Text: Sister Zeng.
The influence of the original family on us is like those quietly coming spring rains, so subtle that they seem to be imperceptible, but they follow us like a shadow. It gently sprinkles on our hearts, quietly cultivates in the depths of emotion, and subtly changes the texture of our soil.
It is like an invisible silk thread, manipulating the trajectory of our behavior and pulling our every move. On a deeper level, it shapes our way of thinking and values, and paints a picture of our perception of the world. However, we are not helpless.
First, we need to recognize that our thoughts are the source of our own behavior. Emotions are not entirely determined by the family of origin, but are the product of our own thinking. Trying to look at things differently may unleash different emotional responses.
Second, we need to learn self-observation and introspection. It's like standing in front of a mirror and looking at yourself, delving into the motivations and emotions behind your actions. In this way, we gain insight into ourselves and thus gain greater control over our emotions and behaviors.
Third, we need to embrace the past. Even though the past may have been painful, there are lessons to be learned. Turning these into nutrients for our growth and laying a stronger foundation for the future.
Fourth, if you find it difficult to get rid of the influence of your family of origin, it is a wise choice to seek professional psychological counseling. Professional counsellors can provide a wealth of skills and guidance to help us unlock our inner dilemmas.
Getting rid of the influences of the family of origin is a systematic project that requires time, patience, and firm determination. It challenges our comfort zone, but only then can we truly transform and grow. In the process, we can not only become a better version of ourselves, but also a stronger version of ourselves.