If life can always be as fresh as the first sight, the first encounter is always unforgettable...
The first greeting, the moment when your voice intertwines, the warmth of the first eye meeting, the moment when your heart throbs and accelerates, and...Ahem, ahem....
The decisive moment when I first embarked on a new stage of my life...
But, then again, what kind of changes and growth do people experience between their first attempt and multiple practices?
1.First love vs nth love.
First love. In the prologue of love, there seems to be a group of jubilant deer jumping in my heart. Just one eye contact is enough to make the heart surge, and it can't be calm for a long time.
When we first taste the taste of love, we walk on thin ice, careful, and treat him as gently as a fragile treasure, for fear that if we are not careful, we will lose or destroy this beauty.
We are fully committed and eager to pour all our tenderness and love into Him. The first time to hold hands, the first time to hug, the first time to kiss goodbye, all seem so precious, as if even the air is filled with sweetness.
We are convinced that he is the one and only.
2. Perfect people who are willing to let the whole world witness our happiness. The promise of this moment seems to be engraved for eternity.
The nth time in love.
However, when love comes again, there is a subtle change in our mindset. The first love is because of the heartbeat, while the nth love is more about whether it is suitable or not.
Instead of being as unreservedly committed as we were the first time, we're starting to weigh the pros and cons and consider whether we can stay together for a long time.
As our courage fades, we begin to dread falling in love again. Because the loss of the past has left us with so much pain and shadow, we are afraid to experience the same hurt again.
Therefore, when love comes again, our first reaction is no longer joy and acceptance, but avoidance and resistance.
We no longer show sweetness easily, and we don't show off our love in front of everyone. Because we have experienced failures and setbacks again and again, we have lost our initial faith and longing for love.
Our hearts are getting tighter and closer, and we just hope to find someone we can spend the rest of our lives with.
2. The first time to sleep vs the nth time to sleep.
Sleep for the first time.
In the early days of love, we always want to be together all the time, and sleeping in our arms at night is like a reassurance to each other, making us all feel very reassured.
I remember the first time I went to her room for the night, and although she was a little hesitant, she finally agreed to me. We just like that, making pillows with one hand and hugging each other with the other, and slept sweetly all night.
Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and find that we are still holding us tightly, and that feeling is really happy.
Sleep for the nth time.
As time passed, the relationship changed. Although they still sleep in the same bed, they are no longer as intimate as before.
Each has its own space, and sometimes it even feels like a neighbor. When I go home every day, I no longer have that kind of anticipation and excitement, but it becomes a burden.
Instead of paying attention to each other, we each went about our own things, playing on our phones, watching TV, and finally falling asleep alone.
This feeling makes me sad, and I am reminded of the famous saying: "Time is a knife to kill pigs." "It has really changed us a lot.
Slowly, the feelings became weaker and weaker, and the warmth of the family disappeared. Now that we are together, it is more like fulfilling responsibilities and obligations than out of true love and care.
3. The first quarrel vs the nth quarrel.
The first quarrel.
In the journey of love, quarreling seems to be an unavoidable stop. Just like the weather, there are always cloudy and rainy days, but my heart still hopes for sunny days.
Tony Leung said: "It's really not easy to maintain a relationship, we can work hard to correct our shortcomings, and we can also slowly hone in on the differences in personality."
However, once lost, it can never be recovered. "When getting along with your beloved, there are always some small bumps:
She may suddenly say "don't you love me anymore"; Or you did what she asked you to do, and she was still not satisfied; Or maybe she's happy one moment and unhappy the other......These can make two people quarrel.
However, most boys will take the initiative to admit their mistakes when they quarrel for the first time. Because they really care about her and don't want to make her sad because of a little thing.
They knew she just wanted a hug, a word of comfort.
The nth quarrel.
As the relationship deepened, the quarrel seemed to become more and more serious. Sometimes if you don't say the right thing, it can break up two people.
Boys begin to understand girls' minds better, but they may also become more sensitive because they understand. When a girl says something harsh in an argument, the guy may not be able to help but get angry.
They forgot how they fell in love with her in the first place, and saw her as an enemy. They quarrel to win, but forget to consider her feelings. Some boys will even shout loudly to break up.
But true love doesn't only count when it's sweet. But when quarreling, you can still remember the good of the other party, and you are willing to bow your head first and admit your mistakes.
Because the most important thing in love is not who is right and who is wrong, but whether you are willing to change and tolerate for the sake of each other.
Therefore, in love, the most precious thing is not those days of sweet words, but those moments when you can hug each other tightly after a quarrel.