Fan Chengda, a literati of the Song Dynasty, wrote in his poem "Beishan Hall Opens the Furnace."Night Sitting depicts a quiet and profound picture:
In the ever-changing room, the bamboo path is deep and obstructive.
Greedy for the fire simmering and warm, lazy to turn over the palm of the temple Sutra.
There is no distraction, only poetry is there, and the years are not in the mirror.
The 84,000 methods of happiness are not secretive. ”
The most ideal state of life is leisure, ease, leisurely and calm. However, in today's ever-changing, information-** era, we often cannot escape the rendering of secular dogma and interest entanglement.
As stated in the "Historical Records": "The world is bustling, and all are profitable; The world is crowded, all for profit. "Looking back at ancient times, compared with the present, people's pursuit of fame, fortune and power seems to have never stopped, and they often fall into the whirlpool of excessive pursuit.
There are very few people who can really be like Fan Chengda, abandon distracting thoughts in the Zen temple, and quietly recite the poems. Despite the ease of modern transportation, most people stop for a short time to enjoy the tranquility of the temple before turning to the hustle and bustle of city life.
There are all kinds of things in the world, three thousand troubles are entangled in my heart, tens of millions of ** are coming, and countless troubles are coming one after another, in the final analysis, they are all full of miscellaneous thoughts.
From hard study in the cold window to running around in the workplace, to parenting and elderly care, and even facing the inevitable process of birth, old age, sickness and death when you are old and frail, there are many burdens in life.
What's more, in order to repay the car loan and housing loan, in order to maintain family expenses, in order to raise children and support parents, they are exhausted and anxious. As a result, the distracting thoughts in my heart become more and more numerous, and the helpless things accumulate more and more.
It is precisely for this reason that we should deeply understand that excessive distractions will eventually erode ourselves. Only by learning to be calm and ambitious can we achieve steady and far-reaching progress on the road of life.
Distractions are always there
Life, whether you suffer or not, it will not open up to you because of it. The only one who can truly let go and liberate is yourself. Recently, a thought-provoking social news has attracted widespread attention:
After several years of hard work, Ms. Xie and her husband finally bought a two-bedroom apartment in Guangzhou, looking forward to a stable life from now on. However, the reality was not as she wished, and the moment she moved into the new house became the starting point of her painful journey.
It turned out that all the room windows of the house were facing a busy highway, and it was immersed in noise almost all day of the day. In just one month, Ms. Xie was tormented, and even if all the windows were closed, she could not resist the unsettling noise.
In such an environment, her heart was full of distractions and she couldn't focus on work and life, so she angrily approached the property management department to negotiate. The two sides disagreed, the conflict escalated, and even almost led to a tragedy.
Ms. Xie's troubles and pains are indeed excusable, the negligence of the property management is outrageous, and the irresponsibility of the developer is also chilling. However, it is futile to hold all parties accountable and try to solve the problem by violent means.
Just as distracting thoughts always haunt our minds, there are always unsatisfactory things in life, but they have not yet been touched by us. When we are faced with a problem, the right way to deal with it is to actively seek solutions rather than allowing them to spread.
There was a profound sentence that once lingered in my ears: "There is no more whirlpool in the world than self-trouble." ”
After careful consideration, this statement does have a profound philosophy. When something unfortunate has happened, we should do everything we can to make amends and repair it.
However, if we insist on pursuing the realization of our ideals at any cost, we may not only backfire, but also over-consume our own energy and make greater sacrifices.
A sentence of wisdom in Caigen Tan aptly describes this phenomenon: "If the mind is pure, the heart is clear, and if you don't know its meaning, you force the mind to be clear, like adding dust to the dusty mirror." ”
In the face of the intrusion of complicated thoughts, the first strategy is to be vigilant to purify your mind and clear your mind. If you fall into new troubles because of a moment of anger, difficulty in letting go, or incomprehension, it is tantamount to throwing dust on the already dusty mirror of the mind.
Only by resisting sudden changes and troubles, effectively dispelling the distractions of the moment, controlling emotions, bearing pressure, and enduring pain, can we return to tranquility, clarity and indifference.
In this way, life will be more comfortable and more beautiful.
Face up to the distractions in your mind
Most of life's troubles often stem from excessive anxiety about the future or over-exaggeration of the current predicament.
As the Buddhists say: "Bodhi has no tree, the mirror is not a platform, there is nothing originally, where to stir up dust." ”
This sentence reveals the true meaning of life: the true wise are good at simplifying the complex, turning the big things into small things, and turning the small things into small things, because they know that since things have happened and cannot be restored to the original, instead of indulging in calculations and obsessions, it is better to choose to let go and let the soul return to tranquility.
Obsessed with unchangeable facts, insisting on positions that should not be adhered to, and entangled in trivialities that cannot be measured, people often mistakenly think that this is a remedy, but in fact they are like hiding their ears and stealing a bell.
A true gentleman can not only bear the burden of life, but also let go freely when necessary; A truly wise man can gain insight into the world and understand life.
There is a saying in the Book of Rites: "A gentleman's journey is subtle, but not subtle." ”
This shows that a person's qualities are often reflected in subtleties, whether it is words and deeds or inner world.
Those who are distracted by their minds are often caught up in the whirlpool of calculations, even though they also understand that they are not happy because of this, but only temporarily unable to calm their resentment.
However, when you are deeply mired in the quagmire of obsessed with and fighting, and even happily entangled in personnel disputes, you not only waste valuable time, but also generate a lot of internal friction in the process of self-competition.
In the long run, not only will it harm your physical and mental health, but it will also be unable to gain the understanding and comfort of others.
Let's ask, life is so hard, why torture yourself?
Psychologists have carefully devised such an experiment:
They recruited a group of participants of all ages and professional backgrounds, and invited them to record the "worries" and "distracting thoughts" in their hearts during the previous month.
After a month's time, the psychologist visited the participants again and carefully checked the "mixed thoughts" and "troubles" that each person had listed at the beginning.
The results of the experiment showed that most of the participants admitted that they were no longer able to clearly recall the trivial worries that had bothered them.
This discovery reveals a profound truth: only by bravely confronting the distractions of our hearts will we realize that they are nothing more than bluffing paper tigers, seemingly powerful but vulnerable.
Therefore, let's deal with all kinds of distractions in life with a more concise and contemplative attitude, as the old saying goes, "the soldiers will block, and the water will cover the earth".
As long as we can accept and face all the challenges in life, one day, we will be able to break through the fog and welcome the bright and open blue sky.
Let distracting thoughts make you successful
Understanding that there are two sides to everything in the world is at the heart of our philosophy of life.
Once you understand the nature of distractions, they can become a mirror that reflects your own shortcomings, rather than allowing them to gradually erode your inner world.
Franz Kafka once profoundly stated: "Even in moments when you feel extremely disappointed, even when you are desperate for the disappointment itself, new forces often creep in, like the pillars that support life, and this just proves that you are still alive." ”
Therefore, in the face of disappointment, we must learn to recognize it, accept it, and go deep with an inclusive attitude, so as to find a way to understand and resolve disappointment.
In the same way, when we have insight into the root cause of distraction, we can choose a wise coping strategy: either to solve it or to live peacefully with it, there is no contradiction between the two ways, the key is how to use it flexibly.
As the proverb of wisdom in the "Zengguang Xianwen" says: "What is destined will be possessed in the end, and it is not necessary to force it." ”
Instead of clinging to the things that cannot be obtained and falling into confusion, pain and trouble, it is better to conform to nature, deal with it calmly, achieve the free and easy realm of "everything is fate", and achieve a comfortable life.
In many cases, by sorting out distracting thoughts, we can not only solve a long-standing problem, but also gain a new life understanding.
The journey of life is long and challenging, and if we are blindly entangled in distractions, we will inevitably lose sight of the important matters that need to be dealt with urgently, and may even affect our full devotion and profound experience of life.
Lin Qingxuan once profoundly elaborated: "The troubles and worries of life often come from the habitual constraints of the past and the endless desire to chase the future. If you can learn to let go of all kinds of distractions and focus on the present moment, those troubles will disappear in an instant. ”
If we stubbornly cling to everything and are entangled in it and cannot extricate ourselves, then distracting thoughts will be like spreading thorns, which will sooner or later occupy and swallow up our inner world.
Mr. Lu Xun also expressed a similar outlook on life in the work "Morning Flowers and Sunset": "It is inevitable to fall into a difficult situation in the journey of life, but the dignity and nobility of human beings lies in the fact that they can stick to their character even in difficult situations, and must not indulge themselves." ”
As the so-called calmness, self-discipline and positive change in the moment are the keys to overcoming your inner distractions**. No matter how many thoughts linger in your heart, it is better to be firm, be cautious and keep your heart, keep your true nature, and cleanse your inner irritability and uneasiness.
Learn to enjoy solitude, be self-motivated, plan wisely the path in front of you, and take every step steadily. When it comes, it is like a storm, and when it goes, it seems to be a fine dust, and only when there is no distraction can you be light-hearted.
Milan Kundera wrote in his book The Unbearable Lightness of Life: "From this moment on, I began to choose my way of life carefully, and no longer let myself easily get lost in all kinds of **, because I have heard the call from afar, and I no longer need to look back at the distractions and gossip behind me." ”
Life is full of distractions, and the adult world is full of trivial things that can silently erode your source of inspiration, your free space, and even your health.
However, the charm of the adult world is also that it is rich and diverse, like a garden, and if we can regularly prune and remove the weeds and dead leaves, we can show a different kind of beauty.
Carefully apply fertilizer, concentrate on pruning and cutting, quietly brush away the distractions, and strive to cut the complexity, return to simplicity, and immerse yourself in this quiet and focused fun.
You will find that this is a portrayal of life, beautiful, enjoyable, and even lucky.