My name is Minyi and I am 34 years old. My husband and I are in free love, and we used to think that our love could overcome everything. However, my mother-in-law always disliked me, she thought that my family background was mediocre and would be a drag on her son. This has become a shadow in our marriage that cannot be ignored.
When she got married, her mother-in-law only gave a symbolic bride price of 30,000 yuan and did not contribute to the purchase of a house. My husband and I can only rent a house to get married, and our lives are tight. And the mother-in-law's interference and pickiness make us quarrel over trivial matters in life.
Just as my husband and I were arguing over some trivial matters in life, a sudden news hit me and the whole family like a thunderbolt from the blue. My mother was seriously ill and the doctor told us that she urgently needed an operation that cost up to 200,000 yuan. This number seemed to me to be an astronomical number, and my father and brother and I felt at a loss.
Faced with such a predicament, I instinctively turned to my husband for help, hoping that he could share part of the cost at this critical moment. However, my husband's reaction made my heart twist. He said indifferently: "My parents-in-law have a biological son, and I have no obligation to pay for it." His words pierced my heart like a sharp knife.
At that moment, I felt helplessness and despair that I had never felt before. I knew I couldn't rely on him anymore. So, I decided to secretly take out my family savings and want to support my mother's family. However, my move was accidentally discovered by my husband.
He angrily accused me of ignoring my family, saying that by doing so, I would make our lives even more difficult. I wept and retorted to him, accusing him of indifference. At that moment, our marriage seemed to sink into a deep ice cave, cold and unforgiving.
Looking back on all this, I deeply felt the helplessness and despair in marriage.
Life's woes don't end there. Soon after, my mother-in-law was also sick and hospitalized and needed to be taken care of. My husband naturally asked me to quit my job and go home to take care of her, but I was unwilling to bear the financial pressure of the family.
I rejected his request, believing it to be neither reasonable nor fair. As a result, we had another heated quarrel and our relationship deteriorated further. At the same time, my father-in-law was also unable to take care of his mother-in-law because of his old age and physical problems. The whole family was thrown into chaos.
My husband's indifference and incomprehension chilled my heart, and I began to re-examine my marriage and future life. I realized that I couldn't go on like this and that I needed to fight for myself and my family.
In the process of taking care of my in-laws, my husband demanded more and more of me, and even began to accuse me of not being attentive enough. I couldn't bear to point out his double-standard behavior: "You refused to pay to help my mother, and now you ask me to take full responsibility for taking care of your parents. Is such a request fair? ”
But the husband thinks that his request is reasonable: "Marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog." You, as my wife, certainly have the responsibility and obligation to take care of my parents. ”
I was angry and disappointed by my husband's remarks. I began to think about how to protect my rights and dignity and no longer be at his mercy. I decided to live for myself and fight for my family.
As the conflict continued to escalate and accumulate, my marriage with my husband finally came to an end. We began to separate and considered divorce. In the process, I deeply reflected on my marriage and life choices.
I realized that marriage is not the whole of life, and I should not sacrifice my dignity and rights in order to preserve it. I decided to start my life afresh and replan my career. I no longer rely on anyone, but rely on my own efforts and wisdom to create my own future.
Although the road ahead is full of unknowns and challenges, I firmly believe that as long as I take the first step bravely, I will definitely find my own happiness and satisfaction. Minyi's awakening made her move from dependence to independence, and also made her life glow with new brilliance.