Hello everyone, I'm Mu Muxue!
I don't think there's anyone else who is more prone to internal friction than me.
I've always struggled for a long time with someone else's unintentional remark, speculating about what the other person meant.
Sometimes when I send a message to someone and they don't reply in time, I wonder if the other person is angry or looks down on me.
I often fall into an emotional abyss and can't help myself. I tried to please people, but I knew they didn't like me very much.
I can feel the small emotional changes of others, and I am very tired and tired like this.
I don't know if all introverted girls are as sensitive, tangled, inferior and twisted as I am.
Sometimes I wonder if life would have been different if I had been a little more intractable, a little more cheerful, and a little more decisive.
However, I never found the switch that made me different.
Until one day, I finally had enough of my cowardly, inferior, and sensitive self.
From that day on, I decided to stop paying attention to other people's eyes and accept the fact that I was not perfect and others didn't like me.
Mo Yan once said:
"If people want to survive, they must get rid of the shackles of chains, and sorrow and pessimism are the most fundamental mortal enemies of people. ”I started to redeem myself, to stop my internal friction, and to focus on doing what I loved.
Even if what I'm doing at the moment doesn't bear fruit, I'll stick with it. I firmly believe that as long as you go in the right direction and keep working hard, you will one day usher in the results you want.
It has also been proven that hard work is useful!
I began to gain a group of loyal readers on the self-leading writing platform, and the income also increased from the original zero to one, and then to ten, hundred, thousand, and ten thousand.
I'm sure there will be more in the future! After achieving a certain amount of success, I also started to become confident!
It was hard to change at first, but when I actually took that step, I realized that it wasn't that hard.
Here are a few suggestions that I hope will inspire you.
I no longer pay attention to the eyes of others, and develop an invincible and powerful mentality;
Before that, I always cared a lot about other people's opinions and evaluations.
I will be entangled for a long time because of someone else's words, and I will doubt myself because of a look from others.
But then I learned that it doesn't matter what other people think of me, what matters is how I see myself.
Just like what Fang Qi said: ".The world is noisy, just be yourself.
I don't need to be recognized and liked by everyone, and I don't need to live according to other people's expectations.
I just need to be myself, do what I love, and go my own way.
I no longer focus on other people's eyes, but on my own growth and progress.
I told myself, "You're great! You deserve to be loved! You deserve all the good things in this world! "This mentality has made me more confident and determined.
Find your goal and focus all your time and energy on it;
In the past, I was always very confused, I didn't know what I wanted, and I didn't know where my future direction was.
I often complained about my incompetence and helplessness. But now I understand that I need to find my purpose and work hard for it.
Russell once said:
"Spend more time shaping yourself and less time studying others. ”I started thinking about what I wanted, what I could do, and what I was suitable for.
Through continuous experimentation and exploration, I finally found my goal - to become an excellent self-**person.
Since that day, I've focused all my time and energy on this goal. I no longer waste time scrolling through Moments, watching gossip news, playing games and other meaningless things.
I spend my time learning my own knowledge, improving my writing skills, and constantly optimizing the content of my articles.
This focus and persistence has allowed me to make a lot of progress in a very short period of time.
Keep a achievement diary to increase your self-confidence;
From childhood to adulthood, we were all taught to be humble and low-key and not to show off our achievements.
But I think that by keeping a proper record of your achievements, you can increase your self-confidence.
So I started keeping an achievement diary to keep a daily record of my achievements and progress.
No matter how small an achievement, I will record it.
For example, today I wrote a good article, gained a new follower, learned a new skill, and so on.
These achievements have made me feel my own value and ability.
The writer Dante once said:
"What keeps me floating in the mire of life is my faith. ”Whenever I encounter difficulties and setbacks, I open my achievement diary to take a look at it and remind myself of the achievements and progress I have made.
This positive psychological cue makes me more confident and determined to face the challenges ahead.
Cultivate your own blunt sensibilities and allow everything to happen;
I used to be sensitive, irritable, and emotional.
When I hear someone criticize or accuse me, I immediately fight back or get frustrated.
But then I learned a truth: people who are too sensitive will never live to be liked by others!
So I began to develop my own dull sensibility, to learn not to take other people's words to heart, not to get angry easily, not to let emotions control me.
Junichi Watanabe said:
"Although the obtuse sensitivity sometimes gives people a negative image of sluggishness and indifference, the obtuse sensitivity is indeed the means and wisdom that we have to win a good life. ”I began to learn to accept everything that happened – good or bad – and learn from it.
This kind of dull sensitivity and calm attitude has made me more mature and calm to face various challenges and changes in life.
Give yourself more positive psychological cues.
* The famous physiologist Pavlov once said:
"Positive psychological cues can quickly lead to a state of optimism, which can lead to cognitive, emotional, and behavioral changes. ”I started to wake up in the morning and say to myself, "Today is another good day", "There will be something good going on today", "You're great!" You can do it! And so on.
This positive psychological cue makes me more confident and determined to face the challenges and opportunities of each day.
At the same time, I also learned to encourage and support myself when I encountered difficulties: "Come on! You can do it! ”
This positive psychological cue makes me more courageous to face difficulties and find solutions to problems.
Through the above efforts and practices, I gradually stepped out of the shadow of internal friction and began to work frantically to pursue my dreams.
I know there is still a long way to go, but I have the confidence and courage to meet the challenges ahead.
I hope that my experience can give you some inspiration and encouragement for you, who are also prone to internal friction: don't care too much about other people's eyes, find your own direction and work hard for it.
Believe in your own ability, and you can also get out of the dilemma of internal friction and meet a better future!
All of the above! 
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Author: Mu Muxue, a self-leading writer who focuses on personal growth and is working hard to be free, may we become a better version of ourselves through hard work and live the life we yearn for.