My father-in-law has been hemiplegic for more than 5 years. Since we work in the provincial capital and my father-in-law is in the countryside, the responsibility of taking care of my father-in-law falls on my eldest sister. My father-in-law has saved less than 200,000 yuan over the years, and before he died, he wanted to give 100,000 of them to his eldest sister. But my reaction was beyond everyone'...... expectations
My name is Wang Caixia, 48 years old, from Henan, married to her husband in Jinhua, Zhejiang, and settled in Hangzhou, the capital of Zhejiang Province.
I was born in a rural area of Henan, and although I have nine siblings in my family, my life is quite difficult, and when I was a child, I was always hungry and unable to eat, but my parents let us go to school.
I am the eighth eldest in the family, and the second, third, and fifth sisters above all passed the exam and became city people. They are my role models, and I want to get out and become a city person.
I study hard, and if my sixth sister and seventh brother want to eat and wear, I only need books or exercises.
My efforts were not in vain, and I was admitted to Hangzhou Normal University in 1994 and was fortunate to stay on as a counselor.
When I was in college, I had a short relationship, and after staying in school, I was admitted to graduate school, and I was very busy working and studying, so I didn't have time to fall in love at all.
I was 28 years old when I graduated from graduate school, and my sixth sister who was three years older than me had three children, and I didn't have a boyfriend yet, and my parents were so anxious that every time they went back to their hometown for the New Year, they urged me to get married.
My husband and I met on a blind date, the introducer is the husband of the department head, and the department head and my husband are colleagues, both of whom are from Hangzhou.
We met at a colleague's house, my husband was tall and thin, Sven, wearing gold-rimmed glasses, very refreshing, and the first impression was very good.
It was a pleasant conversation, and even though it was the first time we met, we got along very well and had the same views on many things.
When I came out of my colleague's house, he took me back to the school dormitory and agreed on a time and place for the next meeting.
After less than three months of dating, he proposed to me, no flowers, no rings, very straightforward: "Our newspaper has a batch of fund-raising houses, the single assigned a small house, the married assigned a large house, we are about the same age, and the chat is very good, I think you are the person I want to live a lifetime, it is better for us to get a marriage certificate first!" ”
On the day my husband proposed to me, we had dinner at a food stall near the school, which was different from what I imagined the proposal.
But considering my age, my husband was not romantic, but he was very pragmatic, and I agreed to his proposal, but asked him to make up for the engagement ring and flowers.
My husband was also born in the countryside, his family is Qiaolifang Village, Chisong Town, Jindong District, Jinhua, Zhejiang Province (when I married my husband, it was still called Shanqiao Township), his parents are farmers, his father-in-law is a carpenter, and there is a sister who is two years older than him.
We got the marriage certificate first, and the wedding after we got the new house, when we raised funds to buy a house was more than 1,000 yuan per square meter, and the allocated room area was 100 square meters, and we spent more than 140,000 yuan in total.
We had less than 80,000 yuan in our hands, and our in-laws only had 30,000 yuan, so they lent us 70,000 yuan to buy a house and give me a bride price.
I got pregnant in the third year of marriage, the pregnancy was not good, my mother-in-law was not in good health, and my eldest sister offered to take care of me during confinement.
My eldest sister knew that I liked to eat noodles, so she made steamed buns, steamed buns, dumplings, and hand-rolled noodles for me every day, and went to learn to make Hu spicy soup.
My eldest sister also wore a lot of sweaters for my unborn child, and because I didn't know if it was a man or a woman, she wore them all in yellow and blue.
She can do simple sewing, when I got married, my mother gave me a sewing machine, and my eldest sister bought a lot of cloth, making pajamas and nightdresses for me with a big belly, and small clothes for my children.
I gave birth in 2003, my eldest sister got everything ready, and when she came out of the operating room, the first thing she cared about was me.
I don't have much milk, my eldest sister changed her way to make me good food, gave me breastfeeding, and never let me hold the child except for feeding my son's milk during confinement.
Since my eldest sister came to take care of me, I gave her 2,000 yuan a month to buy vegetables, and she kept an account every time she went to buy vegetables, even if I gave her money again in the second month, she would say that the money was still there, and I didn't care, anyway, it was given to her, and she used it as she wanted.
After my son was born, I was busier than before, but my eldest sister still cooked food for me every day, and it slowly decreased until my son went to elementary school, but every time I went back, I cooked a lot of delicious food for my son, and the money I gave her every month was not broken.
My eldest sister's salary is not high, and her work is very hard, but she said that as long as she is within her ability, she hopes that I can give her 2,000 yuan every month, and she is not willing to let me buy anything for her, all she wants is money.
During the Spring Festival this year, I went back to visit my eldest sister and my old father, and my eldest sister made me a lot of delicious food, especially my favorite fried bacon with garlic moss.
During the Chinese New Year, my eldest sister told me about my father-in-law's situation, saying that he was no longer good and wanted me to go back and have a look.
When I returned to my hometown, I saw my father-in-law lying on the bed, unlike before, my father-in-law saw tears in my eyes, although he couldn't speak, but the longing and distress revealed in his eyes moved me.
My father-in-law has saved less than 200,000 yuan over the years, and before he died, he wanted to give 100,000 of them to his eldest sister.
Although I will give her 2,000 yuan a month, there are many elderly people in her family, and she has many needs in life, and she often has to help with some affairs.
Before his death, my father-in-law said to me: "When I was alive, you supported me, and after I died, you supported your eldest sister." ”
I couldn't cry after hearing this, and my father-in-law knew that he didn't have much to live, so he confessed like this.
When I told my eldest aunt and father-in-law, my eldest sister cried very much, and she said that although she was not biological, her father-in-law treated her like a biological daughter, and she did not expect her father-in-law to explain like this before he died.
My eldest sister's emotions make me feel very distressed, she is the most optimistic one, she usually never complains, I think I should solve these problems for my father-in-law when he is still alive.
I thought about it for a long time and decided to lend my eldest sister 100,000 yuan, and let her decide how to use it herself, and let her solve some of the family's urgent needs.
After my father-in-law died, I explained my decision to my eldest sister, who refused after hearing this, saying that she would never ask for the money I gave her.
I said that this is my father-in-law's wish, and we should respect it, and I want to do it myself, but my eldest sister still resolutely refuses to.
In the end, I said that you are my eldest sister and the best sister in my heart, I have money now, and I hope you accept this money, this is my last request.
My eldest sister didn't speak, and I watched her burst into tears and reached out to take the check I handed over.
I know that my eldest sister is reluctant, but I also know that she needs it, and I hope this money can help her.
This incident made me understand the responsibility between family members, although I am no longer the little girl in the countryside, family is always the most important.