In today's fast-paced era, people's living standards are gradually improving, but the headache of singles is getting worse. For example, my cousin is 39 years old and still single, which makes my aunt anxious. In our small village, there are more than 100 families, but there are nearly 40 single men who have passed the age of 30. This situation makes parents in the countryside anxious, and they are busy all day long about blind dates and matchmakers. However, it is inconceivable that, in addition to the problem of singles, there are also a series of poignant strange phenomena in the countryside.
1. The number of people getting married in Layue has increased sharply this year, which has brought a lot of trouble to people. According to folklore, next year is the "Year of No Spring", also known as the "Year of the Widow", and it is not appropriate to hold happy events, especially events such as getting married and moving to a new home. As a result, many people hold weddings in advance in the month of Wax to avoid potential foreluck. In the city, many people may think that this is superstition, but in our village, people pay a lot of attention to these traditional customs. After all, you only have one wedding in your life, and everyone wants to get off to the perfect start and avoid ominous influences. I have a relative who originally planned to get married on the 18th day of the first lunar month, but later changed it to the month of Lap because everyone believed in the bad omen brought by the "Year of No Spring".
Expanding: In the eyes of rural villagers, traditional culture and customs carry rich life philosophy and historical precipitation, so everyone still has awe and respect for some folk sayings and superstitions. In specific solar terms and years, everyone will follow these traditions, try to avoid touching some "taboos", and hope for peace and auspiciousness. This seemingly superstitious act actually represents the awe and cherishment of life for rural people, hoping to be blessed and blessed in such an important ceremony as marriage.
2. It was once taboo to steal birth, but now the birth policy is open, but he is unwilling to give birth. In the past, in order to have more children, people always tried to circumvent the supervision of the family planning policy, and as a result, they paid a lot of fines. However, with the liberalization of national policies to encourage more children, people generally choose to have only one child, and some people even choose not to have children. Nowadays, the cost of raising children is increasing, and young people are facing huge life pressures, burdens, and even sacrificing their own quality of life. Some people are afraid that children will affect their career development, so they choose not to have children. For a variety of reasons, today's families have fewer and fewer children, and there is a serious imbalance in the demographic structure.
Expansion: With the changes of the times and social development, people's conception of childbearing and family size have changed dramatically. In the past, the traditional concept of people's pursuit of more children and more blessings was deeply rooted, and fertility remained high. But now, with the development of the economy and the emancipation of the mind, people have begun to re-examine the issue of fertility and treat fertility more rationally. High housing prices, high education costs, and fierce competition for careers in modern society have made people face more choices and challenges. As a result, many young people are more likely to focus on their careers and pursue personal development rather than stepping into family life too early. This phenomenon reflects both the changing times and the changes in the size and structure of the family.
3. He was not filial during his lifetime, and he held a banquet after his death. Many people neglect filial piety when their parents are alive, and even lead to constant family conflicts in order to provide for the elderly. After the death of their parents, these people were extravagant and wasteful, and they made a big deal at the funeral. In some families, siblings have constant disputes, take turns to provide for the elderly, and quarrel frequently. In the bitterly cold weather a few days ago, there were old people sitting in the cold wind, and no one cared. However, after the old man passed away, the children and grandchildren began to arrange luxurious banquets, and various programs took turns, and even compared whose funeral was the best. This phenomenon is worth pondering, and people can't help but sigh that there is a difference between life and death, and where is the family affection.
Expansion: The culture of filial piety is an important part of traditional Chinese ethics, and respecting the elderly, loving the young, filial piety and respecting the elderly has always been inherited and promoted. However, in modern society, with the acceleration of the pace of life and the complexity of interpersonal relationships, some people's understanding of family affection and family value has been skewed. When the parents are alive, although the words are full of concern for the love of the parents, the actual action is missing; And after the death of his parents, he spent lavishly and wastefully at the funeral, which is a shameful contrast. Perhaps behind this is the confusion and confusion of people's family responsibilities and emotional expressions in modern society, which is worthy of our deep thought and reflection.
4. Rural daughters-in-law are becoming more and more delicate, and the family's accommodation and curry favor with daughters-in-law has reached an unbearable level. Today's daughters-in-law don't want to do their own work, they just want to eat, drink and have fun, and dress up all day long. They either go shopping or party to play poker, and even accuse their in-laws of being inconsiderate when they come home. Show off their designer fragrances, fashionable shoes and bags, and high-end clothing on various occasions, all for the sake of comparison and showing off. In order to cater to them, the in-laws can only tolerate and accommodate, but cannot make a difference. Due to the imbalance between men and women and the high bride price of marriage, the in-laws dare not offend their daughters-in-law, so they can only silently endure this unsatisfactory luxury.
Expansion: With the improvement of the economic level and the change of social atmosphere, the attitude and way of rural in-laws towards their daughters-in-law have also undergone significant changes. Compared with the image of traditional rural women who are thrifty and hardworking and virtuous in the past, today's daughters-in-law are more inclined to enjoy life and pay attention to personal taste and fashion trends. They have higher requirements for quality of life and expect to be treated with due respect and care. In order to maintain family harmony, the in-laws often choose to tolerate and accommodate, and do not dare to intervene too much. This phenomenon reflects the complexity and change of family relations in modern society, and also highlights the conflict and integration between traditional culture and modern concepts.
5. The flood of banquets in rural areas has brought a heavy burden to many families. Nowadays, banquets in rural areas are becoming more and more frequent, and in the past, only important occasions such as weddings and full moons were held, but now people have added many scenes, such as the first birthday, 100 days, birthdays, admission to universities, and the purchase of new cars. Someone even once held a "sow cub wine", which is ridiculous. Although this phenomenon is not reasonable, in desperation, neighbors and friends are still forced to participate and dare not take offense. It is hoped that the state can introduce relevant policies to standardize the atmosphere of running alcohol in rural areas, reduce the burden on the masses, and let farmers live a simple and happy life.
Expansion: With the progress of social economy and the change of people's concept of life, a new situation has emerged in the rural banquet culture. In the past, the rituals of the rural banquet were simple and important, but now they are becoming more and more large and complex. In addition to traditional wedding banquets, people began to express their emotions and blessings through birthday banquets, birthday celebrations, celebrations, and send-offs. However, some overly extravagant and casual banquet behaviors are causing widespread concern in society. Some people in order to cater to the social atmosphere or the psychology of comparison, hold some unconventional banquets, such as "sow cub wine", etc., which is worthy of vigilance and reflection. It is hoped that all sectors of society will work together to standardize the behavior of running wine in rural areas, advocate the virtues of thrift and sharing, and rejuvenate the traditional banquet culture.
My personal summary: In rural society, the problem of singles and a series of bizarre phenomena together form a thought-provoking picture. It not only reflects the diversity and collision of values in modern society, but also highlights the conflict and integration of traditional culture in the process of modernization. In the face of these phenomena, we need to respect historical traditions and cherish family feelings, but also deepen reflection on ideological concepts and morality and ethics, and jointly care for social harmony and stability. May each of us have a healthy body and mind, pursue a happy and fulfilling life, and jointly build a beautiful rural home. I wish you all a safe and healthy Year of the Dragon!