In the essay "Under the Umbrella", Zhang Ailing told a fable:
When it rains heavily, some people carry umbrellas, and some people don't bring umbrellas.
Those who don't have umbrellas are next to those who have umbrellas, trying to get under other people's umbrellas to avoid the rain.
However, the heavy rain continued to flow down the edge of the umbrella, and it was more ferocious than the rain outside.
In the end, the people huddled around the umbrella not only did not hide from the rain, but their hair and necks were soaked by the rain.
When the storm comes, everyone longs for someone to hold up an umbrella for themselves.
But after more experience, you will understand: in a stormy life, holding an umbrella for yourself is a person's greatest sense of security.
When you're down, don't expect someone to help you.
Bai Juyi once said: It is difficult to walk, not in the water, not in the mountains, only in the repetition of human feelings.
Since ancient times, countless people are willing to put icing on the cake for you when it is beautiful, and it is common for no one to care about it when it is low.
There are too many such stories to mention.
Because from ancient times to the present, people's hearts have not changed, and it is normal for people to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. In other words, you may be the same, so those stories of seeing the truth in adversity will be especially moving.
Not to mention that during the Cultural Revolution, in order to survive on his own, even his closest relatives could expose betrayal.
There are clouds in "Zengguang Xianwen": There are many brothers with tea and wine, and I have never seen one person in an emergency.
Therefore, the connection between **, as the saying goes: "When the wind is smooth, the high friends are full, and there is no one in the time and space of the trough of life." ”
When you can make money, no one treats you as a relative; When it is unprofitable, your loved ones will also abandon you.
So, never count on someone else to have your back.
In the life of ups and downs, only by living as an umbrella can you not worry about being caught in the rain.
Life that you can't control is a disaster.
*Ying once pointed out sharply in "The Way of Heaven":
The knot of the traditional concept lies in relying on words, relying on parents at home, relying on friends when going out, relying on God, relying on Bodhisattvas, and relying on the emperor's grace.
In short, you can rely on anything, but you can't rely on yourself, so you can only kneel mentally. ”
Especially as a woman, if you give up all the autonomy of your life, thinking that when you are young and rely on your husband and children when you are old, your life will basically come to an end.
Zijun in "The First Half of My Life" is such a typical example.
And Lin Daiyu in "Dream of Red Mansions", how noble and proud, came to her grandmother's house with the wealth of the Lin family for several lifetimes, thinking that she could be relied on by Jia's mother, but in the end she was still ruthlessly abandoned and sacrificed.
Gao Jialin in Lu Yao** "Life", in order to stay in the city to pursue the city girl Huang Yaping, ruthlessly disappointed Qiaozhen, a rural lover who had always supported him privately, but finally ended up being beaten back to the countryside and ended up with nothing.
Therefore, it depends on the collapse of the sky and the sinking of the ground. The backers will fall, everyone will run, and only yourself is the most reliable.
Of course, this is not to say that no one can be trusted, but that the control of destiny must be firmly in one's own hands, and others are only helpers, not main forces.
Brecht said: No matter what kind of stilts we step on, we can't do without our own feet.
No matter how big someone else's roof is, it is not as good as having an umbrella in his hand.
The long road is long, and the more you experience the wind and rain, the more you can understand: when one day you taste the ruthlessness of reality, the pressure of money, and the unbearable feelings, you will eventually understand: no matter how big the eaves of others are, it is not as good as having an umbrella in your hand.
Dou Jingtong, as the daughter of Faye Wong and Dou Wei, inherited her mother's singing voice and her father's unruliness. Her youth is full of labels of "rebellious", it seems that no one likes it except herself, and Dou Jingtong's debut is completely on her own, which is the truth.
If you want to add some credit, it may be that she can't change that she is the daughter of Faye Wong Dou Wei.
She did it with her own strength, and when people mentioned her again, she was no longer Faye Wong's daughter, but a person with her own unique style and representative works.
There is such a sentence in the Book of Changes: Since God blesses, there is no disadvantage.
God helps those who help themselves.
You must know that there is a famous book "La Traviata", the author of which is the son of Alexandre Dumas.
At that time, Alexandre Dumas was already famous in France with "The Three Musketeers" and "The Count of *Hill".
When Dumas first began to write, he was repeatedly rejected, and Dumas said:
When you send the manuscript, you can attach another letter to the editor, saying that it is the son of Alexandre Dumas, and the situation may be much better. ”
But Dumas refused, and finally established himself in the literary world in 1848 with La Traviata.
I like this quote very much: The bird standing on the tree is never afraid of the branch breaking. Because it does not believe in branches, but in its own wings.
Everyone will experience a low point in life, just like the economic winter of 2023, which must bring chills to many people.
In difficult days, those who seek help will surely be looked down upon and looked down upon everywhere.
You have to believe that this is a normal experience, not only you will suffer such a cold reception, but even countless people like Cao Xueqin, Su Shi, Du Fu and so on have been like this.
The important thing is to have faith, and at this time there is no choice but to save yourself.
Of course, a better choice than crossing yourself in the trough is to prepare an umbrella for yourself on a sunny day.
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