Teacher, I know that I can't forget my ex-boyfriend, and it hurts me. I've tried a lot of things, but I can't let go. I understand that not being able to forget means that I still want to love him or that I haven't let go of hatred, but I also understand that forgetting means really letting go and remembering him without any hatred.
I don't know how to really get myself out of the shadow of this relationship, can you give me some advice?
Missing your ex-boyfriend is a common feeling after a breakup, but we need to accept and deal with it, it doesn't mean we have to be together, or continue to hate him. Instead, we can approach the relationship with a rational attitude, respecting each other's feelings and decisions, as well as considering our own feelings, and choosing what works best for us.
We need to learn to turn our attention away from past emotions and hatreds and start a new life. Trying to find new hobbies and goals to enrich your life will make you feel fulfilled and boost your self-confidence.
We need to accept the facts of the past. "Can't forget, it means that you want to love or haven't vented your hatred; To forget means to let go, or to remember without hatred. "If we remain obsessed with the love-hate relationship of the past, it can hinder us from looking forward and affect our quality of life. Therefore, we must learn to let go of the past, cherish the present, and face the future bravely.
We need to have new emotional sustenance. Try to build deeper emotional connections with your friends and family, who will be your backing and emotional support. If possible, try to start a new relationship, but think carefully and be sure to be sincere and rational.
Remember, it takes time and effort to convince yourself that you no longer miss your ex-boyfriend or hate him anymore. However, as long as we maintain a positive mindset and correct actions, we will definitely be able to step out of the shadows of the past and welcome a new life.