Bao Dad's words and deeds have been criticized, why do you persuade honest people to compromise at the lowest cost?
Why "convince honest people with the least cost", the dad led by example, and was criticized by the education department.
Luo Yonghao once said that even if he is no longer educated, when educating children, he tends to talk about "being kind". In today's society, not many parents feel that their children's education is flawed.
Objectively, however, there are significant differences of opinion on how to educate the next generation. For example, whether parents should let them know at a very young age"The human heart is sinister", or the dilemma of poverty, has become an endless debate.
You can convince an upright person with minimal cost. "In the 1960s and 1970s,"Be honest"The word is considered a compliment, a sign of trustworthiness and reliability. But now, "ruthless" has become a kind of irony, used to refer to people who "have no conscience and want to take advantage of others".
Recently, a parent asked his child to learn taekwondo, which sparked a controversy. The child looked to be only a few years old and was the second person in the family. He said suspiciously, his sister learned **, learned to dance, and he learned taekwondo.
Dad's reaction surprised me: "My sister is an uneducated child, you are so nice and polite, I am afraid that you will be bullied in school in the future." The boy was even more confused, he said, the students are very friendly now, if there is any conflict, we can be reasonable, or we can call the police.
After that, the father's comment sparked a debate among netizens. The father emphasized that love at first sight does not mean that it will be like this in the future, and there are too many things in the world that cannot be done by reason alone.
Dad explained to me that it takes a lot of effort to convince the bad guys and force them to change. So, if you want to avoid failure, you have to make even greater concessions. If you learn taekwondo, no one will provoke you.
The little boy didn't seem to fully understand and didn't fully believe his father's words. He also had to admit that it was a cruel world, and it would be too difficult to solve some simple problems without violence.
The parents' pragmatic attitude is also shared by many people, who say they have the same experience. Excessive kindness and sincerity can lead to tragedy. Perhaps, he himself has had the experience of failure, so he said such a thing.
However, some netizens disagree with this, saying that parents should not indoctrinate them at a young age"The human heart is sinister"The concept. They believe that parents' perceptions are one-sided, and that a happy child can be transformed if he or she recognizes the dark side of society.
Although he initially approved of the boy's father, he was persuaded that it would be better to communicate with the child alone. Making such a view public would lead to the outside world ignoring the "full positive value".
On this issue, I couldn't agree more that no matter what kind of opinion is expressed on the Internet, it will always lead to controversy. When it comes to the beauty of human beings, some say that it is whitewashing peace; When it comes to despair of reality, it is said that people are creating anxiety and negative thoughts.
In the real world, the laws of competition are brutal. In terms of education, whether or not to expose students to negative materials and whether to let students know about their family's financial situation is actually related to their parents' persistence: letting children know the harsh reality will make them discouraged and lose their positive motivation; However, if they don't say it, they are afraid that their children will be hurt in the future.
In fact, the cultivation of a positive mindset and the awareness of risk in college students go hand in hand. The meaning of this sentence is very clear: goodness must be sharp, integrity must be smart.
In the real world, there is no absolute good or bad. Most people have advantages and disadvantages. Forcing a student to change their natural "strong" or "good" personality is impractical and counterproductive.
For example, one of the younger sisters' personality is a big grin, straightforward and fast-talking, a little bit"Ruthless"。And his older brother is described as a "passionate little child". Although his parents told him to pay attention to safety and know how to protect himself, this did not affect his kindness.
However, some parents expect their children to behave modestly and courteously, and doing so makes them themselves the "top bullies", which is worse than that. This phenomenon may be more prominent among some foreign students.
Do you think this parent is right?