Life is our own, we don't have to please others, but we can't get bored either.
People who really have a pattern will not do the following five things, see if you yourself have been hit.
1.Love to grab words
Talking grabbing does not mean that you are knowledgeable and quick to respond, it will only make people think that you are a person with no cultivation and no quality.
And people who are really powerful will behave modestly and politely, and will not talk to others.
Because whenever they express their opinions, they are justified and able to convince others, so there is no need to rush to talk.
Even in their own professional field, they have knowledge that they don't know, and it may be ridiculous to make blind statements.
Being good at listening and thinking, and then organizing your own language, is a sign of politeness and knowledge.
2.Revealing people short
People live with a face and a tree with a skin, no matter how mixed they are, everyone wants to save face.
Some people are just straightforward, they will say whatever they want, and they will tell the truth without concealment.
This will offend a lot of people, because sometimes it doesn't matter what the facts are, and others don't care, and face is often more important than the facts.
Exposing others will be embarrassed, rude and hurtful, and not good for yourself, so there is no need to do it.
Between people, respect is mutual, and leaving a little morality is also for your own good.
3.Greedy for small and cheap
Love takes advantage of small advantages, although it can be beneficial in the present, but it is not worth it in the long run.
Everyone is not stupid, sometimes they suffer a small loss, they just don't want to say it, but it doesn't mean that they don't know or mind.
Developing the habit of being greedy for small and cheap will destroy your popularity, and if you encounter difficulties in the future, no one will take care of you.
It is easy to suffer a big loss if you are greedy for a small profit, and someone will take advantage of your greed and give you a small benefit, but there is a big trap behind it.
Don't be greedy for small gains, so as not to be disgusted and hated, and you can also avoid being deceived.
4.Speaking ill of people behind their backs
No one says behind anyone, and no one says anything in front of anyone, this is the ugliness of human nature, and it is also the common feeling of human beings.
But people with patterns don't do that, they don't offend people for the sake of a momentary tongue.
Because there is no unventilated wall, if you say bad things about others, sooner or later it will reach the ears of the person concerned, bringing unnecessary trouble to yourself.
And if you speak ill of others behind your back, the listener will pander to you on the surface, but in their hearts they will despise you.
A person who has the ability will never slander others behind his back, but will only be tough in front of him.
5.Caring too much about others
No matter how good the relationship is, it is also necessary to maintain an appropriate distance between people, and there should be no sense of boundaries.
Everyone has their own things to do, and they all have private secrets that they don't want others to know.
If you care too much about others, you may invade their privacy and make them feel uncomfortable.
And if you care too much, you will seem to be a little cheap, but it will lead to you not being cherished.
Caring for others properly, not far away, not close, is the most comfortable.