Section 11 Why Ethics Should Be Observed.
As we all know, the law is what we have to abide by, and those who violate the law will be severely punished by the law. But this is not the case with morality, and most of the time, there is no punishment for violating morality. So why should we be ethical?
It seems that most parents have not actually thought about this problem, but they just feel that they should abide by it, and they have been taught to abide by it. Because they will find that many successful people in history and moral models are simply two directions.
Is it true that good is rewarded with good and evil is rewarded?
For example, Liu Bang used the different surnames Wang Hanxin and Peng Yue to defeat Xiang Yu, but quickly acquiesced to Empress Lu and killed the two. For example, Sima Yi, he swore to Cao Shuang that he would never touch Cao Shuang and his family, but after stabilizing the situation, he killed Cao Shuang's three clans. For example, Wu Zetian, she used the Li family to ascend to the throne, but she killed the descendants of the Li family, including her own sons and grandsons.
The Sima family broke their oath and became emperor instead.
Here, I can try to make this question clear so that parents don't get overwhelmed by this question.
We have to abide by moral norms, in fact, in order to improve our personality energy, simply put, to establish our "friendly personality". For ordinary people, our personality (or personality) will spread among friends, colleagues, and neighbors, and become the basis for others to decide whether to associate with us. If we create a personality image for ourselves with a high sense of morality and helpfulness, then the likelihood of us meeting the help of those around us will be greatly improved. If we create a personality image for ourselves that is not human, self-interested, and plucked, then the people around us are obviously unwilling to have any contact with us.
That is to say, when our personality energy is very high, others are willing to associate with us, because they can expect that they will not suffer from us, and they can also be rewarded for their help to us, and in the end it is a win-win situation for both of us. If our personality energy is very low, others may feel that if they contact us, they will most likely suffer and will bypass us. Even people with low personality energy, when they encounter something, others don't even dare to offer help with a gesture - what if they are falsely accused?
This is the psychological and logical explanation that good is rewarded for good and evil is rewarded for evil.
However, there is still a considerable distance between our personality energy and what the other person will help us. In addition to the personality energy of the person, there are several factors.
First, the price we have to pay to help us; The greater the cost, the less likely it is to be helped; This is a good explanation, after all, if we want to help us, the other party may pay a great price, including lives, and it is completely understandable that the other person will hold back. In many cases, this is decisive. If the price is just a sentence, such as someone asking for directions, then the probability of getting an answer (help) from the other person should be more than 90%. But if you want to borrow more than 90% of the other party's assets, then the probability of failure will be more than 90%. Self-sacrificing rescue is not advocating in the first place.
second, our social energy; The more energy we have in society, the more likely we are to be helped; Here can be a perfect explanation of the situation of Liu Bang, Sima Yi and Wu Zetian; There is no doubt that their personality energy can only be said to be very small, but their social energy is so great that other people want to live better, and if they want to make a difference, they must cooperate with them! Or conversely, even if some people don't want to work with them, they quickly find that there are too many people who want to work with them. Their own non-cooperation will not have any impact on them, and only they will suffer. In the face of such facts, their persistence becomes meaningless, so giving up persistence and choosing to cooperate with the other party is the best choice. This is also the reason why there is no shortage of people around rich and powerful people to do things for them. After all, it is a human survival instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, who will not be able to get along with themselves? And around these people, even if the other party just drops a "scum" at will, it may be a goal that ordinary people can't achieve in their lifetime. Typical examples of success here include Wei Zhongxian, Wang Zhen and others – the price they pay to become close to the powerful is staggering.
The only nine thousand years old in history.
Third, the other party's personality energy, if the other party's personality energy is very low, then there is a high probability that it will not help us, so we don't usually have to deal with them; However, this point has little significance for this part, and can only be used as a confirmation of the previous one. That is, some people, you will not get anything in return for helping him, it is better to stay away.
Fourth, the general trend of society, the so-called troubled times are not as good as dogs, once they enter a turbulent period, personality energy becomes meaningless; In the face of life and death, morality really has no meaning. In troubled times, the mortality rate in some areas has even reached more than eighty percent, and everyone has passed today and has no tomorrow, and living is everything. At this time, the "evil" in human nature will be fully released, and morality will only hasten one's own death.
This is the psychological, logical and sociological explanation that good does not necessarily have good retribution, and evil does not necessarily have evil retribution.
People with low personality energy also have a very disadvantage: when something bad happens around them, they are easy to become the object of suspicion. It's just an ordinary matter, but if it's a criminal case, it's very troublesome; Unfortunately, since these people usually have fewer people to interact with, it is not easy to find a personal ID at a critical time. Therefore, during the strike hard period, there were many wrongful cases, and they were decided. Although it is true that they have been wronged, it is difficult to say whether they have wronged the "good people" or not. Because, generally speaking, the ** case takes place in a dark night, in an inaccessible place; Would a normal person go to that place alone at that time and at that time? And even if ordinary people have something, don't they have to find a partner? Of course, this is not to whitewash the wrongful convictions, but to remind everyone how to protect themselves.
For example, a while ago, the very hot American black George Floyd was killed by the police, and I probably took a look at his resume: in 1997, when he was 23 years old, he was involved in drug trafficking**, and then three times because of drug trafficking**, a burglary**, and a gun theft**. It is not an exaggeration to say that he has committed many crimes, although he later showed signs of reform, but the police must also be afraid of such people. For ordinary people, American police officers are worried that the other party will attack them, but what about people who have had the experience of gun theft? There is no doubt that the US police have taken a heavy approach to law enforcement this time, but the police have lightened their efforts against such "habitual offenders", and is it what we hope that the other party will run away? Even, if the other party shoots the police dead with a backhand, it is not impossible.
In fact, my country is like this at present, touching porcelain, petty theft, the police will be locked up for a few days if they are caught, it is useless, and it is not very careful, as an ordinary person, do you want to see it? What's more, ordinary people lose things, the value is low, and the police don't care—it's not enough for the police to spend on gas—even if the police know that there is a high probability that it's a few people. Another point is that when faced with various cases, China's ordinary police officers compromise with the "scoundrel" side, but instead persuade "law-abiding citizens" to back down, which makes people even more angry.
But unfortunately, if we encounter such people, we as "law-abiding citizens" at present, most of the time choosing to back down is indeed the best solution. Because the other party will spend dozens or hundreds of dollars with you in the gray area, but we still have to go to work, and we can't put our lives into it.
Conclusion, as ordinary people, we are still relatively close to "good is rewarded with good and evil is rewarded", so we might as well restrain ourselves with morality and be a good person as much as possible. You can also teach this idea to your child, and if you have any doubts, you can tell your child about the personality energy theory in this article.
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