"Fan Sijie" says: "If you want to be good and stay away from evil, first change the law and then do good." "If we want to be blessed more and stay away from calamity, before we talk about doing good, we must first change our mistakes and be consistent with each other. The host Bai Yansong often said in his speech: "After the age of 30, we have to do more to reduce our life expectancy." "How to reflect on yourself, correct yourself, and do life subtraction? In fact, if you quit these four bad virtues, your life will become more and more blessed.
If a person does not know how to be low-key and humble, even geniuses can become mediocre. Tang Bohu's starting point was the end point of most people at that time, and he was lost in a "stupid" word and didn't know how to converge. The 29-year-old Tang Bohu participated in the Yingtianfu public examination and won the first place "Xie Yuan", shocking the whole of Suzhou. As soon as life smiled at him, he began to panic. Riding a high-headed horse with Xu Jing and carrying gifts on his back, he swaggered through the city, and was called the master. You have to have a good relationship with the examiner Cheng Minzheng, it is normal to visit, and the two were also considered protégés at that time. Here's the mistake, putting on a show at God's feet. So after investigating to the end, this led to the famous "Cheng Min Political Leakage Case" in the history of the Ming Dynasty. As the saying goes, "When the sky is crazy, it rains, and when people are crazy, something happens." Therefore, Tang Bohu was deprived of the status of Jinshi. Some people are like this, they don't know how to keep a low profile after taking a lesson. Wang Yangming once said: "Knowing light arrogance is conscience, and knowing light arrogance is a thing." "Only by knowing one's own shortcomings, knowing oneself, and guarding against arrogance and rashness can we expand our own pattern and move towards the broad world.
The reason why Danzhu, the younger brother of the ancient sage Shun and the son of Yao, did nothing in his life was because of their arrogance. To achieve selflessness, one must not be self-centered, otherwise it is arrogant. The ancient saints had many virtues, but they were nothing more than selfishness. Humility is the foundation of all good character; Arrogance is the head of all bad qualities. Humility is a kind of life wisdom. Throughout the ages, the more powerful people are, the more they know how to lower their posture, quit pride, restrain their blades, and always remain humble, so that life can go steadily and far.
The best practice in life is to have no desires and no desires, and only by doing well can you feel the happiness of life. I am reminded of a fable I read: Once upon a time, a farmer saved a snake, and in return for saving his life, the snake said to the farmer, "I can grant your wish, and you can bring it." The farmer was so pleased to hear that he begged the snake to provide him with food, clothing, and shelter. Without saying a word, the snake fulfilled the farmer's wish and built him a large house with a lot of food and clothing. Later, the peasants demanded more and more, from simple food and clothing to becoming officials, and even wanting to be emperors. The serpent finally saw that the farmer's desires were a bottomless pit and swallowed him at once. So, people who are too greedy will one day ruin their hands. Our ancestors said, "The greatest happiness in the world is desirelessness, and the greatest misfortune in the world is dissatisfaction." ”
When a mosquito sucks blood, its body becomes several times larger. If no one interferes with the mosquito, it will continue to suck blood and then die. It's a heart-wrenching thing. Give up greedy thoughts and live in the moment, time will be better and the heart will be calm. Life must know how to "be content and happy" in order to increase the joy of life and make life better and better. Therefore, we must learn to be content, quit greed, learn to appreciate the beauty of life in the distance, see our hearts clearly, stay away from everything, cherish what we have, let go of what does not belong to us, and if the mentality is good, life will be naturally good.
There is a famous calligrapher and painter in contemporary China. His name was Qigong and he was the ninth grandson of Emperor Yongzheng of the Qing Dynasty. His life was full of ups and downs, but in his later years, his fame resounded around the world. Many wealthy merchants were willing to pay large sums of money in order to get his inkstones. In the face of these chaebols sent to the door, Qigong has always been unmoved, and still maintains the demeanor of a generation of grandmasters.
Human greed can easily ruin a person, so be sure not to let your desires become too big, because as a person's desires become bigger and bigger, then the person will become more and more greedy. A lot of people just want to get something through the wrong way, so always resist the outside world.
Zeng Guofan said: "The mediocre people in the world are defeated by gossip in ancient and modern times. "There was a young man who was very lazy. He can't take care of himself every day. One day, when his parents were going to go away, before leaving, they burned a piece of bread and hung it around the young man's neck so that he could take a few bites when he was hungry. When his parents returned, the young man had starved to death, and the bread was still half round. As a result, the young man only eats what his mouth can't reach, and he doesn't bother to move what he can't reach.
The diligent person is difficult in the world, and the lazy person has everything in his life. Get rid of laziness, be diligent and enterprising, roll up your sleeves, work hard, step by step, and move forward solidly, you can accumulate small victories and change the trajectory of fate. In the pursuit of success and the realization of dreams, laziness is the worst enemy. All achievements and wealth in life must rely on their own efforts and struggles.
In us, strong inertia and great potential coexist. In the absence of stress, people tend to become lazy, and with a certain amount of pressure, we start working towards a goal, and the potential is stimulated. Even if a person has extraordinary talents, if he does not put into action and effort, he will end up with nothing.
Without diligence and dedication, life is doomed to decay. Laziness is an irresponsible attitude that stifles the potential for personal development. When a person lacks motivation and perseverance, he often fails to achieve his goals. Laziness is said to be innate and easy to form habits. The best way to deal with laziness is our willpower. Don't always say that your willpower is weak, it's because you don't exercise consciously.
We all know that taking the first step is difficult, but if we can't take a big one, we can take a small one. Willpower can also be cultivated little by little. One of the reasons why it is difficult for a person to achieve his desires is that there are too many burdens and it is difficult to get rid of certain constraints. Only letting go is the beginning of success.
There is an interesting story in Leitz. Sheng wanted to rebel, but hesitated, so he asked Confucius: "I want to rebel secretly, is it okay?" Confucius said: "The stones in the water can be fished out by the master swimmers of Wu Kingdom, and the chefs of different rivers can taste them." "There is no such thing as an impermeable wall. What kind of conspiracy will there be? Win is not convinced, continue to ask. Confucius said, "A shrimp cannot go into the water without water, and a wild beast cannot run without a sore foot, so the best words are silence, and the best actions are still." "I don't understand the teachings of Confucius, I hold a grudge, I try to fail, and I bring about my own destruction.
The needle in the palm of the hand is a "plaything" that can be thrown away, used to mend clothes, or used for enjoyment. If you hold it too tightly, the needle will hurt your hand and it will be very painful. A lot of times, people are attached to one person and one thing, but in the end a lot of people can't do anything about it. In fact, this attachment is just an obsession, such as loving someone, loving someone you are destined to get, this is an obsession. Although you often think of him, often think of the old days, but you can't get him in the end. If you don't let go, if you're still immersed in your own obsessions, then you're the only one who suffers. If you are too attached to the past and the future, you are the biggest waste of the present, and it is extremely shameful to waste it, especially the waste of time, because it is consuming your own life.
Focus only on the present, firmly do everything in front of you, be a good person, do things well, why be nostalgic for the past, why worry about the future? In this way we can attain true freedom of mind. Those who are obsessed with their past are annoyed but don't, so it's better to simply let go, get a sense of ease, and make themselves open-minded and transparent. Don't always think about letting go of risks after gaining and losing, will time stop because you are alone? If a person always lives in attachment, then he can no longer have future happiness.
If you want the rest of your life to be filled with happiness, you have to convince yourself to forget yesterday and let go of obsessions is an understanding of life. Letting go of others is actually letting go of yourself, life is in a hurry, we always have to try to put everything aside, only know how to cherish yourself, is to truly become mature. Too much attachment to people and things is also a major "evil virtue" in life, and we should let go of the attachment in our hearts and focus on living in the present. The past is gone, no matter how we change it, and the future, no matter how we plan it, is yet to come, and it is full of uncertainty.
Life is a long journey, and we can't ** the scenery of the future, but we can shape and change our destiny by giving up arrogance, giving up laziness, controlling greed, and letting go of obsessions. I believe that as long as we can avoid these four "bad virtues", we will be able to embark on the path of success and happiness and enjoy our hard-won happiness in the future. From now on, let's create our own brilliant life with wisdom, hard work and humility.