I am a 31-year-old single woman named Lin Wan, who is not much interested in marriage and feels that her life is already perfect, but she is often pressured and questioned by society. I have a stable job, a comfortable house, a group of loyal friends, I can arrange my time to my liking, I can travel, shop, read as much as I want, and I feel like I have it all.
Every time I encountered difficulties or was unhappy, I would complain to my mother, who would always patiently comfort me, telling me that it was okay not to get married, but also analyzing the meaning and value of marriage with me, and making me seriously consider my choices. Mother said that marriage is not a bondage, but a companionship, marriage is not a sacrifice, but a dedication, marriage is not a burden, but a responsibility, marriage is not a habit, but a love.
I think my mother's words make sense, but I am also a little unconvinced, I feel that I can bear the consequences of being single, I don't want to get married for the sake of getting married, I want to live in the moment and enjoy freedom and happiness. I feel like an independent, confident, self-reliant woman, I don't need to rely on anyone, I don't need anyone's sympathy or pity, I don't need anyone's praise or affirmation, I just need my own recognition and respect.
A week before my 32nd birthday, my mother was suddenly diagnosed with cancer, and it broke my whole being, I felt like my world was falling apart, and I couldn't imagine what it would be like without my mother. My mother is my closest person, she is my best friend, she is my strongest backing, she is my warmest haven, she is my best memory, she is my most precious treasure.
My father accompanied my mother to the big city**, I could only stay in my hometown because of work, and I would be with my parents every day**, but I saw that my mother's body and spirit were deteriorating day by day, and I was very sad in my heart, but I couldn't do anything about it. I saw my mother's hair fall out, her face pale, her voice hoarse, her smile gone, her eyes darkened, her figure thinned, her breath faint.
I began to appreciate the loneliness and helplessness of being alone, with no one to rely on, no one to keep company with, no one to share, and I returned to my empty home every day, with only cold rooms and endless fear. I don't have the courage to face my mother's illness, I don't have the confidence to deal with my mother's departure, I don't have the strength to bear my mother's regrets, I have no hope to look forward to my mother's **, I only have despair to wait for my mother's death.
My mother returned to her hometown to undergo chemotherapy and immunization**, the first time I saw her, I couldn't help crying, she had become unrecognizable, faltering, her eyes were full of pain and helplessness, and I felt that my heart was broken. I hugged her tightly and I said to her, I love you, I thank you, I'm sorry for you, I miss you, I need you, I don't want to lose you, I don't want you to go, I don't want you to suffer, I don't want you to be sad.
My mother still cares about my marriage, she says she doesn't force me to get married, but she wants me to think clearly, am I ready to face a person's future, am I able to bear it enough, she said that life is getting worse, do I understand? She said that when she was young, she also had her own dreams and pursuits, and she also used to have her own freedom and happiness, but she later found out that these were temporary, all illusory, and all unreliable.
She said that she finally understood that true happiness is to have someone who loves you, to accompany you through the wind and rain, to have a warm home that allows you to belong with peace of mind, to have a lovely child who brings you hope and happiness, and to have a harmonious family that makes you feel family affection and friendship. She said that in the end, she understood that true happiness is to be with my father, to watch me grow up, to watch me mature, to watch me happy, to watch me happy.
It was only then that I really understood the truth of life that my mother said, I realized that I was blindly optimistic and overestimated myself before, I found that I was not so strong, and I also needed someone to rely on, to accompany and to share. I realized my previous selfishness and neglect of others, I found that I was not that independent, and I also needed someone to care, support, and understand. I realized that I was restless and chasing the illusion before, and I realized that I was not so free, and I also needed someone to restrain and guide, and to accompany me.
I started to re-examine my life, I started to rethink my choices, I started to find my happiness again, I decided to give myself a chance, to try marriage, to find a suitable person, to build a warm home. I know it's not an easy task, I know it takes a certain amount of courage and determination, I know it takes a certain amount of courage and determination, I know it requires a certain amount of effort and compromise, I know it takes a certain amount of time and patience, but I also know that it is worth it, this is happiness, this is beautiful.
At a party, I met a man named Li Hao, he is a doctor, he has a good impression of me, he took the initiative to express his meaning to me, he said that he is willing to accompany me through this difficult time, he said that he is willing to face the future with me. He said that he saw the strength and beauty in me, he saw the wisdom and tenderness in my eyes, he saw the kindness and sincerity in my heart, and he saw the light and hope in my life.
I was a little hesitant about Li Hao, I don't know if he is sincere, I don't know if he is suitable, I don't know if he can give me happiness, I asked my mother for advice, and my mother said that she thought Li Hao was a good person, and she said that she hoped that I could give him a chance and give myself a chance. Mother said she didn't want me to miss out on a good person, she didn't want me to miss out on a love, she didn't want me to miss out on a home, she didn't want me to miss out on a happiness.
I decided to try to date Li Hao, I found that he is a gentle and considerate, responsible, responsible man, he is very good to me, he is also very good to my family, he brings me a lot of comfort and support, he makes me feel the warmth and strength of love. He doesn't laugh at me because I'm single, he doesn't get tired of me because of my stubbornness, he doesn't hate me because of my shortcomings, he doesn't complain about me because of my troubles, he only rejoices in my existence, he only cares about me because of my needs, he only rejoices me because of my happiness, he only loves me because of my love.
My relationship with Li Hao became deeper and deeper, we decided to get married, we had a simple and grand wedding, my mother wore a red cheongsam, my father wore a black suit, they sent us their best wishes, they said they were proud and happy for us. I saw a long-lost smile blooming on my mother's face, I saw tears of relief flashing in my father's eyes, I saw Li Hao holding a bouquet of flowers in his hand, I saw Li Hao saying an oath in his mouth, I saw a ring hanging on Li Hao's chest, and I saw Li Hao holding a me in his heart.
Li Hao and I started a new life, we face the joys, sorrows and sorrows of life together, we bear the responsibilities and obligations in the family together, we share the sweetness and bitterness of life together, we create happiness and beauty together, and we go through every day of life together. I found that my life became richer and more colorful, I found that my mood became more relaxed and happy, I found that my life became more meaningful and valuable, I found that my happiness became more real and lasting, and I found that my love became deeper and stronger.
I am grateful to my mother, she gave me life, she gave me education, she gave me wisdom, she gave me courage, she gave me choice, she gave me happiness, and she gave me love. I am grateful to Li Hao, it was he who gave me companionship, it was he who gave me support, it was he who gave me understanding, it was he who gave me comfort, it was he who gave me dedication, it was he who gave me responsibility, and it was he who gave me love. I thank myself, I gave myself the opportunity, I gave myself the opportunity, I gave myself the attempt, I gave myself change, I gave myself growth, I gave myself happiness, and I gave myself love.
"Daughter, it doesn't matter if you don't get married" The truth of life that my mother said, I now understandWhat she said was not to make me give up my marriage, but to make me cherish my marriage, what she said was not to let me escape responsibility, but to let me take responsibility, what she said was not to let me do what I wanted, but to let me choose wisely, what she said was not to let me die alone, but to make me happy for a lifetime. What she said is to let me find my own happiness, let me find my love, let me find my home, and let me find my own life.