What is Blessing? A hundred people have a hundred answers.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "The true happiness of life is nothing but the warmth of the lights and the enrichment of firewood, rice, oil and salt. ”
Tao Yuanming said: "Don't be related to the poor, don't learn from the rich." ”
Either way, it boils down to two things: Material basis, self-feeling.
When we are old, retired, there is no shortage of living expenses, there is no shortage of houses, and our health is good, but when we are depressed, there are still a lot.
It is not difficult to find that the greatest blessing is not in the material and physical, but in our spiritual world.
After going around in a circle, I realized that the elderly still have to respect the traditional virtues of thousands of years and rely on the "old three".
The blessing of being rich and not sick is only on the surface.
A few days ago, in my city, the sun was shining, and in the garden of the community, many elderly people were basking in the sun and learning mahjong skills.
There are also some old people who are walking their babies, taking small **, and having a lot of fun.
Uncle Zhang, a neighbor, sat on the stone pier and smoked vigorously.
I asked, "Uncle, are you unhappy on such a good day?" ”
The uncle sighed: "You don't know, other people's grandchildren are all in elementary school, and my kid is not married yet."
It turned out that the uncle watched others walk the baby, and then looked at his own family, there was no grandchild, and his heart was strange and uncomfortable.
Others complain that it is too hard to bring a baby, but the uncle wants to bear such "suffering".
In fact, these days, too many old people are complaining about the life of bringing a baby, while showing off the fun of bringing a baby. More importantly, in the busyness, I helped my children, and it also reflected my residual heat.
Caigen Tan" has a saying"The heart changes with the environment, and the heart can change the situation." ”
Ask yourself what is the situation that causes you to be in a bad mood and have a sad face every day? It is clear that nothing is missing, but there is a lot missing.
For a period of time, Wang Tiancai of Pingxiang County, Jiangxi Province received a lot of attention, and after she passed away, she left more than 900,000 yuan.
has no descendants, no husband, and relies on the help of the village people in his later years to get through slowly.
Her life was very simple, the money she saved, the money left by her husband, was saved, and her life was not short, and she lived for more than eighty.
But when it comes to blessings, it probably has nothing to do with her.
What is the meaning of money for a lonely old man?
There are also many elderly people, wearing gorgeous clothes, living in suites in the city, and exercising when they go out, but life is not easy. Because he sees no hope.
If you can't find the power of the spirit, you will be decadent. Eat and drink enough every day, walk around, and still haven't gotten rid of the rhythm of "eating and waiting for death".
Pension also depends on the "old three".
There is a famous quote in Walden: "The things that are necessary for the soul of man are not bought with money." ”The greatest happiness comes from the soul, not the liveliness of appearance, nor the abundance of material.
When we are very old, we will grow old naturally, according to the laws of life, be grandparents, look around, and enjoy the fraternity between people.
First, filial piety of children is a blessing.
Raise children to prevent old age, accumulate grain to prevent hunger. Both are indispensable. Without children, the family is not complete.
When we raise our children, but our grandchildren do not appear, it means that our children have become "unmarried, barren, and homeless".
Maybe the children will also accompany the elderly to have a meal during the New Year's holidays, and they will also greet them at ordinary times. But the old man was really unhappy and felt that filial piety was not in place.
The writer Goethe once said: "A king or a farmer, as long as the family is in harmony, he is the happiest person." ”If the family passes on the normal procedure, the elderly will have a hopeful life. Even if you are old and frail, you will be full of energy.
In the family, there is nothing happier than a family reunion, where several generations live together.
Second, it is a blessing for husband and wife to be together.
Tolstoy wrote a lot and made a lot of money in his life, but his wife was nagging and selfish.
The husband and wife have been arguing for many years, and there is no divorce, but they are chilled. Tolstoy's last days, wandering in a small train station.
As the saying goes, "Young couples are old companions." An old-fashioned sentence has supported the happy life of countless old people.
Some people talk about it, and some people look at the scenery together. When you are sick, someone is in a hurry, and someone brings water.
You will meet many people in your life, but the one who accompanies you the longest is your lover.
Even when you are very old, your lover will leave, but it is enough to be happy to be with you for decades and be very loving in old age.
In a relationship, the happiest thing is to have two people in a house, three meals and four seasons.
Third, neighbors help each other, which is a blessing.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Yan Zi, the minister of Qi State, has been living in an old house.
He went on a business trip, and Qi Jinggong tore down the old house, built a new one, and drove his neighbors away, expanding a large yard.
When he got home, he immediately demolished the yard and invited all the neighbors back.
Yan Zi said"It's not a house, it's a neighbor." ”
Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. A large part of people's fate has to do with their neighbors. If neighbors are good and help each other, there will be warmth in old age.
Living in an indifferent world, as soon as you go out, you are a stranger, and you are scolded and scolded. Who can be happy?
Even in the community of the city, the elderly also have to live a collective life. A good pension environment is fundamentally "everyone gets along happily", not necessarily lush flowers and plants, beautiful scenery.
Usually, the blessing of the elderly is to be kind and kind, to see smiling faces, and to be kind all their lives.
A blessed man is not because he has a lot, but because he is rich in heart.
When people are old, when they look at the world again, foreign objects are all empty, and they are not brought with them in life, and they are not taken away in death.
If you want to increase your blessings, you must live according to the laws of things, and the family should develop according to the traditional model.
The children are doing well and starting a family; Husband and wife love each other for a lifetime, and they never get tired of seeing each other; The neighbors are all kind, and the inner stalks are relieved.
The Wise Law Master said, "Happiness cannot be attained, only happiness can be brought by living happily." ”Of course, when the elderly feel unhappy, don't sit and wait, but take active action.
It is much easier to help children establish and open up a life situation, and to get married and start a family; Care more about your wife and cherish fate; Taking the initiative to help neighbors and leaving a favor is the best self-discipline for the elderly.
Let's work together to move from happiness to happiness.