Original article No. 295.
saw Liang Yanling, who had not appeared for a long time, with a bloated figure and white hair. At that moment, my gaze still hurt deeply.
The last time I saw her was thirty years ago. A beautiful and delicate woman, her gestures are full of amorous, like fog, rain and wind. I hadn't seen her transition step by step, so, for me, she was like that all of a sudden.
Emotionally unacceptable, when you see the aging of others, you naturally think of your own aging. Yes, even I gave birth to Huafa, how can she not be old? But I hope she doesn't grow old, and we all hope that the good things of the past are still the same. We try to believe that there are miracles on earth, and if they are, then we have the opportunity to believe that miracles are likely to befall us.
Therefore, fans have an indescribable mixed taste for the aging of celebrities. For example, Ye Tong, such as Ye Qianwen. How can the bright eyes not be bright, and how can the expression be gloomy?
Seeing Jacky Cheung twisting his dance steps, I didn't have much amazement, but I was worried, don't flash your old waist. The gray hair on that head made me feel uneasy about him.
Aging is to make people feel all kinds of uneasy, so we don't like to see aging, not because of how beautiful and ugly old we are, but because aging reminds people of the uncontrollable nature of life. No matter how fashionable the old man's clothes and makeup were, we didn't really like it. ’
In the past few years since the epidemic, we have heard too much news about death, some of which are far away from us and have no intersection with the deceased, so they have not yet hit the depths of our hearts. Some people, we are familiar with, Coco Li, Zhou Haimei, they have accompanied us in the growth. On a good day, they are the twinkling stars inside. We have them in our lives.
Aging is inevitable, regardless of whether you are rich or not, impermanence can happen to everyone, and it has nothing to do with status.
Nothing can be preserved except for the eternity of the universe. If Fanghua is just a moment in life, if impermanence is unavoidable, we can think about how to live well in the present and in the future.
From my experience, the more you like nostalgia, the worse you get to the present, and the more you get entangled with people and things in the past, the worse you get to the present. Who likes nostalgia? It is a person who is dissatisfied with the present, and a person who feels all kinds of unsatisfactory in the present.
The more you feel unsatisfactory, the less you will be able to increase your ability to improve your life.
I used to be a nostalgic person, and I found that dwelling on the past didn't bring me any good, but it was a solid job of doing the present well, which would make me a little more satisfied with myself. My growth is not to deliberately reduce the concentration of nostalgia, but to grasp the present. The past is in the past, no matter how many grievances there are, it's a good man anyway, isn't it?
No matter how many regrets there are in the past, I think there is nothing real regret other than family affection, and nothing is worth carrying on your back. You think it's because your standards in the past were too low. In fact, with the exception of childhood playfulness, which nourished the personality, most things in the past have nothing to be missedTen minutes of nostalgia for the past, ten minutes are lost now.
Except for the closest relatives, everyone is just a passerby. Axis of the past people, there will be no future. Because the axis in the past is against the present self.
The way to keep the present and rush into the future is to make a plan for yourself. Even if you open a book and can read a page, it means that you have grasped the present. Trying to finish every day, even if it is not done, "trying" to complete it is also a kind of "retention".
And when you find that you are a little different one day, you will like yourself, and the influence of the past will fade on you.
I often encounter the question of how do I reconcile with the past?
In fact, there is no need to reconcile the past experience, you just need to do the present well, and the past will naturally be blurred. The relationship between the two is not one that exists one after another, and people can only face the present by combing through the past first. No. Blurring the past and picking up the present are going on at the same time, do you have a book next to you?
Whatever the book is, take the book to page three.
He Xiangqun, founder of Ningbo Xiangqun Psychology Studio, full-time psychological counseling work, and a member of the Chinese Psychological Society's science popularization expert database.