The phenomenon of not leaving relatives during the Chinese New Year and estranged relatives on a daily basis has slowly spread among the younger generation, especially the post-00s. The traditional visit to relatives and friends has gradually become cold. This phenomenon has attracted people's attention and sparked discussions. And this act of severing kinship undoubtedly makes people feel heartache and reflect on the reasons. Why are today's young people increasingly estranged from their relatives, and what are the reasons behind this? Let's peel back the veil.
When young people return home for the Chinese New Year, they are often confronted with endless questions from their relatives. Faced with this situation, some young people choose to deal with it in a humorous or even tricky way. They responded to their relatives' questions in a mocking and sarcastic tone, creating a style of dialogue that was "nonsense literature". This humorous and witty answer made the people around him laugh, and it also showed the resistance and resistance of young people in the face of traditional communication methods.
The friend around Cuckoo is a typical representative of the "severe" family. She used to be a person who liked to visit relatives, and when she was a child, she felt a strong family atmosphere when she visited the New Year. However, as they get older, friends begin to feel the change in kinship. In the circle of relatives, she often becomes the focus of conversation when she is studying and working in a foreign land. Relatives paid too much attention to her living conditions, studies and career development, and made all kinds of evaluations and expectations about her. Faced with the pressure and expectation of this reality, my friend gradually felt tired and bored, and finally decided to decouple from most of his relatives. Her choice may represent the deep thinking and rebellion of some young people against kinship, and also reflect a relief from the troubles of real life.
According to a survey, the phenomenon of "severe" ethnic groups has gradually increased in recent years, and there is a certain age difference. A significant proportion of young people under the age of 18 have little contact with their relatives; Young people aged 18-30 move between occasional contacts; And in the 30-40 age group, less than a third maintain frequent family contact. As they get older, more than half of people over the age of 40 maintain regular contact with their relatives. This data shows a clear trend and confirms the current situation of young people alienating their relatives.
Professor Du Sujuan of East China University of Political Science and Law pointed out that young people do not really dislike relatives, but are disgusted by the bad "tradition" behind them. Topics and attitudes between relatives often bothered and embarrassed young people. Due to changes in society and family structure, as well as feelings such as comparison and jealousy among relatives, young people have gradually changed their views on kinship. They are more inclined to avoid uncomfortable topics and relationships, thus choosing to distance themselves from their relatives.
In the exchange of relatives, awkward topics often leave young people feeling overwhelmed and drowning. Relatives' inquiries about academics, careers, marriage and love often touch the privacy and pain points of young people, making them feel uncomfortable. This awkward and unpleasant atmosphere makes young people choose to remain silent and avoid further communication. The care and expectation of the elders for young people sometimes becomes a burden and a nuisance, and the relationship between the two parties is gradually estranged.
Even among relatives, there will be feelings of comparison and jealousy. Under the effect of the comparison mentality, the communication and interaction between relatives becomes sensitive and complex. Whether it is academic, career or family life, relatives often compare who is better and who is happier, thus causing unnecessary conflicts and estrangement. This comparison mentality spreads among relatives, making young people feel more stressed, and they are more inclined to distance themselves from relationships that may lead to comparisons in order to maintain inner peace and freedom.
The traditional concept of "big family" has gradually faded in contemporary society and has been replaced by the "small family" model. The increased independence and autonomy of family members in society has led to a gradual erosion of dependence on relatives and the need for mutual assistance. At the same time, the expansion of society and the diversification of opportunities allow individuals to rely more on their own abilities and efforts to succeed, rather than relying on family ties. This change in social structure has also weakened the importance of kinship to a certain extent, making young people more inclined to rely on non-kinship relationships such as friends and classmates, rather than being implicated among relatives.
From the above phenomena and reasons, it can be seen that "severance of relatives" has transcended individual behavior and has become an overall phenomenon. It is not only a young person's attitude towards family relationships, but also a reflection and response to the traditional concept of family affection and social structure. With the changes of the times and the development of society, the value and meaning of people's relationships such as family, friendship, and love are also changing. In this process, young people choose to "break off their relatives", which is also to explore and shape their social identity and identity.
As a member of modern society, we have all experienced various struggles and challenges with our relatives to a greater or lesser extent. As the most important part of interpersonal relationships, family affection carries the continuation of family traditions and culture, and is also an important support for individual growth and development. However, the pluralism and transformation of modern society have brought new challenges and entanglements to kinship relationships. The choice between family affection and self-worth has become a difficult problem for young people. The emergence of the phenomenon of "severing relatives" is a manifestation and choice of this problem.
In my opinion, "breaking off" is both a regret and a relief. In the face of conflicts and troubles between relatives, we need to balance our emotions and positions and find ways to live in harmony with our loved ones. Respect and understanding are the bonds that bind family together, and communication and tolerance are the keys to resolving differences. With the help of modern technology, social networking and other tools, we can better maintain family ties and avoid apathy and alienation. At the intersection of family affection and freedom, tradition and modernity, we need to stick to the sincerity and freedom of our hearts, find a balance point of harmonious coexistence with our loved ones, and jointly create a warm and inclusive family environment.