On the second day of the Lunar New Year, according to the custom, my husband and I took our children back to our parents' house to pay New Year's greetings. I prepared two bottles of good wine and two good cigarettes for my father, and my husband also prepared red envelopes for my little nephew, but my brother's family didn't bring anything. But what I didn't expect was that during dinner in the evening, my father gave my daughter a red envelope of 400 yuan, but gave my brother's son 1,000 yuan.
It's also a New Year's greeting, why can my brother's son get 600 yuan more than my daughter? Is it because he is a grandson and my daughter is a nephew? The more I think about it, the more I feel wronged, we brought so many gifts, but my dad is still so unfair.
To make matters worse, while we were eating, I looked at my daughter, who was staring at the dishes on the table, while my mother was so focused on serving food to her grandson that she completely ignored my daughter. Looking at my daughter's lost eyes, I decided never to go back to my parents' house again.
In this family, my daughter will always be the neglected one. She did not enjoy the love from her grandparents, but was treated unfairly. And I, as her mother, couldn't get the respect and treatment she deserved.
In this patriarchal family, I felt a deep sense of helplessness and anger. I don't understand, why do girls have to be treated differently like this? Is it because she's a girl that she doesn't deserve to be loved?
The more I think about it, the more I feel wronged, we brought so many gifts, but my dad is still so unfair. Looking at my daughter's ignorant eyes, I decided never to go back to my parents' house in the future, since my father loves his grandson so much, then let him celebrate the New Year with his grandson in the future!