Xiao Chen held a stack of paper in his hand and looked around at the door of the café, his brows furrowed and his lips pursed tightly. The aroma of coffee wafted out, but it didn't seem to have anything to do with Xiao Chen, she sometimes looked around, sometimes lowered her head and paced, and even sometimes accidentally tripped over the steps of the door.
In the distance, someone seemed to walk towards Xiao Chen, waving as he went. Xiao Chen kept his head down and paced back and forth, not noticing anyone coming.
The person who came was a fashionably dressed middle-aged woman, and she called out in her mouth: "Xiao Chen, Xiao Chen!" ”
Xiao Chen seemed to be suddenly woken up from his thoughts, looking up at the voice**, his eyes were confused.
After a few seconds, he came back to his senses and continued: "New new sister." ”
The woman took Xiao Chen's shoulders and walked into the café together. After the two of them sat down, Xiao Chen handed over the paper in his hand for the woman to see. The woman smiled and took it and said, "Isn't this good?" What are you worried about? Xiao Chen said: "I don't think I will be able to pass the probationary period." I have more than 20 such documents. The result is exactly the same every time. ”
The woman put the paper on the table and asked, "Why can't you pass the probationary period every time?" Is the reason the same every time? ”
Xiao Chen shook his head: "Some of them were fired because I didn't like the content of the work, and I was dismissed for being passive and slacking off." Some were fired because they were not good with the leadership. There are also layoffs in the company and layoffs, and there are others who I really don't want to do and leave my job. In short, it's different every time. ”
The woman owed herself and continued: "So, you are afraid that this job will not be done for long, and you are so afraid that you dare not go up and report it, right? ”
Xiao Chen's eyes suddenly turned red, and his voice lowered: "I had nightmares all night last night, dreaming of my former leader and former colleagues, dreaming that I was eating, and the leader called me to the office and told me that I was fired for bad performance. ”
The coffee on the table wafted out a burst of aroma, but somehow, it was a bitter aroma. Xiao Chen stirred the coffee round and round with the stirring stick, and the foam on the surface of the coffee became more and more, as if he was about to jump out to make a sound for Xiao Chen.
The woman said: "Being frustrated on the same type of thing often can be a huge blow to self-esteem and self-confidence. There will even be a stress response, as soon as the same thing happens, the brain will uncontrollably appear disaster warning, and want to run away. If you can't run away, you will give yourself negative cues until the cues come true, and tell yourself, 'Look, I'll say it's going to be like this.'" ’”
Xiao Chen nodded hurriedly: "Yes, I am like this, and I can't even control everything I did in the company when I sleep at night, just like a movie, reflect on whether there is a problem here, and reflect on whether there is something wrong there." I can't sleep all night. The hand holding the coffee couldn't help but tremble.
The woman gently patted the back of Xiao Chen's hand and said softly, "It's not your fault, anyone in a situation like yours will have a similar reaction." It's an injury reaction to survival anxiety and maladjustment in the hybrid workplace. Frequent turnover has become your trauma. As soon as you touch it or show signs of it, or when someone mentions it, you will immediately have a panic reaction. At night, the movie that comes to mind is called 'Flashback.'"
Flashbacks are severe post-traumatic stress disorder. The same scene or image appears uncontrollably in the mind or in the dream. Each flashback is a damage cure. Physically and psychologically, there is a double stress.
Flashback, also known as "intrusive forced to experience trauma again", literary, is "the past reappearing".
A man who lived through the Nazi Revolution wrote in his autobiography that 20 years after the end of the war, he could still dream of returning to Auschwitz, seeing his comrades once again hanged one by one, and once again fleeing from the sharpening SS soldiers.
Flashbacks are not only timeless and stand the test of time, but they also come and go regardless of the occasion. Whether you are at work or resting, the unbearable scene of the past suddenly falls from the sky, as if you have been electrocuted, and you are in it again.
Any stimulus from the outside world, such as images, sounds, smells, environments, and people, can induce flashbacks to occur, bringing the person back to the moment of trauma.
Recurring dreams over a period of time are actually a manifestation of traumatic stress. There is a term for this in psychology called repetitive compulsive impulses.
Repetitive compulsive impulses, which cannot be controlled by the will, and the power to resist change is also very strong, that is, you can't do it without dreaming about it.
If you have the above manifestations, you must intervene in the psyche in time**, through psychoanalytic methods, to understand the past self, we can liberate the present self and give strength to the future self.
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