Some people say that brothers and sisters living in the same community are so happy, they are so happy that they take off!
Some people say that rubbing rice can make you doubt life.
Relatives or distant incense!
Everyone's experience is different, and so is the perspective of approaching problems!
My mother is absolutely sober in the world, when I bought a house, I wanted to buy a community with my eldest brother, my mother disagreed, and said that I didn't want to live in the same community forever.
Growing up, I always felt that living as close to my family as possible was like me and my big brother.
My eldest brother is in my heart, he is my dearest person, and I want to be neighbors with him so that we can see each other every day, but my mother disagrees.
That day, I said to my eldest brother:"When we buy a house, we must choose the same community! "The eldest brother nodded in agreement.
Unexpectedly, my mother heard it, and she hurriedly waved her hand and said:"No, no, what are you doing when you buy so close? I don't want to live in the same neighborhood as you. "
I was a little upset in my heart and asked my mother"Why not? It's nice to live in the same neighborhood and see each other every day. "
Mom smiled and said:"Distance produces beauty, and it is not a good thing to meet every day. If you live close, you will inevitably encounter all kinds of things, and if you have a conflict, you will not see you when you look up, how embarrassing. It's better to live farther away, there are fewer opportunities to meet, and the relationship will be deeper. "After listening to my mother's words, I nodded as if I didn't understand.
Later, my father said something similar to me. He said:"Your mom doesn't want you to get too close. If you live close, there will inevitably be friction. If you have a conflict, it will not be easy to deal with it. Wouldn't it be better to keep a certain distance, to help each other when there is something, and to live their own lives when they have nothing to do? "
I think my parents must have a reason for what they said, so when I bought a house, I didn't buy the same neighborhood as my brother, but another neighborhood a few streets away, about 20 minutes away by electric car.
Occasionally, we would visit each other's homes, eat together, and help each other with anything, and the relationship has always been good.
Look at the young lady on the other side of my house, she and her brother's family live in the same neighborhood, but on different floors.
My brother's family doesn't cook every day, and the whole family goes to my sister's house to eat, and my sister doesn't go to work, so she asks her to help take care of the children.
My sister is serving my brother's family every day to eat, drink and Lazar, and is a free nanny, and my brother-in-law doesn't go home when he goes to work, and now his home has become his brother's home.
After living for a year, my sister couldn't bear it anymore, and proposed to stop serving her brother's family and refuse to give them children, and the relationship between sister and brother quickly collapsed and even deteriorated, and then she stopped contacting directly.
My sister didn't want to see her brother's family anymore, so she sold her house and went to her brother-in-law.
It was only at this time that I finally understood how wise and far-sighted my parents were!
Brothers and sisters buying a house together seem to be able to enjoy the help and warmth of a big family, but in fact, because each family is a small family, there is still a great need for boundaries.
After buying together, because parents want their children to strengthen their connections, they often do something out of bounds to make it difficult for the small family, after all, not everyone has a sense of proportion and boundaries, and conflicts will come out after a long time. And because they live closely, they don't look up and look down, but they are even more difficult to get along with.