At present, parents attach great importance to the education of their children, and many parents learn various family education methods everywhere in order to prevent their children from "falling at the starting line", but do not seriously study their children, and sometimes the effect is counterproductive. 
Some overly utilitarian views on family education have aggravated parents' anxiety and made many parents haggard about their children's education, so I think the first thing we need to do is to calm down and not follow the clouds. Keep in mind that the key point of accompanying children is to "teach children according to their aptitude", which should be something that family education has to consider.
1. The premise of accompanying children is to truly understand them
To understand children, we must first enter the child's heart and gain the trust of the child through equal and repeated communication with the child, rather than blindly using ineffective and even counterproductive "urging and compulsive companionship".
1. Understand your child's thoughts
Knowing what the child thinks, why he thinks like this, his difficulties are in the **, and what he wants to say to his parents is the premise for us to let ourselves be educated. Many times, children, like parents, need us to be a listener and help them in listening.
2. Understand the child's personality
Some children are chronic, but children with chronic children may be more focused on thinking, and if you repeatedly urge them, they will doubt their concentration on learning and become careless.
Some children are lively and active, the purpose of his hurried homework is to play, if parents do not guide their children to think quietly and take the initiative to check, in the long run, children will also take "speed" as the goal of learning, and can not develop the habit of concentration.
3. Understand your child's interests
When the child is very young, if he has no "specialty" or no interest in painting, then the result of compulsion can only be that the child has less and less confidence in himself and becomes more and more disgusted with his parents. It is a wise practice to start with hobbies that are interesting to children and have no harm, and cultivate interests into specialties. Interest is the best teacher. This phrase never goes out of style.
2. Understand your child's shortcomings or deficiencies
Everyone may have some flaws, and it is like an apple that has been gently bitten by God, leaving a unique mark. Wayward children are unlikely to obey their parents' demands. Careless children often complete tasks in one go and make mistakes. For a child with poor numeracy skills, you can only struggle if you ask him to complete a dozen math problems quickly.
Understanding children's shortcomings can make us more aware of the subjective and objective reasons for children's problems, and we will not let our children lose confidence because of comparison with other children, nor will we randomly reprimand and punish children because of wrong analysis.
2. Effective ways to accompany your child
1. Change yourself first
Parents are their children's first and best teachers. This sentence is familiar to everyone, and to accompany children, you should first start by changing yourself.
Your kindness, diligence, integrity ......Good family style; Your habits and cultivation of cherishing time, like reading, and like art are all infecting your children, and the edification of a good family environment is an important factor in a child's success.
Children need role models, and sometimes, parents are the best role models.
2. Take care of children's growth with companionship
(1) Accompany children to develop good habits
The formation of good habits is a long-term process that needs to be facilitated by long-term companionship. For bad habits, parents should carefully analyze the reasons, and if it is the parents' own reasons, parents should correct them in time; If it is the child's own fault, parents should first let the child understand the importance of good habits, and secondly, in the process of cultivating good habits, perseverance and continuous correction, not three days of fishing, two days of drying nets. We must understand and respect our children, but we must not let them go, and these two points are not contradictory.
(2) Exercise more with your child
If you want to be a healthy person, if you want to have more fun in life, then you should engage in sports - Kelov. Sports are not only physical strengthening, but also children's will and brain. Accompany your child to exercise more, insist on it every day, and have a plan to combine running, playing ball and other sports in an orderly manner, so that your child's exercise can be persistent.
(3) Work more with your children
For the little one, labor is not only a skill of life, nor is it merely a moral education, but also a vast and astonishingly rich world of ideas.
Working with children will first cultivate children's sense of gratitude. In the process of parents guiding their children to participate in labor, children can truly understand the difficulties of their parents and let them become more diligent in gratitude.
Working with children can effectively develop children's intelligence. In labor, children's hands and brains are combined, knowledge is applied in practice, and children's active thinking is promoted, which is very helpful for intellectual development.
Working with children can cultivate children's self-care skills. The example of college students, even "child prodigy" college students, who are unable to take care of themselves in their own lives, is thought-provoking. Allowing children to take the initiative to participate in labor and develop a good habit of doing their own things is the key to laying the foundation for their independent life in the future.
(4) Accompany children into society
Parents can guide their children to visit relatives and friends, participate in social practice, and learn the moral character of others and the way of doing things. Use the power of example to educate children to know honor and disgrace, know right and wrong, take the initiative to strengthen moral cultivation, and improve all aspects of ability.
If family education is a tree, then social education is a forest, so that children can see more and more, and let children absorb more nutrients for growth.
(5) Read more with your child
To accompany your child to read, you must first choose a good list of books for your child. Parents can choose the right books for their children according to the recommendations of teachers and experts, combined with their children's interests, and can also choose the books that children love to read and are beneficial according to their children's preferences, so that reading can become a necessary homework for children's holidays, weekends and every day, and then become a good habit.
Accompany your child to read, and secondly, ensure your child's reading time. Parents should calm down to encourage, guide, and sometimes need a little compulsion, so that children have 1 hour or more of reading time a day.
To accompany your child to read, you should be good at giving your child reading guidance. While ensuring the reading list and reading time, parents can use the methods of asking, looking, writing, and taking a test to promote children's reading depth and internalization.
Parents can also read beautiful sentences with their children, share each other's feelings, tell each other stories, evaluate each other, let parents demonstrate, and guide children into the time of books.
Finally, often take your child into the library and reading room, where you will give your child a different reading experience.
(6) Accompany children into nature
Sukhomlinsky pointed out that the child should go to the first source of knowledge, the natural world, and the images and images of the world around him should be more vividly imprinted into his consciousness.
First of all, spending time with your child in nature can enhance your relationship. In enjoying the beautiful scenery and playing together with the child, the child's mind can be relaxed, and this relaxed environment will make it easier for the child to confide in his grateful parents and let each other have more emotional identity.
Secondly, spending time with children in nature can effectively cultivate their observation and thinking skills. Before it was confirmed by practice, most of the words and sentences learned in books and the knowledge related to natural science were sleeping in children's brains, but when it came to nature, children's visual and auditory senses were stimulated, and what they learned in textbooks was restored at once. His interest prompted him to make more observations and to think about the causes of these phenomena. This pleasant emotion naturally promotes observation, thinking, and imagination.
Again, be close to your childNature cultivates children's virtues and aesthetic abilities. In the close to nature, children really feel the experience of growing up animals and plants, the hard-won life and the relationship between animals and humans, they will unconsciously develop virtues such as respect, kindness to life, strong life, harmony and friendship.
At the same time, all the beauty of nature will naturally improve children's aesthetic ability, and this improvement is by no means obtained by simply relying on book learning.
Accompanying children, we really can't rush for quick success, listen to all kinds of dazzling "slogans" all day long, ignore the understanding of children, and put ourselves and children in the exhaustion of catching up with fashion.
Every child is different, and only by teaching them according to their aptitude, love and patience can they lay a more comprehensive and solid foundation for a seedling to thrive.