In traditional Chinese culture, the bride price has always been an important component, seen as a compensation for the man's family and a blessing for the newlyweds' future lives. However, with the changing times, the meaning and value of the bride price are constantly changing. Recently, I heard a little story about the bride price, which gave me a deeper understanding of this traditional custom.
My sister is from Guangxi, she was originally a teacher, my brother-in-law is from Hainan, he used to be a restaurant, a chef and a factory management and engineer, in 2018 my sister went to do a voluntary chain management 1040, and then my brother-in-law went to do a voluntary chain management 1040, and then he met my sister, developed a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, and talked for two years, they have been in a good relationship! Later, they found out that 1040 was a **, so they came out to do serious things, and now my sister is teaching, and my brother-in-law has also gone to Shenzhen to do factory management!
This year, my sister's boyfriend, who is also the future brother-in-law, came to my house for the New Year, and my brother-in-law can speak well, respect the old and love the young, he sent a red envelope of 1,000 yuan to each of my parents, a red envelope of 100 yuan to each of my brother and me, and a red envelope of 300 yuan to each of my grandparents!
When I was in my Chinese New Year's Eve, my brother-in-law asked my mother, "How much dowry do I need to give to marry your daughter?" "On the issue of bride price, my mother said that 80,000 bride price is enough, which is a relatively common amount and a blessing from their family to their daughter. According to my mother's expectations, the bride price of 80,000 yuan is enough to express the sincerity of the man's family and respect for his sister. However, my brother-in-law insisted on giving a bride price of 80,000 yuan, which was 8,000 yuan more than my mother expected.
We were all confused and didn't understand why my brother-in-law would make such a decision. Until one day, my brother-in-law explained: "The bride price of 80,000 means 'getting rich', and I hope that my marriage with your sister will bring wealth and good luck." ”
The brother-in-law also said that the reason why he wanted to give more bride price was because he felt that the bride price was not only an exchange of money, but also a man's respect and gratitude to the woman. In his opinion, my sister is unique and priceless. He is willing to use more bride price to express his love and cherishment for my sister.
Hearing this, my sister and my mother were deeply moved. They know that her brother-in-law is a responsible and responsible man, and he respects not only her family, but also herself. She felt blessed because she had found someone who truly loved her and cherished her.
My brother-in-law's explanation made us suddenly realize. It turned out that he gave a little more on the bride price, not only to show his love and respect for his sister, but also to consider their future life. In this era, the meaning of the bride price has gone beyond the traditional scope and is more integrated into the expectations and visions of modern people for married life.
This story teaches us that the bride price is not a simple number, it has a profound meaning and value behind it. In different cultures and eras, the meaning and value of bride price are constantly evolving and deepening. For newlyweds, the bride price is not only a compensation for the family, but also a blessing and expectation for the future life.
With the progress of society and the renewal of concepts, we should look at the traditional custom of bride price more rationally. While respecting traditional culture, we should also pay attention to its integration and evolution with modern life. Only in this way can we develop in the inheritance and give new vitality and vitality to this traditional custom.