I have three sisters in my family, and my mother is the second.
There is a saying in the countryside: "The eldest is sharp, the second is stupid, and the worst is the third." ”
When I was a child, my mother's family conditions were very poor, and my grandfather valued boys even more, and I always looked forward to having a son. As the eldest grandson of my grandmother's family, my aunt is naturally favored.
In contrast, my mother, as the second child, has a very low status in the family. And when the third aunt was born, my mother's status plummeted.
Although the third aunt is also a girl, her grandfather still dotes on her. The wish of hoping to have a boy could not be fulfilled due to physical reasons, so the third aunt became the pearl of the family.
My mother and third aunt are only two years apart, but the third aunt is like a little princess, and my mother is like an insignificant maid.
When my mother was a child, the family was financially strapped and adults had to work in the fields to earn some work in exchange for food rations. My aunt was fortunate enough to go to school, while my mother was left at home to take care of my third aunt.
Because the third aunt was frail and sickly, her grandfather always bought her all kinds of snacks and fruits to eat. Whenever my grandfather was not at home, my mother could only make some corn paste for my third aunt at noon, but my third aunt could enjoy all kinds of delicious food. Once, my mother couldn't help but take a bite secretly, but the third aunt found out, she immediately cried and told my grandpa that my mother was severely punished, but the third aunt was happy.
Later, my mother gradually became more thoughtful. Whenever she couldn't enjoy the apple, she would take advantage of her grandfather's absence to deliberately peel the apple very thickly and leave it for the third aunt to eat the pulp, while she enjoyed the peel herself, so as to make the third aunt happy.
As I got older, my mother reached the age of elementary school. However, her grandfather didn't let her go to school because there was no one at home to take care of her third aunt. Therefore, it was not until my third aunt was also of school age that my mother was able to go to school with her and enter the same class.
Although my mother was two years older than her classmates, she was gifted and loved to study since she was a child, and her grades were always at the top of her class. On the contrary, the third aunt has mediocre academic performance and is often mischievous, so she is not popular in the class and has no one to accompany her. Unfortunately, my third aunt always put these responsibilities on my mother, and often complained to my grandfather, which led to my mother being beaten frequently.
After graduating from junior high school, my mother aspired to continue her education. However, her grandfather did not allow her to continue her studies on the grounds of family difficulties. Because my aunt is attending a secondary school and my third aunt is about to enter junior high school, my family can't afford my mother's tuition. In desperation, my mother had to work with them in the production team as a teenager after graduating from elementary school.
Although the third aunt had the opportunity to go to junior high school, she did not cherish it. During her junior high school years, she skipped school, fell in love, was idle all day, had the lowest grades, and was often criticized by teachers. Eventually, she gave up her junior high school studies, and when she returned home, she refused to participate in farm work, living a life of clothes to open her mouth and food to stretch her hands.
The villagers all think that the third aunt is like a maid with the temper of the eldest lady, and she is actually a child of a peasant family, but she is not willing to work at all, and she may not be able to marry in the future.
However, unexpectedly, the third aunt fell in love not long after she was at home.
Her lover turned out to be the son of the village secretary, who can be regarded as a rich second generation and a gentleman.
The boy was idle all day, and had nothing but rhetoric. Relying on his father's wealth, he mingled with a group of people all day long. However, the third aunt loves him very much and regards him as a big brother, and no one in the village dares to bully him. It didn't take long for them to get married, and held a luxurious wedding, which made the grandfather proud, and felt that the third aunt had married a good family, and the father-in-law was powerful.
Although my third aunt was younger than my mother, she was ahead of her when it came to marriage. That's why her children became my cousins.
My mother was a skilled worker, hardworking and unpretentious, and was loved in the village.
When my mother talked about marriage, although my grandfather did not agree at first, I hoped that she would work at home for a few more years to support the family. However, the mother herself was firmly in love, and chose a hard-working, capable and virtuous young man from the village as a partner, despite their poor family background. Even though the grandfather only proposed a bride price of 200 yuan to block this family business, the mother did not listen to their opinions, but chose to obtain the certificate directly with the father and started a simple life. This decision disappointed my grandfather and grandfather, who often blamed my mother for being unfilial.
The hardships of life have not been alleviated by this, my father has to support me, my younger brother, sister and mother alone, and the family has been strained financially. Even though we were close to my grandmother's house, they never reached out and turned a blind eye to our plight.
In such a predicament, we should have been able to get the support of the third aunt, after all, she has a privileged family and is a sister to her mother. However, the third aunt was dismissive of my mother, thinking she was clumsy and laughing at our family's poverty because of her marriage choice. On the contrary, my aunt has been silently supporting us, not only financially, but also often buying us things, and even giving us the first black and white TV set in our family. This TV was installed by my aunt and uncle, which made our children feel extremely happy.
All three of us studied hard and were eventually admitted to university, and my aunt has been quietly supporting our tuition fees behind the scenes. Today, we have all graduated, have our own careers and families, and live happily. Every Chinese New Year, we will deeply miss the kindness of our parents and aunts and husbands, although time has passed, but the family affection and warmth will always exist in our hearts.
The third aunt lived quite happily for a period of time after marriage. At that time, her father-in-law was still the village party secretary, his family was wealthy, his status was prominent, and the children were led by his mother-in-law, so that the third aunt lived a carefree life, like a princess. Although she does not have the education that her aunt has received, her quality of life is not inferior to that of her aunt. Every Chinese New Year, my mother took us back to my grandmother's house, and my grandmother would always prepare delicious food for us. But because my mother felt that the food was simple, she often left in a hurry, which made my grandfather quite unhappy.
Later, when the third aunt's father-in-law was old and planned to retire, the third aunt's husband planned to run for the village secretary and was ready to win over the people in the village to support him. However, during the election campaign, his father was denounced *** resulting in his father** and almost went to jail. As a result, the third aunt lost the opportunity to run for office, and the family fell into the life of ordinary people, relying on farming to make a living.
Since the third aunt's family has always had such a style, it is conceivable what will happen to their children's education. The two children did not perform well in school since childhood, and after graduating from junior high school, they joined the society, and their cousin got married early. It is said that she married a native of Guangzhou, and after moving to Guangzhou with her husband, she was never heard from, and she couldn't even contact her third aunt.
My cousin has been fighting with people outside for many years, and three years ago he injured someone due to alcoholism, not only lost money, but also went to prison, and has not been released from prison. Now, the third aunt and her husband are old and frail, and they have lost the spirit of the past, and they are no longer harsh when they see us, and they are always smiling. However, the smile is clearly flattering and feels unnatural.
As the New Year approached, I decided to slaughter my mother-in-law's pigs and prepared a lot of meat, including 20 catties of sausages for my aunt. Because I know that my aunt's family likes to eat, especially the children, I specially prepared it for them. Unexpectedly, my aunt was very happy, not only accepted the sausage, but also stuffed me with 500 yuan and asked me to buy new clothes for the children. She said that this was their heart for us, and I couldn't refuse, so I had to accept it. February** Dynamic Incentive Program
The aunt is a kind-hearted person, and she feels very distressed about the third aunt's situation. Every time I send something to my aunt, she will give a part to my third aunt. Considering the plight of the third aunt's family, especially their physical condition, the eldest aunt is always full of her sister's love.
The sausage I gave to my aunt, she gave a part to the third aunt that night, saying that I made it myself. Unexpectedly, the next day, the third aunt came to me and asked me with tears in her eyes if I hated her, or if my mother hated her. She felt that we all looked down on her, and even mentioned that the clothes I wore from my cousin and the toys that my cousin didn't want were given to her. She seems to have forgotten all the good things I've done.
Looking at the sad appearance of the third aunt, I felt pity. So, I gave her all the rest of the sausage at home, hoping to comfort her a little.