At the turn of 2023 and 2024, my family experienced the grief of the death of a loved one twice. Grandma passed away quietly in May in the spring, and Grandpa failed to survive the cold in January. The successive deaths of the two elderly people made me think deeply about the quality of their lives in their later years.
Grandma's death was relatively sudden, and her physical condition had always been better than that of her grandfather. Grandpa's body has long been eroded by a variety of chronic diseases, and although we hope that he can survive the cold winter, he still leaves us in our expectations.
Financially and materially, the life of grandparents can be said to be abundant. They have a deposit of nearly 500,000 yuan and a fixed monthly pension. The four children are very filial, and they will give them extra pocket money during the New Year's holidays. However, their later years do not seem to be as happy as we think.
First of allNothing to do。After moving into the city, they lost their land and their old way of life. Due to physical reasons and age limitations, Grandpa can no longer do his previous job. There seems to be nothing to do but eat and drink every day. They felt very uncomfortable with such a life, and their physical and mental state deteriorated rapidly.
The second is the individualPersonality reasons。Grandpa was a little arrogant and reluctant to communicate with other elderly people in the village. After entering the city, it was even more difficult for him to establish a new social circle, and he became more lonely and silent. This personality gap also affects their communication with their children.
However, the more important reason is comparisonStiff intergenerational relationships。Children are busy with work and life, and have little time to spend with the elderly. Even if I have time, I don't know how to communicate with the elderly and meet their emotional needs. This intergenerational divide makes it difficult for grandparents to derive emotional satisfaction from their children.
In response to these problems, I think we should start to solve them from the following aspects:
The first is to encourage the elderly to participate in social activitiesto nurture their hobbies. You can guide them to participate in senior universities, community activities, etc., so that they have something to do and someone to communicate.
The second is to strengthen intergenerational communicationto establish a harmonious family relationship. Children should be more concerned about the lives of the elderly and understand their needs and ideas. Family gatherings can be held regularly to enhance mutual understanding and affection.
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The third is to provide professional psychological supportto help the elderly adjust their mentality. For the elderly who have a tendency to depression like grandpa, you can seek the help of a professional psychological counselor for psychological counseling and **.
In short, the happiness of the elderly depends not only on the quality of material conditions, but also on whether their spiritual and emotional needs are met. We should start from many aspects to create a happy and harmonious living environment for the elderly.