In today's world, due to all kinds of stress, more and more, people suffer from depression; suffering from insomnia; headache, dizziness; Hypertension is also increasing day by day, and the strange thing is that the people who have these symptoms are not workers and peasants, but the vast majority of them are intellectuals, white-collar workers, gray-collar workers, gold-collar workers, and even business owners, celebrities, etc.
This is because the more knowledge a person has, the greater his comparativeness and jealousy, and besides, professional knowledge is not also equal to wisdom, and a person may be very knowledgeable, but it does not mean that he can "see through" and "let go".
Because of the comparison, people are easy to be impetuous, and because of the comparison, people are more likely to be eager for quick success
Enlightened people are happy, and the premise of enlightenment requires meditation and thinking, Confucius said: "If you learn without thinking, you will be reckless, and if you think without learning, you will die." Some people have learned a lot of knowledge and have a good memory, but they lack wisdom and become discouraged and pessimistic when they encounter setbacks. It is reported that an excellent high school student, when he was admitted to college, he answered the paper very well, but he was always nervous, for fear of falling off the list, and later when the list was issued, his admission letter really did not arrive, he was in a hurry, ashamed to take poison and commit suicide, fortunately in time, when he came back to life, the notice actually arrived, the original computer error, delayed, but the school knew his reason, it decided not to admit him, the reason is, such a little setback can not withstand it, what can be done in the future?
It seems that the school is cruel, but in fact, similar incidents abound in society, such as people who fall out of love and drink to pour their sorrows, commit suicide, some people turn against each other after divorce, revenge, and some people are jealous of others and slander and frame ....... These are all concrete manifestations of the absence of "enlightenment". Really calm down and think about it, why do we sacrifice the "inside" for the "outside"? Why can't you keep a little "normal"? Lao Tzu believes that as long as it is ordinary, it is enlightenment, it is not something special, it is something that a person must achieve, it is not an achievement, it is you – it is the flowering of your absolute ordinary. If you want to be extraordinary, it is the disease of the ego.
Osho said, "The ego always wants to be extraordinary, to be special, to be unique, to be incomparable—that's the strong desire of the ego."
Lao Tzu, Zhuangzi, these wise men, they are willing to be an ordinary person, an ordinary person. It is reported that Lao Tzu was forced to write the "Tao Te Ching" of 5,000 words, otherwise he would not want to say anything, he did not want to write, Zhuangzi refused to be "born", and it was not uncommon to do anything as a prime minister, but they achieved "extraordinary" in the ordinary realm. History proves that honor and fame often flee from those who desperately pursue her, and prefer to follow those who do not pursue them, just like a beautiful woman, who often dislikes and spits on those sycophants and flattering sons, and throws admiration and autumn waves to the iron-clad man.
People often only see the appearance of others, and they dream of becoming a star and an entrepreneur ....... Don't you know the blood, tears and helplessness behind the stars, the risks and anxieties of entrepreneurs' investment. Envy others, is to reject yourself, to desire to be able to become that kind of person, surrounded by flowers and applause, living against the backdrop of famous cars and mansions, it is right to want to change, the key is to change your mentality first, so that your heart calms down first.
The first state of enlightenment is to accept yourself, you are you, you are the great miracle of the world, it can be said that "there is no one before, and there is no one after". Because there are no two leaves in the world that are absolutely the same, how can there be two people who are absolutely the same as you? If you are unique, why compare yourself to others?
According to zoologists, why don't animals suffer as much pain and anxiety as humans? The reason is that the animal accepts itself and never wants to be another species. The tiger didn't want to be a monkey, and the monkey didn't want to be a goshawk .......
This is not the case with human beings, teachers want to be officials, doctors want to be entrepreneurs, scientists want to be stars, and even men want to become women, and women want to become men. In the first half of his life, the author had several thoughts about changing careers, wanting to be a journalist, a lawyer, a big business boss, and an artist.
Accept yourself, in order to develop yourself to the greatest extent, so as not to fall into the historical tragedy of "Dong Shi Xiaofeng", accept yourself, you can live happily, and happiness is the premise of health, is the measure of success, is the standard of defining whether "success" is defined by internal perception, in a sense, if only external objective standards to define "success", then human beings have nothing to call "success". Objectively speaking, there will always be people in the world who are bigger than you and richer than you. Hasn't even Bill Gates's wealth been surpassed by Walton, Warren Buffett and others?
If you really want to compare, then compare with yourself, compare with yourself yesterday, see if you are a little bit better in all aspects, if you are improving every day, it is growing and successful!
The second state of enlightenment is to complete oneself, a successful life is not what you gain, but what you become in the end, how much you get is something outside the body, it can be gained, it can be lost, it is not lost for the time being, and it will be lost in the end! It is a spiritual pursuit, a kind of spiritual sustenance, which can not only bring great satisfaction and long-term happiness to oneself, but also influence others and purify this world! Because if human beings fall into utilitarianism for a long time, there will be more wars, more plagues, more **, and more crimes....... If everyone reduces a little bit of materialism, power, lust, poison, and so on, the world will be more peaceful, more peaceful, and more joyful.
Osho said: "There are only two ways to choose, either you reject yourself or you accept yourself, then there are two other possibilities that are open, or you reject yourself in a worldly way, or you reject yourself in a non-worldly way, and if you reject yourself in a worldly way, it means that you want to be more beautiful than you are, you want to be stronger than your heart is now, you want to be richer than you are, you want to have a bigger house than you are, and this is rejection in a worldly way." If you reject yourself in a non-secular way, in a religious way, ...... youYou want to become a Buddha, you want to have God's ......Both are false, and both are equally ridiculous.
To summarize the essence of these two types of rejection, one is the so-called "positive rejection" and the other is "negative rejection".
Worldly rejection is to be dominated by desires, to be led by desires by the nose, you may sometimes get a little temporary happiness, but you will not, and you will not be able to get long-term happiness, because desires are endless, so you will never continue to be happy.
Non-worldly rejection means that you have to give up all earthly pleasures in order to attain positive results and attain liberation, and no one can prove the future state and results, so there is no need to delve into it.
Accepting oneself is a kind of "open to fate" state of life, to be satisfied with a little materially, and strive for more, so that you can be quiet and happy at the level of spirit and soul, which is probably the mentality of "contentment and happiness" that the ancients often said. On the other hand, if you blindly reject yourself, imitate others, worry, anxiety, and jealousy, then how can you not lose sleep?