"Wisdom" to get along with family: how to avoid the "pitfalls" of marriage
Preface. In traditional Chinese families, marriage and children are the most important things in life, especially parents, who expect their children to find their other half as soon as possible and form a happy family. But sometimes, parents show unprecedented "wisdom" by preferring to keep their children single rather than marrying them to some special person. What are the personality traits and ways of dealing with problems that make parents feel uneasy and anxious? Next, let's take a look at the "wisdom" about family relationships to prevent children from falling into unhappy marriages.
A man who has no respect for his superiors.
Rather than marrying children to someone who disrespects their parents, it is better to let their own children become singles. In the traditional society that values the idea of family, family is the main reliance and reliance on life, and a person who does not respect his family and the elderly will become lazy after marriage and will not care about the opinions of his parents. Such a person often causes a lot of conflicts at home, which is not conducive to the harmony of a family and the development of children. Therefore, parents prefer that their children be celibate rather than let their children marry this kind of person.
Extended reading: These people don't know how to pay attention to their families, they don't pay enough attention to their attitudes towards their families after they get married, and they don't pay enough attention to the views of the elderly. Such people often lead to conflicts within the family, and there is often a generation gap between the elderly and children, causing conflicts within the family. Parents know that this kind of marriage is not good for the healthy development of their children, so they often rescue their children from this "trap".
People who don't take themselves seriously.
Another type of person that parents reject is that they don't respect them, and parents prefer that their children stay single rather than that their children marry such people. Such people will appear fragile, willful, and rebellious at home, and their presence will make the atmosphere of the whole family very unstable. In addition, people with this personality tend to show a high and high appearance when interacting with their spouses, and it is difficult for them to adapt to the life of another family.
By extension, these people may lack responsibility for their families, and they are only concerned with their own emotional needs and self-comfort. They often neglect their spouses and their families, showing a lack of care and maintenance for their families. Such selfishness often leads to contradictions and conflicts between family members, making it difficult for people to get along with each other. Parents are very wary of their children marrying this kind of person, fearing that their children will make a mess of their family life because they are worried about their marriage.
People who don't respect others.
Another group of parents doesn't want their children to marry someone who is not polite. This type of person can become mean and rude and make the people around them feel uncomfortable. This type of person, if he marries his children, will cause many unnecessary conflicts and obstacles in the other family.
Expansion: Such people lack love and patience in life, and often sneer at those around them. They often say nasty things and have a hard time getting along with others. So, parents know that these people will have adverse consequences for their children's lives, so they will firmly refuse to marry their children to these people.
Self-centered people.
The last type that parents abandon is the self-centered person. They may seem aggressive on the surface, but in reality they are self-centered, self-centered, self-centered, and often only look out for themselves and not the feelings of others. People with this kind of personality, after getting married, tend to appear stubborn and unwilling to compromise, which will add many unstable factors to the life of the family.
Expansion: This type of person will pay too much attention to their own interests and rights after marriage, and ignore the feelings and needs of their spouse. They always put themselves first and have a hard time thinking about others. Such selfishness can lead to conflicts between husband and wife and disharmony in the life of husband and wife. Therefore, parents regard such people as unsuitable marriage partners, and hope that their children will avoid this "trap".
Brief summary. Marriage is a very important thing, so it is important to choose the right person. When parents choose a spouse, they should first look at whether the spouse's own quality and personality can be harmonious with the family. The greatest "wisdom" of the family is that instead of involving their children in an unhappy wedding, it is better to let their children live a single life all the time. Therefore, children should also communicate with their parents to let them know their real thoughts and needs, so as to build a more harmonious family relationship. May every family create a bright future for their children.