I have read such a sentence: "Women are troubled for eternity, but men can be free and unexpected." ”
In any kind of relationship, women are relatively more likely to get hurt. Obviously, the weak and unintelligent side of a woman will be reflected in social interactions.
However, women in the new era cannot help but participate in social interactions, especially women in the workplace.
From a practical point of view, when a woman becomes an adult, she should know the following seven unspoken rules of social interaction, and don't be stupid and unaware of the world.
"Don't show affection in front of your girlfriends": Be a low-key person.
I've seen such a joke.
In a college dormitory, there were six women. When the five women found a boyfriend, the remaining woman hid in the corner and cried, and posted on Moments to express her pain.
Why should women be embarrassed by women", when you are very happy, don't forget that there are still leftover women by your side. If your girlfriend doesn't have a boyfriend, then you should try not to talk about your boyfriend, that is, several people eat together, and your boyfriend is around, and you should behave plainly.
There is another possibility. You always show affection, and once you break up with your boyfriend, you will be treated as a joke by everyone. How hi he used to show, and how sad he was ridiculed later.
Being a low-key person and taking the initiative to be a little lower than her girlfriend is to give her face and save face for herself.
"I don't get very close to my best friend's boyfriend and husband": I don't kiss or not.
Who knows, today's girlfriend is not tomorrow's enemy. Among the enemies, the most powerful is the "love enemy".
Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", after the divorce, was taken care of by her best friend, and her best friend's boyfriend also tried to settle her down and help find a job.
In the end, Luo Zijun and his best friend's boyfriend fell in love, which is embarrassing.
The men said, "Don't cheat your friend's wife." "Women should refer to the execution.
Even if you have a crush on your best friend's boyfriend or husband, don't say it. After a while, you also find someone you like, and naturally forget about it.
At no time should you get caught up in a "love triangle". After all, it is the most entangled emotion, harming others and oneself.
"Don't interrupt when you talk": Learn to listen.
Women like to nag, it seems to have become a rule.
There is a way, silence is gold, and opening is silver.
If you're not the protagonist and you don't have to say a few words, then take the initiative to shut up and be a quiet woman. Listening to what everyone has to say and smiling very politely is much better than boasting about it yourself.
If you think of something, don't be in a hurry to say it, maybe after a while, you will be able to hear different voices. What you have to say, perhaps, is superfluous.
A woman who talks less lives a quiet life, which is a reflection of good cultivation.
"At the dinner, learn to pay": reflect equality.
According to the convention, many parties and trips are paid for by men. If the woman is not very poor, it is better not to "take advantage of such an advantage", after all, cheap is not good; Take people with short hands and eat people with soft mouths.
Especially when looking for a partner, a woman and the other party are not in a romantic relationship, and they are just meeting and looking for a place to eat. No matter how much there is, it is best to be AA system, if you can't, you can take the initiative to pay, and there is nothing wrong with it.
Since it is to promote equality between men and women, it must be reflected in action. Even after starting a family, women have to make money to support their families, don't eat and drink at home, and dislike men for not having the ability.
Of course, women also have to pay attention to their "eating appearance", don't exaggerate, don't think that others pay, order a lot of dishes, and put on a squandering appearance. Don't take the seven aunts and eight uncles to have a meal together and add a financial burden to others.
"What the people around you like, you have to agree": take the initiative to empathize.
One of my female classmates didn't like cilantro. But every time she went to dinner, she would say things like "okay, okay".
Afterwards, the female classmate said, "There is a large group of boys who like coriander, and I can't spoil everyone's interest." ”
The rarest thing in interpersonal interactions is "empathy". In other words, you must learn to empathize, make the other party happy, and say things that are in line with the other person's psychology.
Empathy is not flattery, but understanding people just right, and then speaking appropriately and dressing appropriately. You have to understand that smiling is more reliable than a thousand dollars of cosmetics.
"When applauding, be serious": be friendly.
More and more people like to clap in a flickering way. didn't even understand the content of other people's words and achievements, and began to applaud "crackling".
Extending it in this way, you will find that many people like to praise others and say some nonsensical words, which makes people flutter.
When people interact with each other, the most important thing is goodwill. No one is allowed to "applaud" or "fool".
Carefully applaud others, your palms will be warm, and you can shake hands with others at any time to cooperate. After all, you can see the advantages of others clearly, and then you will be able to communicate smoothly, each needing.
"Don't be embarrassed if you dare to refuse male colleagues and classmates, and don't participate in dirty parties": protect yourself.
Yishu said in "Xi Bao": "To be a woman, you have to make it like a painting, don't make a piece of clothing, it is tried and tried by a man, but no one buys it, and it is difficult to sell it at a 50% discount." ”If a woman wants to get true love, she must first "love herself".
If you like to deceive people with your feelings in order to get the benefits you want, then you can easily be deceived by others. After all, no one is stupid and not a vegetarian.
Dare to be a serious person and refuse irrational socialization. Even if you go to a social occasion, don't talk about buddy righteousness, and try to drink and sing as little as possible. I'd rather lose face than exhaust my feelings and ruin my body for the sake of face.
Writer Bi Shumin said: "Countless women, when they are generous and pour out their love to the world, they don't love one person too much - that is themselves." Women, give yourself a little time and space to enjoy. ”A good woman always finds a balance between sensuality and rationality. Even if you walk into the maze, you can calm down and not get lost.
Master some social rules, or establish your own social attitude, women will be attractive when they have personality.
Women are like flowers, preferably roses with thorns.