having a little surprise during the holidays. But after graduation, the woman may feel realistic and feel that her boyfriend is not qualified.
You will see the kind of situation where the seven-year lover and the girl ends up marrying someone else.
There is also a blind date to meet, the woman puts forward conditions, the man's family works hard to meet, and finally breaks up because of trivial matters. Or the woman is very demanding and breaks up if she can't meet it.
Therefore, after some boys are injured, they are no longer willing to have expectations for their feelings, they close themselves off, and after a long time, they get used to being single.
The third type: too demanding.
Don't forget, some men live in their own "prince dream" and are demanding, but they are average.
Therefore, the problem of getting rid of the order is really complicated. Especially for men in their 40s, they have to work on their mentality first, become more realistic, more confident, and more mature.
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