Education is, dumplings and pizza, which one do you want to eat

Mondo Education Updated on 2024-02-08

The need for choice and a sense of control is in everyone's nature, why is it that after telling the truth to the child a hundred times, the child still paints on the wall? Why do you tell your child a hundred benefits, but your child still doesn't like to eat vegetables?

The famous educator Rousseau once said, "The three methods of education are not only unhelpful but harmful to children: reasoning, tantrums and deliberate touching."

Purely by yelling at the child or strict discipline, it is basically in vain, and the child is even more disgusted, I came over like this, until a few months ago, I studied for a period of time in the Gaotu beautiful family, and I learned too much with Mr. Song Li, at first because after the junior high school, the child's learning was originally in the middle of the stream, but after the junior high school added geography and biology, the child was very hard at the beginning, but in the second half of the year, the opportunity was very backward and even he was rotten and did not study!

The family was also very anxious, but they couldn't control their emotions, which caused the smell of gunpowder at home to be particularly strong during that time, basically blowing up at one point, and the child was becoming more and more rebellious. Ask the teacher for help, the teacher let the science guide, recommended the Gaotu beautiful family, the first half of the second year of junior high school, basically we stabilized, the child also realized the value of learning, caught up, and the atmosphere at home was also good, so it is worth learning.

If in life, parents do not give their children enough respect and trust, and always want their children to do things according to their own requirements, so that children lose the right to choose and control their own lives, then children will have a sense of frustration, either not cooperative, or surrender and obey, which eventually leads to endless problems.

Therefore, in order to achieve their own goals and meet their children's psychological needs, parents may wish to try to give their children limited options.

Baby, dumplings and pizza, which one do you want to eat", "Let's eat spinach or rape today", "Do you want to draw on paper or on the blackboard".

When a child truly feels that he can make decisions about his own life, he will become more proactive, confident and responsible.

Therefore, the happiest child is the one who has the right to choose, because he can, be himself! High Path

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