Many original partners have asked me, how to let the cheating man take the initiative to return and leave the third party?
We all know in our hearts that cheating may be just a temporary novelty and curiosity they seek, and he may be tired of going home after a long time, but he is also worried that his man is really caught in this extramarital affair, and he has to divorce and make the family jump.
So in the game of extramarital affairs,Under what circumstances will a man voluntarily give up a third party?
01 Dumped by a third party
@青山流水, 36 years old, sales
I have been married for almost 10 years, and my wife and I have a lovely daughter, parents love each other, children are smart, and we seem to outsiders to be a happy family. But who knew that 5 years ago, I was almost ready to leave the house and divorce my wife.
Lili and I met at a party, and as the company's sales champion, the year-end entertainment is inevitable. And Lili happened to be a small clerk of the other party's customer, watching her being coaxed to drink by a group of big men in the company, her face was flushed, and her consciousness was not very clear.
Thinking that she was a girl, after I said a few words for her, everyone stopped embarrassing her. When it was over, Lili thanked me with a crimson face, and I nodded and didn't pay much attention to it.
Later, she jumped to our unit, and the leader asked me to take her with meAt first, I just treated my subordinates with that kind of attitude towards her. I felt that she was stupid, too confused to do things, and complained to my wife many times.
Maybe it was because she wasn't careful, I was forced to work a lot of overtime. Probably because of those late nights of overtimeAn energetic young man in his early 30s, and a young, beautiful and well-shaped girl, with the blessing of hormones, we have a relationship.
In the following work, we have become more and more tacit, not only physically, but also mentally.
At first, I wanted to hide it from my wife, and after my relationship with her was stable, I filed for divorce, left the house, and gave Lili a name.
I told Lili to let her give me a year, and I would give her a big wedding. But before 1 year, I saw a bed photo of her and my leader in the hotel on her mobile phone.
When I questioned her afterwards, she said disapprovinglyAnyway, they are all juniors, why not give them a richer and more powerful one?
At that moment, I felt that her naivety and ignorance, cute and squeamish were all pretended, just to deceive, so as to get more benefits for herselfI hate myself even more for not being able to control my lower body and not knowing people clearly.
After that, I changed companies, cut off contact with her, and turned the guilt of my wife into care and love for her, which was better for her. The wife didn't know about it from the beginning to the end, and it's good that she didn't.
02 When one's own interests are harmed
@ Scissorhands, 45 years old, engineering boss
My wife and I worked hard to make a fortune together, maybe we suffered a lot when we were young and were looked down upon by many people, so now that we have a little money, I want to raise a junior to satisfy my vanity.
My wife also knows these things, but she has always turned a blind eye, as long as I don't play too much, she won't care.
Maybe I'm tired of playing, but I can't get down to seeing those young and beautiful girls who are about the same age as my daughter, I always feel very beastly.
By chance, I met my first love, Qinqin. Her husband went to prison for financial fraud, and in order to support her children, she set up a barbecue sausage stall in the night market.
At first, I wanted to humiliate her, who made her think I was poor and turned around to marry a big boss, but I still couldn't bear it, so I gave her some money and asked her to follow me.
After being with Qinqin for a long time, I even thought that it would be nice if we were together. She will cook my favorite Sichuan food, will help me iron my clothes for the next day, and will apply rheumatism plasters to me in advance on rainy days.
Before I was ready to confess to my wife, she came to me. She knew me too well to guess the minds of my unseen people.
So between the divorce and the abandonment of the qinqin,I chose the former.
I clearly know that I just regret what I used to beAnd it's because I'm rich that she's good to me, and if I don't have money, she probably won't look down on meLater, his wife gave her enough money to support her children after college, and let her go to another city.
03 The novelty of a third party fades
@灵魂知己, 42 years old, civil servant
My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years, from nothing before to nothing to say now, from the hot love period of marriage to the cold period now.
So when I met the enthusiastic Qingqing, I felt that the whole person came back to life, just like a pool of stagnant water meets a living spring and recovers.
So when my wife found out, I didn't flinch and said that she let me know what love is like, and I must live for myself once in this life.
My wife persuaded me to no avail, so I had no choice but to go back to my parents' house with the children alone.
So Qingqing and I started living together, and it was still very sweet at first. will prepare every meal for her carefully, will toss until midnight every day, feed each other before sleeping, and will pick her up when she gets off work.
But the passion receded much faster than I thought. After a long time, I found that she was a little lazy to eat, and she didn't clean up the mess at home, and she spent a lot of money, and after communicating again and again, we started a cold war.
In the end, we had a big fight when I couldn't take it anymore, and she said as she packed up her things and leftPeople are not perfect, and they want their wives to be diligent and thrifty, and they want their wives to be as beautiful as flowers, are you worthy?
After that, I begged my wife to come back, and promised not to do this kind of thing again, and signed a letter of guarantee. To this day, she sometimes makes fun of me.
04 Promote yourself so that men don't dare to leave easily
The biggest difference between men and women is:
Women are sensual creatures, born for love; And men are more interested in profits.
Therefore, when the third party cannot bring benefits to the man, either career, or spiritual, or even lose his own interests because of being with a third party, the man will leave mercilessly.
Therefore, instead of thinking about how to please a man and let him return to the family, it is better to work hard to improve himself, only if you are strong enough and your own value is high enough, he will not dare to leave easily, and after weighing the pros and cons, he will naturally choose to give up the third party.
Women who truly love themselves will not please anyone, nor will they be the foil in anyone's life, they are the protagonists of their own lives, they can give themselves a sense of security and live a full life.
They take themselves seriously enough to never bother to ask for mercy from others. Because of this, they can hold their heads high and leave their most precious feelings to the most worthy people.
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