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Looking around us, we often find that many parents fall into the same educational pattern.
After the child returns home from school, the daily three questions of parents are:
Time to eat! "Is the homework done? ”
Go to bed early! ”
This style of communication is too simplistic and crude.
Most parents don't really pay attention to their children's inner world.
In life, how to live in harmony with yourself is often a problem that parents ignore.
Over time, when a child faces frustration, stress, or emotional out-of-control.
They are often unable to cope with themselves and are reluctant to seek help from their families.
This can lead to psychological shadows and even mental illness in children.
Therefore, in family life, it is essential to teach children how to relate to themselves.
In this way, the child can achieve a state of inner balance and mental health.
The cornerstone of mental health is self-awareness
A child's ability to recognize and understand themselves is the starting point for self-confidence and the foundation of mental health.
Many psychological problems stem from a child's lack of self-awareness.
Some children are afraid to face their parents because they fail an exam, and even choose to end their lives in extreme cases.
This type of incident is frequent, especially around the time of midterm and final exams.
For adults, failing an exam may not be a big deal.
But in a child's world, they may feel like their future has been ruined.
For example, Xiuxiu, a thirteen-year-old girl from Ningxia.
She thinks that she did not do well in the exam and missed the key middle school.
Thinking of the effort and money her parents put into her, she chose to commit suicide.
While it is good to attend a key secondary school, it is not an unforgivable sin to fail to do so.
Opportunities are everywhere in life, but in the eyes of some children, they can be magnified into big things.
In contrast, people who can understand themselves correctly have a broader vision of life.
Wang Rui has served as a special translator in the United States and is also the chairman of the North Carolina branch of the U.S.-China Friendship Association.
She is also a writer who is contracted to a well-known publishing group in the United States, the United Kingdom, and Germany.
At the age of twenty-two, she joined the Chinese Writers Association and published works such as "Finding Happiness", "From Beijing to California" and "Harvard Lover".
However, her childhood was not all smooth sailing.
Because of tonsil surgery, her voice is slightly rougher than that of other children, and she is often ridiculed for singing.
This made her feel very inferior, and she didn't even want to go to kindergarten anymore.
What measures did Wang Rui's mother take?
She cites Peking Opera master Cheng Yanqiu as an example, who has a deep voice, but transforms it into a unique singing style.
Her mother encouraged her not to worry about the thickness of her voice, but to focus on intonation and practice.
So, Wang Rui regained her confidence and practiced diligently at home.
When she was in junior high school, she participated in the selection of the youth host of **People's Radio and won the praise of the judges.
Under the guidance of her mother, Wang Rui began her journey of self-awareness and acceptance.
Help children understand themselves and develop a psychological quality:
When others praise you, you know that you are still inadequate.
When others criticize you, you will confidently say that:
I'm not that bad, I have a clear sense of myself. ”
Wang Rui's experience shows us that everyone has great potential.
The root cause of psychological problems is often the child's inability to accurately understand himself and his inferiority complex is crushed.
Therefore, parents need to correctly guide their children to know and believe in themselves.
Let children have a successful experience in practice and lay a strong foundation for their mental health.
Learn to accept yourself and achieve self-reconciliation
A survey by the China Youth Research Center found that:
40% of primary and secondary school students are unable to accept their academic performance;
Nearly 20% of children are dissatisfied with their appearance.
Acceptance is a key indicator of a person's mental health.
The success of the famous movie star Sophia Loren is largely due to her courage to accept herself.
She has won the Academy Award for Best Actress and has starred in well-known films such as "Cassandra Bridge".
However, at the age of 16, when she made her first film, she was criticized by photographers for being too ugly.
Director Carlo was also skeptical about her appearance, but was eventually impressed by Sophia Loren's confidence.
"I do have a higher nose and a fuller buttocks," she said. But that's what makes me who I am, and I don't want to change it for the sake of making a film. ”
After hearing this, the director deeply agreed and decided to continue filming.
As a result, the film was a huge success, and Sophia Loren became famous in one fell swoop.
Her story teaches us that beauty lies in confidence, individuality, and nature.
Every child has their own uniqueness and potential, and the key is to know and accept themselves.
For example, even if a child is not doing well academically, they may have an aptitude in sports or **.
In the face of unsatisfactory things, we should learn to accept them.
There is no need to feel inferior due to flaws, everyone has shortcomings.
We should not blame ourselves for this.
Accept your own shortcomings and let the past turn the page.
Learn to control emotions and behaviors.
Psychological problems often stem from an inability to control one's emotions and behaviors.
To help children better understand and accept themselves, parents need to develop their ability to control their emotions and behaviors.
90 Suggestions for Parents from Judges' Moms tells such a case:
Wu Jun and Li Ming were classmates in high school, and they both had excellent grades.
A skirmish in physical education class turned into a tragedy due to emotional out-of-control.
Wu Jun blames the goalkeeper for his mistakes; Li Ming got into an argument with Wu Jun in order to defend his friend.
Afterwards, Li Ming could not calm his anger and injured Wu Jun with a knife, resulting in the death of Wu Jun and Li Ming was also sentenced to a heavy sentence.
This tragedy reflects the consequences of a lack of emotional control.
The impulses of adolescence can lead to irreversible results.
Therefore, parents must educate their children to master the ability of self-control.
The secret to mental health can be summed up in twelve words:
Know yourself, accept yourself, control yourself.
Knowing yourself is the foundation of mental health;
Only by knowing oneself can one accept oneself;
Only by accepting oneself can one control oneself.
Parents should pay special attention to developing their children's ability to control their emotions and behaviors.
Let children become the masters of their own body and mind.