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Why would a man who is afraid of losing you leave you first? Today I'm going to take you deep into the psychological dynamics behind this seemingly contradictory behavior.
He is always at a disadvantage in your relationship, and all you see is his fear of losing you, but you don't know it, and it only increases your confidence that you will not lose him. You don't see the struggle behind his fears, his contradictions. Your perfunctory answer to him will make him make up for the situation that your feelings for him have weakened and you are no longer in love, and he will then think of the pain of losing you. You're obviously not too busy and have nothing to do, but you just don't reply to his messages, and you just don't want to pay attention to him. He wants to continue to talk to you, but he is really afraid that you will annoy him, so he has to be alone in a daze on the phone screen, quietly waiting for your message, every time the phone rings a message prompt, he expects your reply, but he is always disappointed.
He will confirm with you again and again whether you love him or not, and whether you will leave him. Even if he gets an affirmative answer, he's still thinking about whether you're comforting him. Otherwise, why would your answer to him be so perfunctory, with only one "um"? He is basking in the grief that he is about to lose you. When your answer is so bland that there is no way to match his heat effort, he will think, if he is destined to lose you, is it easier to separate sooner? Maybe it won't be so painful after separation.
On the one hand, he assumes that you are destined to leave, and on the other hand, he can't bear the pain of losing you again and again. When this kind of pain accumulates to the extent that he can't bear it, he can only seek a liberation to save himself, and his so-called liberation is only two ways for him, only two choices, one is to take the initiative to leave you, completely lose you once, simply and neatly. Or, they don't leave you, but they suffer the pain of losing you every second, like being burned in the middle of an infernal hell.
Then you tell me, if it were you, what would you do, a man who is afraid of losing you, will leave you first?
Finally, I recommend reading "Game Theory" to friends, a successful guide to interpersonal communication that you can understand and use.