Normally, we think that those who are deep in the city are very cunning, so that people are unguardable, and they cannot be interacted with.
In fact, there are many sides to everything, and the same is true for the "city government".
"Han Feizi" said: "Between the battle formations, you are not tired of deceit, and you are just cheating." ”No matter how old you are, you have to fight with the people around you, and if you don't have a few brushes, it will be difficult to mix well.
You don't have to be too "direct" to be a person, learn to turn a corner, make people unpredictable, and you can hide yourself, so that you have the opportunity to be under the noses of others.
Learn to be a person with a deep city, as long as your original intention is good, then you can win life.
Don't tell anyone about your plans.
Many people, if they have any ideas, they immediately tell others, as if they are afraid that the world will not know.
There are also people who use the "perfect plan" as the capital to show off, thinking that if they do it according to the plan, they will have a grand blueprint.
I saw hope, and my life suddenly became brighter. This is a good thing, but when the people around you know about it, they will immediately be wary of you, especially those who are traveling with you. As the saying goes, peers are enemies.
Even the person who played well with you, if he knew your plan, he would inevitably not say it and leak the news to your opponent.
Treating a plan as a secret and then sticking to it makes all the difference.During the Northern Song Dynasty, the minister Cao Wei led the soldiers of the frontier and fought a small victory in the Gansu area.
The soldiers drove the cattle and sheep left behind by the enemy soldiers and slowly retreated.
There were fears that the retreat was too slow and could give the enemy a chance to breathe and counterattack.
Cao Wei insisted on not throwing away the cattle and sheep, causing the soldiers to walk slower and slower.
Suddenly, the enemy began to counterattack.
Cao Wei sent an envoy to the enemy camp and said, "You are tired, give you a little rest, and then come to the decisive battle." ”
After a quarter of an hour, Cao Wei ordered an attack, and the enemy army was once again routed. Immediately afterwards, the soldiers threw away their cattle and sheep and quickly withdrew.
Cao Wei said: "I just want to walk slowly, so that the other party mistakenly thinks that we have made a mistake." I just want to let the other party rest for a while and lose the sharpness of the **.
Obviously, a series of plans were made public only after they were completed. And so the battle was won.
If the plan is revealed, it is inevitable that someone will "go to the other party to tell the truth". There were also soldiers, who, knowing the plan, slacked off, which led to a decrease in combat effectiveness.
There's an old saying, "The ignorant are fearless." ”On the premise of not knowing the situation, people are brave and not afraid. But afterwards, I was afraid when I thought about it.
Remember the idea that whoever has an ideal of life and a plan to realize it is good at silence, and if he can't, he is rhetoric.
Your disguise, try to be as realistic as possible.
People should dare to show their true faces, and do not do anything that is not dishonorable.
But at some point, people need to disguise.
Pretending to be confused is a kind of disguise; Laugh it off, too.
But if we are not clever enough in our disguise, we will be seen through and become a "smiling tiger" or something like that.
People who are very deep in the city will also have a very "deep" disguise, so that people can't see the flaws.
In Su Shi's writing, there was a mouse, and when it was driven away, it suddenly stopped moving. People thought that the rats were no longer good and let their guard down.
But the rat was unharmed, and when no one was looking, he turned over and fled.
In the animal kingdom, there are many animals that are good at "playing dead", and there are also animals that change their appearance and blend the environment together to avoid damage.
If people can learn how to disguise themselves from animals, they can also gain strength.During the Baoyuan period of the Northern Song Dynasty, the Qiang tribe attacked the border, and the general Di Qing organized soldiers to resist, because they were all new soldiers, they were beaten by their opponents.
A few days later, Di Qing asked a group of veterans, all dressed in the clothes of recruits, and waved the banner of recruits, to fight against the Qiang people again.
When the Qiang saw the recruits, they relaxed their vigilance. The veteran seized the opportunity and won in one fell swoop.
As the saying goes: "Life is like a play, it all depends on acting skills." ”If you don't learn some acting skills, then you can't stand in the middle of the stage. If you don't have a way to "disguise", you will be seen through at a glance, and you can only confront people, often doing things like eggs hitting stones.
It's the usual entertainment, you have to pretend to be drunk to avoid getting drunk completely; When you encounter a broken family and pretend to be confused, there will be no major conflicts. There is learning everywhere in life, don't take it seriously.
Your confrontation should be soft.
Not all people will have the same three views as you, and there are many people who are just working against you.
Of course, you'll also get used to watching a lot of people.
People get along with each other, and if everyone shows their edge, then there is no way to get along. It's like a hedgehog huddling for warmth, and when it gets closer, the greater the damage and the more chilling it is.
People who are deep in the city will become soft in order to protect themselves. The combination of rigidity and softness, overcoming rigidity with softness, can reflect their own wisdom.During the reign of Zhao Guangyi, Taizong of the Song Dynasty, in order to add merit to himself, he arranged for historians to rewrite the process of the Chenqiao Mutiny.
Before the Chen Qiao Mutiny, Zhao Guangyi and Zhao Kuangyin suggested that everyone must strictly abide by the rules and don't rob everywhere. It wasn't until Zhao Kuangyin agreed that Zhao Guangyi breathed a sigh of relief.
After the Chen Qiao mutiny, Zhao Guangyi arrived at the scene as soon as possible to prevent the robbery from happening.
The emperor's order cannot be violated, and the historian can only fabricate a detail of the Chenqiao Mutiny. But later, in the process of writing the "Continuation of the Governance of Tongjian", the historian of the Southern Song Dynasty, Li Tao, found that there were real annotations in the "Old Records". So, Li Tao restored the truth of the matter.
When Yuan Juan was compiling history, he directly deleted the false part of the Chenqiao Mutiny.
As the saying goes, "Those who know the times are the best." ”
When your strength is insufficient, you should "compromise and seek perfection", which is not unproductive, but to protect yourself. As long as you insist on keeping your head down for a while, you will be able to keep your head down, and you can raise your head in the future.
Of course, you can't do it alone, but you hold on to the fundamental strength, and there will always be someone who will help you. If you respond to violence with violence, it's like broken glass, and you won't succeed.
In the "Collection of Aphorisms", it is said: "The room has a clear smell of Zhilan, and the chest has a city and a wide world." ”In the eyes of the ancients, the city is very deep, in fact, it is a great embodiment of the pattern, not necessarily because of the poor character, or because of the mystery.
It is difficult to distinguish between the real and the fake, which can confuse the opponent;The combination of virtual and real can be skillfully forced;Quietly, it can be intimidating, and it is a good way to do things.
When you write everything on your face and say it to others at all times, then you appear frivolous and easy to be seen through.
We are all seeking development in the cracks of society, and without a little skill, we can't do it.
is often left and right, not hypocrisy, but avoiding the real and attacking the false.
Remember, if you want to achieve great things, you need to have a big picture.