The 32 year old maternal single girl has been on a blind date for more than 100 people for 6 years

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-02-28

Xiaozi, a 32-year-old beautiful girl, has been smooth sailing since she was born, whether it is education, appearance, or family background, it is remarkable. Even so, she is still the standard "maternal single". The so-called "maternal single" is a person who has never formally talked about a love.

This year, Xiaozi was anxious by her parents' urging to get married. On the seventh day of the Lunar New Year, her father grabbed Xiaozi again and asked her about the object. Father is angry, you read so many books, and I don't see you find a good partner to come back; Studying abroad is not also for you to get to know more excellent people. Xiao Zi retorted, when I went abroad, did you let me deal with the object? Besides, does it need to be specially taught to find a partner?

The father and daughter quarreled. The fuse of the dispute was that Xiao Zi forcibly rejected a blind date because the boy was not tall. Father thinks Xiao Zi is too picky, and Xiao Zi thinks that her father is the real picky person. So, Xiaozi decided to move out and immediately looked at two houses near the company.

Actually, Xiao Zi has long wanted to live alone. When she graduated, she had this idea, but she never put it into action. This time, she finally implemented her plan to rent a house. However, when Xiaozi actually started looking at the house, she realized that renting a house was far from being as simple as she imagined. Within the range she can afford, she can basically only rent a partition with poor quality, which is too different from her own home environment, which is really unacceptable. In this way, the idea of moving out and living in the first place came to an end.

In addition, Xiaozi's itinerary that day also included going to Faxi Temple to seek marriage and meeting a blind date in the afternoon. In the past 6 years, Xiaozi has been on hundreds of blind dates, but she has never confirmed her relationship with any of them. She has reached the age where she has to face reality, and she can only continue to go on a blind date with the mentality of giving it a try.

The blind date on this day was quite satisfactory to Xiao Zi. Because the other party won two lottery tickets, he joked that Xiaozi brought him fortune. Both of them felt that this blind date was good, and made an appointment to contact them later. After that, they also kept in touch from time to time, and the relationship was good.

Xiaozi's first blind date when she was 25 years old was an unforgettable and painful memory for her. The boy left an extremely bad first impression on her, whether it was his appearance, manners, or speech, it made Xiao Zi feel that his emotional intelligence was worrisome. When getting along with him, Xiao Zi only felt that his IQ had been lowered. After the two met once, Xiao Zi decisively rejected the boy.

After that, the frequency of Xiaozi's blind dates can be said to be sparing. She is constantly looking for partners through various channels, such as those found by her parents, met on the Internet, and introduced by local matchmakers. Xiaozi also applied for VIP membership on a matchmaker**, and spent tens of thousands of yuan on herself. In order to go on a blind date, Xiaozi visited almost all the popular business districts in Hangzhou. At first, I would make an appointment for dinner, but later I felt that it was a luxury, and it turned into afternoon tea.

During the blind date, Xiaozi also encountered all kinds of strange things. On the same day, I made an appointment with two boys, and they happened to be in the same store, so I had to drink afternoon tea first and then finish dinner; A boy wanted to hug her when they met for the third time, and after being rejected, he actually taught her "You are so old, don't fantasize about love anymore"; A boy who failed on a blind date, after getting married, often said some beautiful things to Xiaozi and asked about Xiaozi's company's investment products, but he never cared about his wife's financial management.

In the later stages of the blind date, Xiaozi felt that it was like completing the task, and everyone didn't expect it, just to go through the form. Among so many blind dates, Xiao Zi has only been slightly moved twice, both because of the other party's outstanding appearance. But soon she came to her senses, because handsome does not mean suitable. Most of the boys Xiao Zi met were okay, but she just couldn't find one she really liked.

In fact, Xiaozi's emotional journey has not always been blank. Since junior high school, she has had a crush on a classmate, and she also had a crush on a junior brother in both directions when she was in college. It's just that for various reasons, these feelings have gone through and have not developed into a formal relationship. Looking back now, Xiao Zi feels that she was too cautious about her feelings and has never been able to step into intimacy.

During the pandemic, Xiaozi spent her 30th birthday sick alone, and she realized that she needed someone who could face the risks together. At that time, a boy who Xiaozi had known for more than ten years took the initiative to pursue her, and the relationship between the two was also very close. A boy can be said to be an ideal marriage partner, but Xiaozi just didn't like him. If they meet again now, Xiao Zi will not hesitate to accept this feeling. However, the time is no longer there, and this marriage can only be allowed to pass.

Xiaozi longs for a spiritually compatible love, but she also understands that if she completely surrenders to reality, she can end her singleness a long time ago. She was struggling with what kind of partner she was looking for. Seeing that her friends around her are all married and have children, Xiaozi also came up with the idea of having to get off the list. This year, she established an account on social ** and began to share her various situations and feelings as a "maternal single" girl.

For Zi, 2024 is like a deadline. In this year, she must complete the main task of "getting rid of singles". After experiencing too many failed blind dates, Xiaozi is also reflecting on whether her selection criteria are too high. She must find a way to break through the current predicament and try to catch her true love.

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