"When we were so intense about the world, the world suddenly became gentle," Yu said. Life is a long road, and making yourself "not easy to mess with" can make the road ahead smoother and smoother. So, what are the characteristics of these unruly people?
Once in class, Socrates gave his ** an assignment and asked them to do one thing, which was very simple, to throw their hands 100 times a day. A week later, Socrates asked how many people were still doing it, and 99% of his disciples did. A month later, he asked who was still holding out. At this time, only 50% of his ** is doing. A year later, most of them had forgotten about this convention and only one had insisted, and that was Plato.
At first, it's easy to get interested in something, but it's easy to get hot within three minutes. Few make it to the end. And those who are really not easy to mess with, they will not forget your proactive thinking, they will stick to one thing and try to do one thing well. After the results, the foreigner will sigh: "Why did he succeed?" ”
A truly unruly person not only has super patience and perseverance, but also can persist for a long time until he succeeds, even if it requires him to fight against the ** forces. Imagine that a person who can "win the last" is not a person who is not easy to mess with? This kind of person is a typical portrayal of "it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years". They can always stand up for what they believe in. Someone else may have given up a long time ago, but he won't. He will always stick to it and use his own methods to achieve his goals. Most of these people are generous, have their own beliefs in their hearts, and are also full of positive energy. Whatever you do, you will succeed.
In the sixteenth year of Qianlong, Zheng Banqiao went to Shanxi to perform official duties. The local king held a banquet and invited Zheng Banqiao to eat the famous local dish "Confused Cuisine". After eating, Zheng Banqiao was full of praise and wrote four words: "I am rarely confused". Throughout Zheng Banqiao's life, it can be described in four words: cynical. He is not very power-hungry, but he is also very conscientious and responsible. On the surface, he looks confused, but he is smart everywhere when dealing with people. As a result, Zheng Banqiao was able to complete it from beginning to end, and was rarely confused. Today, it has become a famous quote in life.
The real meaning of this is that you can't taste it without experiencing "social beatings". But keep in mind that these people who pretend to be confused on the surface, but are very smart on the inside, it is better not to mess with them, because they are really not easy to mess with. They have their own ideas, have their own ideas and plans for everything they do, and don't easily change their minds because of other people's suggestions. People who take a firm stance are not easy to mess with because they have their own principles and bottom lines, and they are determined not to be violated by others. Once you violate their bottom line, sorry, they will teach you how to be a man with action.
When interacting with people, keeping a good distance is the rule of the game that every adult should follow. People with clear boundaries not only never lack real friends in life, but also make friends more easily. On the one hand, it is "easy" to make friends with someone with clear boundaries, and he will respond immediately when he is offended, rather than taking small things to heart and turning them into big things. On the other hand, people with clear boundaries understand the importance of boundaries in interpersonal interactions, do not want to be offended by others, and certainly do not take the initiative to offend others. People with clear boundaries have clear logic, clear organization, reasonable words and deeds, and no one wants to "provoke" such people.
There is a group of people who have their own plans and plans every day, and once they have made their own plans, they stick to them. At the same time, they will not allow anyone to interrupt their plans, because nothing can stop them. If you don't bother them while they're carrying out their plans, they'll be very angry when their plans are interrupted. This kind of person has strong execution ability, and the probability of success will be higher than that of ordinary people.
The more confident people are, the harder they are to mess with. It's not arrogance or narcissism, it's a confident state of mind. A confident person will show great abilities. He believes he can solve the problem. Even in the face of difficulties, he will not give up easily, but rely on his own ability to solve problems.
Confident people can stay calm in any situation. People often doubt their abilities, but confident people never doubt. He believes in his own worth and his ability to overcome any difficulties.
This kind of people who are not easy to mess with usually have one thing in common, and that is that they believe in time, but not in shortcuts. They often struggle with the past and the future, which forces them to constantly think and find a way out of their self-redemption and future. Slowly, they gradually formed a vague plan for the future, knew what to do, what to do, and vaguely felt the road ahead. Once the path is determined, they will grope their way forward while addressing the struggles that arise every once in a while. However, they may hesitate to be caught up in some "shortcuts**, but they usually give up and move on."
In the process, you will find that these people do not like to covet small favors and do not like to owe favors to others. They are like lone rangers, walking forward with their heads closed, giving everything to time, to the future, to the destiny they believe in.
In interpersonal communication, in addition to some "stuffy pots", there is another kind of person who cannot be ridiculed, and that is extremely serious people. No matter what they face, they will take it seriously, plan carefully, and execute it seriously. The word "anticlimactic" does not exist in the dictionary of such people. Everything has a beginning and an end, so they don't have the opportunity to "make the big things small and the small things small". Once this kind of person is provoked, it can be said that when they encounter a thorn, they will carefully count each thorn, and there is no less than one.
People who have high requirements for themselves must have high requirements for everything about themselves. They have clear goals, superb planning, cautious steps, and a never-give-up spirit until they reach their goals.
Some people are called good old people by outsiders. They would rather grieve themselves than satisfy each other. No matter how many wrong things others have done, they will easily forgive. They are completely bodhisattva-minded. But these people often have a bad life because when they don't care about their feelings, others don't mind stepping on the soles of their feet. In the book "Zefa Don't Know Each Other", Sanmao once wrote: "If kindness is just blind giving, then I would rather not have this kindness." ”
Being considerate of others is a mutual affection, not a responsibility. The most important thing in our lives is to live well, cherish our feelings, and sacrifice our goodness is better than nothing, otherwise you will end up losing yourself.
Other people's mistakes actually stem from your own connivance. If a person wants to bully you, he will only test it first to see if you will resist and refuse. It is precisely because you do not resist, refuse, or humiliate that others will do whatever it takes to think that you are a person who can be dealt with at will. Only by being brave enough to say no when you are reluctant will you be able to prevent yourself from being bullied.
Later, the newcomer decisively rejected the unreasonable demands of others. Although there will be some unpleasant words and some difficulties at first, as his work is on the right track, his colleagues gradually know that this person is not easy to mess with, and he is no longer a white rabbit.
In the face of other people's irrationality, your own attitude is the key. People who are really hard to mess with never choose to take sides, and only focus on doing their own thing. Even if they are involved in some kind of dispute, others are helpless because they have always ignored others, like "punching cotton", making people helpless.
Their goal is very clear, not to be a smart person, but to be a person of great wisdom, to really delve into, find out all the doorways, make one breakthrough after another in the professional field, and make themselves irreplaceable. Of course, the road will be difficult and will require more effort than the average person. As Lu Xun said, "I just spend all the time other people spend on coffee writing."
It can be seen that every little thing in life will rise to the height of morality and law. When strong and strict execution became their beliefs, as you can imagine, they decided that they could not tolerate anyone breaking their daily plans and sabotaging their calculations. They are really unruly people.
As Kazuo Inamori once said, "If you laugh too much, others will think that you have no temper." "A lot of people think that people who love to laugh are easy to get along with and don't get angry even if they are bullied. This understanding is one-sided, because people who love to laugh will turn against each other when they are picky, and people who love to laugh are also people with tempers, but they are good at controlling their temper and will not be easily exposed.
There is a bottom line in life. If you touch someone else's bottom line, don't blame them for being rude to you. People who are not easy to mess with usually "suppress big moves". Those who lose their temper easily and let others know what they think at every turn, often fail to achieve great success, because others already understand their character and know how to follow them on the surface and throw stones at them behind their backs. On the contrary, those who are restrained, calm, and ** are often unfathomable, making it impossible for others to cope and calculate.
This kind of person is usually very restrained, does not break out easily, and always seems gentle and quiet, but it is a deterrent to people. People's lives are not easy, and the roles are different, there are strong and weak, but the only constant is that the weak will be bullied. In fact, this world is originally an undercurrent, there are crises everywhere, we live in this world to manage ourselves, it is better to be a little kind, don't be afraid of things when you encounter them, and have your own principles and bottom line. So, we shouldn't offend these people easily, otherwise we won't get any face.