Blood ties are not the only emotional bond, the real connection comes from mutual understanding and support. This sentence touches on the complex dynamics between family and affection, especially after the death of parents, the true colors of some relatives begin to be revealed, and their behavior even makes people feel "inferior to outsiders". Against this backdrop, we can't help but ponder, what makes these blood ties emotionally rift? Why do some relatives, over time, become so rusty that we prefer to reduce our dealings with them?
First of all, relatives who have a bad relationship with their parents are often already a sensitive topic in the family. They may be alienated from their parents because of past misunderstandings, rivalries, or differences in values. This long-term disharmony not only affects their relationship with their parents, but also indirectly affects their connection with other family members. After the death of a parent, these old grudges may be revived, leading to their isolation in the family. They may not be interested in family matters or have a strong stance on sensitive issues such as inheritance, which makes it particularly difficult for other family members to get along with them or even reluctant to engage with them.
Snobbish relatives are another type of relative, and their ties to the family are often based on interests. While the parents are alive, they may maintain a superficial harmony because they can benefit from it. However, when these interests no longer exist, their true colors are revealed. After the death of their parents, such relatives may gradually become estranged because they are not satisfied with the distribution of the inheritance or have no more benefits to be gained, and their attitudes and behaviors are disappointing, and they may even feel that it is better not to associate with such relatives.
Finally, relatives who don't know how to be grateful can be the most chilling type. These relatives may have received help and support from their parents or family in the past, but they lack the recognition and gratitude they deserve. When they are facing difficulties in their lives, they may seek help from their families, but once they get out of it, they forget about it. This ungrateful behavior makes other family members feel taken advantage of, creating feelings of resistance and alienation towards such relatives.
After the death of a parent, the relationship between family members often goes through a series of adjustments and trials. Relatives who have a bad relationship with their parents, snobbish relatives, and relatives who don't know how to be grateful can all show up in the process, creating additional challenges for families. In the face of such a situation, we need to be more understanding and tolerant, but at the same time, we must also learn to protect ourselves, and for such relatives, we should try to contact as little as possible if we can.