In the labyrinth of love, everyone can lose their way, and we are often willing to give everything for the sake of our loved ones. But sometimes, not all of the efforts are meaningful. Most of the time, we are doing meaningless giving, and it is this unreserved giving that has become the best killer in the relationship. Especially women, when facing love, are always easy to lose themselves, and they want to pour everything they have into their lover. This approach often makes giving cheaper and cheaper, and love loses its original appearance. Therefore, women must remember that in love, even if they love someone deeply, they should not give too much. 
It's easy to lose yourself by giving too muchWhen a person gives too much in a relationship, it is easy to lose themselves invisibly. When you spend all your time with the other person, start revolving around the other person, put the other person's needs and preferences ahead of your own, and even sacrifice your own personal growth and happiness to cater to the other person, you start to lose yourself. When a person begins to lose himself, his heart will naturally become more and more dissatisfied and lost, and his requirements for feelings will become higher and higher, and resentment and dissatisfaction will slowly arise. In any case, it should be remembered that love should be about the mutual attraction and growth of two independent individuals, not the sacrifice and dependence of one on the other. Keeping oneself is the most valuable lesson in love. Not only does it keep a person attractive and attractive in love, but it also ensures that a person has enough say and choice in the relationship. Even if you love someone again, you must remember to love yourself first, maintain your independence and integrity, and only then can you have the ability and spare energy to love others. 
Over-giving can put pressure on the other personWe often say that love is selfless, but excessive selflessness often makes the other person feel burdened. When a person gives too much for the other person, beyond what the other person can bear or give back, this love can become a kind of pressure that makes the other person feel suffocated and want to escape. No one wants to be burdened with a heavy sense of debt in a relationship, and it's easy to feel that way from over-giving. And, once one gets used to another person's over-giving, those givings become taken for granted and even begin to turn a blind eye. Excessive giving will not be rewarded as it should be, and will only make your efforts cheap and not cherished. 
Giving too much can upset the balance of the relationshipAny relationship needs to maintain a dynamic equilibrium. In love, this balance is reflected in the giving and gaining of both parties. When a person gives too much, it upsets this balance and makes the relationship unstable. People who overgive tend to be emotionally vulnerable, while those who are forced to accept give are in a high position due to guilt or insecurity. If this imbalance continues, it will only distort the psychology and emotions of both parties. Those who give will feel aggrieved and dissatisfied because they don't get a response, and those who receive will feel tired and want to escape because they can't bear the excessive expectations and giving. Love requires the joint dedication and mutual support of both parties, rather than the unconditional dedication of one party. Only in this way can the relationship be balanced and the love will last for a long time. Over-giving in love is not a good thing, so women must remember that no matter how much they love someone, they must also learn to control their degree of giving. Of course, this is not to say that in love you should not give or become selfish. Giving is an essential part of love, but the key is to learn to give wisely and in moderation. Only in this way can you enjoy the sweetness and happiness brought by love, while also maintaining your dignity and worth. Emotion