01 Have a good time.
There are many things that make us struggle in this life.
Sometimes it's hard to get by, and sometimes it's easy.
Living comfortably does not mean that you have no worries about food and clothing or no hardship.
If a person wants to live comfortably in this life, the most important thing is to convince his heart.
Tangled things can be handled calmly, and troubled things can be dissipated.
Let's not worry too much about other people, and worry more about our own affairs.
When we feel troubled, we always want to escape.
But it is useless to escape, we should constantly let ourselves learn to face our troubles.
A comfortable life is not busy for fame and fortune, nor is it gloomy for the distance that cannot be reached.
A comfortable life is when we know how to create space for ourselves to be free.
No one deserves us to be sad for them all day. What happened was a small thing.
Even if the impact on you was particularly strong at the time, in fact, after a while, it was just a floating cloud.
There are so many things in life that can be entangled. Entanglement is actually rooted in our inner inability to let go.
There are always some people in life who often make themselves miserable for some small things.
How can such a person be at ease?
In fact, self-esteem is not looking outward, but more should be repeated to ask one's own heart.
02 Divert attention.
How can there be times in life when we don't encounter strong winds and waves, and how should we deal with ourselves when we encounter these difficulties and obstacles?
Do you choose to continue to wallow in your pain and keep yourself awake all night, or do you want to get drunk?
In fact, all these things are our own troubles.
We always intensify our suffering, take what we care about in our hearts one step further.
For example, in a relationship, we can't guarantee that we will never be separated from each other.
When it comes time to truly separate, no matter how much we don't do it, the result is doomed to failure.
Since we can't keep others, it's hard for us to control our emotions.
So why don't we go and find something that interests us?
Take your attention off the pain.
Look for things that interest us, and now we finally have time to relax.
I usually say that I am very busy at work, or that I have too many tasks, so I don't have time to go out.
Now we finally have a time where we can convince ourselves to get out and about and find something we love.
Life is so short, why should we always put our emotions in a miserable situation?
Whoever wants to leave let him go, what we need to care about is our own feelings.
When we're in pain, when we're sad, we try to focus ourselves on something else.
Sometimes it's better to spend more time sad than to lie in bed and sleep.
Sometimes it's better to get drunk than to do something you like.
Real forgetting, not temporary forgetting. But when we think about it again, we feel that it is not worth mentioning at all.
03Learn to make trade-offs.
People will always lose a lot of things in this life, some of these lost things can be gained by working hard again, but some of them can never be regained.
What we have lost, even if we have some regrets.
But in the process of this loss, we also gain something.
When we are in a state of chatter, in a state of never-ending noise, we choose to leave.
Sometimes we always regret in our hearts, why can't we be more tolerant?
But after a while, we finally convinced ourselves that his departure was not caused by us.
If he has left our world, why should we leave ourselves alone?
Life is always like this, we should learn to let go if we lose it, there is nothing to regret.
Whether for ourselves or for others, since what has happened, we let it be a thing of the past.
04Learn to accept.
Everything in this world is so complicated, how can we learn to accept it in a targeted manner?
Learning to accept is not easy.
When we hate someone, we feel that no matter what he does, it is wrong.
Maybe this person has said something that hurts us, or maybe he has done something that makes us feel unpleasant. But then he realized that what he had done hurt you.
So he chooses to make up for you in other ways, but your heart is always unwilling to accept him.
We always think that the hurt we have suffered, the pain is not worth forgiving him at all.
In fact, the more people we hate, the less space we have in our hearts.
With so many boredom in our hearts, how can we make ourselves happy?
Nasty people treat him as a thing of the past, and don't remember him in our hearts.
Because we don't have a lot of space, there are so many things worth recording.
So it's better to let go of these pains and start and learn to accept things that are more worthy of your own happiness.