The cause of the matter is:
There is such a question on the Internet that has attracted everyone's attention: "Is it wrong for my daughter to drink 15 yuan milk tea that I say she loves vanity?" ”
I thought my mother was asking a question, but after carefully reading the description of the question, it turned out that it was like this:
The question was asked by the daughter herself, she went out with her mother, and her daughter asked her mother to take her to buy tea if she wanted to drink tea, but when her daughter ordered a cup of milk tea, her mother saw ** and said, "Don't you know how to save some money?" 15 bucks! Why is your vanity so strong. ”
In the mother's opinion, it is really luxurious for her daughter to drink 15 yuan a cup of milk tea, and then she said a lot to her daughter Balabala.
The daughter said: "My parents have been separated for a long time, and my father's life is relatively wealthy, so my consumption concept is the same as his, and my mother's salary is 10,000 yuan, but she is very frugal." ”
Due to the bad relationship between her parents and the separation of the two places, she rarely sees her mother, but she is really happy to come to her mother's place to play this time.
didn't want to move, my mother was angry with herself because of a cup of 15 yuan milk tea, and scolded her for being "greedy for vanity".
Some netizens sarcastically said: "Yes, yes, yes, I just love vanity, 15 yuan milk tea is already relatively cheap milk tea, wouldn't it cost these people to drink twenty or thirty." ”
Some people also agreed: "I drink milk tea for 20 yuan, and my parents don't say anything, so let me drink less." ”
Why is the first reaction not that drinking milk tea is unhealthy, but vanity? ”
Yes, this is the crux of the matter, you can say expensive, you can say unhealthy, you can say drink less or something, why say vanity?
Has the standard of "vanity" been lowered so low now? In the past, it was defined that girls loved vanity: brand-name bags and necklaces were not the same every day, and they often went shopping to buy some luxury goods.
Now define a girl's love for vanity: a cup of milk tea for 15 yuan.
Maybe my mother is used to being thrifty, and she doesn't usually consume milk tea, so when she sees the price of 15 yuan for a cup of milk tea, she breaks the defense.
If you don't have money, you can tell your child to be frugal or something, but it really shouldn't be to blurt out that your daughter is "greedy for vanity".
However, the girl also said after reading the answers of netizens that she actually didn't blame her mother very much.
In reality, many parents are very strict with their children's consumption, and families who lack money can understand, but it is clear that the family is not very difficult, but they will still unconsciously choose to pick the door of their children.
It will even make children have a "sense of shame in spending money", and "nail the child to the pillar of shame" from an early age.
This reminds me of something like this that happened in March last year
The parents refused to buy 200 yuan of shoes, and the 28-year-old daughter broke down and fell to her knees crying."
This ** makes people feel suffocated, her daughter is 28 years old, but all her work income is controlled by her parents.
Buy a 200 yuan shoe, parents have to intervene, what kind of family is this?
What age is 28 years old, an adult who has long been independent of society, and is still forcibly restrained by his parents, what kind of talents can such a family cultivate?
In the end, the shoes became a straw that broke the camel's back, and the girl cried heartbreakingly in the **: "Let you hold all my income, are my feet so cheap?" 200 yuan shoes are not worth wearing? ”
Then kneeling on the ground, you can feel the despair of the girl through the screen, this kind of parent is actually very scary.
It is appropriate to be filial to your parents when you become an adult, but at the same time, you must also leave enough money for yourself to live on and hold the initiative in your own hands.
Otherwise, every step in the future will be passive, parents are a double-edged sword, good parents are help, light, and salvation, otherwise it will make you painful, depressed, and even need to use a lifetime to ** the real knife, the knife to punish the heart.
Therefore, we must learn to distribute money reasonably, be filial in moderation, please ourselves, and live a good life.
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